mon 5 oct

[bear73]

Good morning all, another drinking dream last night!
It's not stressing me now though - just my subconscious sorting through stuff.
And my conscious I guess too - thought a few times I coudl 'just have one' - if I could I wouldn't have stopped in the first place!Plus my new anti depressant says not to drink AT ALL.

Session at gym planned for today - just began roller derby - loving it - but really need to strengthen legs up/increase speed.

Day off so all is good here, meeting a friend for lunch and friends for dinner - great!
Seven weeks and 2 days here now - the support here is amazing - I need to come back more regularly - especially at the moment.

[1967]

mon 5 oct

oh my gosh Roller Derby? That sounds like a blast!
I started dance for the same reason, and the gym gets boring after a while, variety is the spice of life!
I did fine last night.
Keeping checking in, I agree this is a fantastic site. Helps SO much!

[Guitarista]

mon 5 oct

Well done on your af time, Bear. I had a drinking dream the other night too. I was having that silly old chestnut of a dilemmna. 'Can i moderate?' I have these dreams only occassionally, and they're so bloody real, but it's a great relief to wake up and find i'm still a sober, and consequently happy chappy!

Best wishes friend, and keep it up!

[Doggygirl]

mon 5 oct

Happy Monday and Bear, thanks for kicking us off today! :yougo: on your sober time which is really starting to rack up! A hearty :yougo: to you too 1967 on your good progress! Hello also to you Guitarista and everyone from yesterday and everyone who is yet to come today! Whew - hopefully that covers all bases!

Drinking dreams & thoughts of "just one" and "maybe I can moderate my drinking" - what an excellent topic. Like a few others mentioned yesterday, I had very intense smoking dreams for awhile after I quit that, but less frequent and intense drinking dreams. But they are all disturbing at some level! With AL, I have struggled mightily with the conscious thoughts about "just one" and "maybe I can moderate."

For me it was helpful to realize through reading post after post here, and then also reading stories in the Big Book that were written decades ago that this is something nearly every alkie goes through. At first I thought it was "just me" which made these thoughts VERY convincing. (and led to my relapse in 2007) The key for me is to always stop that thinking with the "counter-fact" that it's just my addiction wanting a fix, and nothing more than that. Lies lies lies. For me, so much of my drinking problem was due to things in my mind, and part of the solution lies there as well. "I don't have a drinking problem. I have a thinking problem." That oft used quote applies to me, that's for sure!

Well, I had a busy weekend on my own, but also due to the new addition to our lives - Mr. Doggy's new Schutzhund prospect Cain't(HaveAnotherDog) oops I mean Cooper. aka Cooper the Pooper.



God made puppies SO cute it's really hard to stay mad at them even when they bite your pants legs and pee on your shoes. Well, in our case that would be Mr. Doggy's pants legs and shoes because this is his sport dog and therefore he is in charge of all potty training and other puppy training matters. Staying calm and working through this without fighting has paid huge dividends. The puppy was coming anyway. So by remaining calm and supportive, I now get to sit back and take pictures and let him lick my face and stuff. And leave the yucky stuff to Mr. D. Life is good.

Strength and hope to all for this AF Monday.

DG

[Mstall]

mon 5 oct

Good morning Abbers!

I'm feeling under the weather, have been since Saturday afternoon, but wanted to stop by and thank all of you Abbers for helping me (whether you knew it or not) to get to 60 days!!

and also thank you for the encouraging posts about AA. I made it to my first meeting Saturday morning and will tell you about when i feel better. But suffice to say, i felt so good when i left that meeting. Like i had done something good for myself, a little lighter in step.

:thanks:

[Lavande]

mon 5 oct

Good morning Abbers!

bear & 1967, congrats, you are both doing great

Hi to Guitarista, DG & Mstall - all sounding quite positive & moving forward!
Mstall, hope you are feeling better very soon.
DG, the pup is adorable. I know it is hard to stay mad at them. They are so much like kids, just growing & learning

Have to get some work done this morning, my grandson will be here for the afternoon. Watching a 10 month old requires my FULL attention

Wishing everyone a great, AF Monday!
Lav

[greeneyes]

mon 5 oct

Morning abbers!

