Sunday 18th May

[retteacher]

Sunday 18th May

Janice: I had all of your rules as well. Gosh! The obssessive thinking! It was almost as addictive as the actual drinking. The planning, the drinking alone, the disposal of bottles...all of it. Total insanity for me.

Mohun: I know when I have my g-kids (whether it's for an overnight or an afternoon or any time), it's such a breath of fresh air for my daughter & SIL. They talk (unfettered) & probably have a romantic interlude. Our g-kids are young enough (3 & 4) that they are absolutely thrilled to be able to spend time w/g-ma & g-pa. I've heard from other g-parents that later on their friends take center stage.

Mary

[Hannah]

Sunday 18th May

Hi Guys – Hope you all are having a good Sunday. Sounds like most of you are doing well. Cindi, Mary, and Janice – I find your honesty and wisdom very inspiring to me. I look back over my own almost year here, and see how much I’ve grown. And, Flyin’, one of the things that I have learned about myself, is that I am like these three fine ladies – I cannot moderate. For me, once I took the target out of the sights, my life got a lot easier. I no longer have to worry, or make rules to try to control my drinking. I just don’t drink. Last year I went 60+ days, and then caved during a family bereavement. It wasn’t that I wanted a drink, it was that they were being pressed on me (you see, no one else knew that I “wasn’t drinking”) – and after artfully pouring drinks down the sink for several days, I caved and took a sip – and then decided I could “mod”, and made a set of rules for myself, which in the long run turned out to be nothing but a major stress – and which went south at regular intervals.

Now I am just not drinking, period. Not that it has happened yet, but if someone presses a drink on me, I will just say no. And I feel remarkably strong. I have found I like AF beer (even though I was never a beer drinker), and the occasional glass of AF wine. And if those aren’t available, plain old soda pop, tonic and lime, or sparkling water do just fine.

I know this time that I can’t take that first drink. Ever. And I am okay with that. I hope you find the answer that is right for you, just want you to be aware that mods can be a slippery slope – be careful.

Not counting days, but ~ 3 weeks AF.

Have a good day, all!

[Determinator]

Sunday 18th May

Happy Sunday Abaroonies!

Beck this quote from you is too funny: I asked that the kids not complain about each other to me for one day. 15 seconds later my 13 year old said "this is hard"

hahahahaha!!!!

well, Flying you are very wise to be considering the "what now" question. how do you feel in a life without the cloud of alcohol? is it worth it? does a cold beer sound good because it tastes so amazing? there are a lot of tasty treat on this planet just food for thought. My first AF run in 2007 I went for 93 days then decided to Mod. I modded for one night successfully, then immediately blew it from there and ended up back in that horrible dark place in a short week's time.

So glad the UK meet went well!!

Hopefully Dx and I can meet up with anyone available in Seattle on Saturday the 31st. hint hint!!! we will be taking the day to cruise around Seattle relaxing after our cruise. hahahaha!

be well my friends......

[4theboyz]

Sunday 18th May

Good Day Abbers!!

A bit late in getting on board here but I am just jazzed at how positive everyone is and all the great efforts to be AF! I wrote about my own hairy adventure in my story but it is just awesome to see how MWO really can make a difference in how we get through the tough times. Big hugs all around.

On my way, you may think you blew it after 50 days, but I can so relate to your experience and IMO you haven't blown it 'cause you are still here doing the MWO program and plus I bet you learned a little something from the experience as well. I say that is a major little victory!

Enjoy a great AF day everyone!

[vinophile]

Sunday 18th May

A very late weekend check-in!!
I didn't find a minute to sign on yesterday and I really missed being here. It sound like many of us were able to stand strong. From a (not)drinking point of view I am always so happy to see Monday come rolling around. Seems like the early part of the week is much easier than the weekend. I have to remain vigilant however as I have slipped on a Monday.

I had to have a talk to my 21 year old son as he's home from college and it's obvious that he drinks when he goes out at night with his friends. They usually have a designated driver but, I say "usually" and we know,God bless Bear, that it only takes once. I had to explain how I was worried as my family does have issues with alcohol. Of course, he gave me the "oh, don't worry Mom, I don't drink that much" but I shall remain vigilant
Of course, I can't lecture in this way holding a glass of wine in my hand either so I'm hoping my abstinence will be helped. As they say "people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones" I found the conversation quite difficult to have. I know I will have to have several such conversations during the summer and they will be much easier to initiate if I'm not drinking.

I look foward to seeing you all tomorrow. Have a peaceful Sunday night.

Janet

[Determinator]

Sunday 18th May

Janet, good for you for being a good Mom even though it's a hard subject. XXXX
the world needs more good moms!