Darn I wish I got crock pot ingredients yesterday. Rain rain rain. OH Maybe I can do spagheti!

[LVT25]

mon 5 oct

Hello friends!

And congrats Mstall on 60 days!! I hope you feel better real soon!

It is cold and rainy here also. A good morning to stay in and can tomatoes.

I was in Denver over the weekend with a friend that has a drinking history similar to mine even though she is younger. She (and her husband) quit over a year ago. So, we had some good conversations about AL and codependency. The Race for the Cure was awesome! It is such a cool experience, it is hard to describe. It makes me sad to see so many t-shirts on people walking in memory of someone. Hopefully, one day there will be no more cancer!

Hubby took kids to Denver as well, for the Broncos vs Cowboys football game. The tickets they thought they had didn't happen (more than once), so they decided to try to buy some at the stadium. A couple approached them with 2 tickets--so they took my boys in, sat with them, watched over them and bought them food. Total strangers. They wouldn't take any money for their tickets either. My kids were on cloud 9 and it is so nice to be reminded that there are still a lot of kind and generous people out there. I wish I knew who they were so I could at least thank them.
Meanwhile, hubby got to wait outside and be entertained by the drunks outside the stadium. :H

I hope you all know I'm pulling for ya!!:h

(cute puppy DG!!)

[Marshy]

mon 5 oct

Hello abberdabbers,

MsTall - congrats on 60 days!

Lav - ever since Det mentioned your avatar winks, I find myself staring at it now until it does. :H

DG - very cute!

Wet and chilly here. I'm playing netball tonight and it's an outdoor court. Don't fancy sploshing about in puddles! It's all I can do to run around for 40 mins without collapsing without getting soaked too. Hey ho. Looking forward to getting home after that and having a hot bath and eating stew

[Determinator]

mon 5 oct

Happy hangover-free Monday ABerooooooos!!

oh DG, Cooper-pooper is so darling!

last week it was in the 90's. and yesterday we had snow here! and this morning it's freezing fog. so much for autumn? oh well. With a steady hand and a semi-functional brain I'm ready for anything!

be well friends

[AAthlete]

mon 5 oct

Happy Monday to all and LVT25 - I love the story about the football game!

So, here is an interesting little story... For work we dress business-casual and I've always worn cuffed pants. It's been harder and harder to find them right around me, but I've always been able to count on Eddie Bauer to help me out (either online or in the store). So this weekend I'm looking on their website, and for their dress khakis with cuffs you can get a 34" waist with a 34" inseam, but I'm 6'3" so I need a 35" inseam. So, I switch to the 'Long Seam' sizing, but it turns out the smallest waist you can get is a 36." So I email them and they (essentially) say sorry, but we can't help you.. I'm honestly not sure what to do right now! :egad:

Course, I can use this as a lesson. In the old days, I would have been ticked off and this would have been a perfect excuse to have a drink. Now at least I can laugh about it and realize this isn't necessarily a bad problem to have! :H

[peacenik]

mon 5 oct

i think the answer to your dilemma is cheesecake...

[greeneyes]

mon 5 oct

right on peacenick.. fatten up boyfriend. ride the bike slower :H

Or try ll,bean

[Emmy]

mon 5 oct

Good AF Monday to Everyone ,

I'm Emmy , sorta new here , I'm learning to navigate around , I promise to remember everyones name real soon I had a good weekend , tried to keep busy , but still think about drinking way to much , its almost like because I know I can't have it, all i do is read and think about it.. anyway., hopefully this phase will pass , If I quit smoking , i can do this !
Wishing you all a wonderful week.. I'm so happy I found this site , you ALL have helped me so much :thanks:........:h Em

[peacenik]

mon 5 oct

hi emmy! those thoughts are just that, only thoughts. to imagine we can go from full on drinkers to content abstainers in a few days without having any thoughts of drink, is probably not realistic, so hang in there...it will pass!

cold rainy and dark here today...good day to make split pea soup and cuddle up with a good book!

have a pleasant day all who have already been and those to come!

:h