Weekly AA Thread 8/30-9-5

[papmom3]

Weekly AA Thread 8/30-9-5



Here you go Rebirth!! I know it's not the same as the real one but just wanted you to feel special. Congratulations!!
:l

[Doggygirl]

Weekly AA Thread 8/30-9-5

rebirth - CONGRATULATIONS on 3 MONTHS!!! :yougo::yougo::yougo:

I'm so sorry to hear that your home group is out of coins. Hey - this is another reason to find a sponsor! A sponsor would probably take care of that! The important thing is that you are sober. I suspect the coin issue will sort itself out.

I too love Mary's list of what normal drinkers don't do. I did all of those and more, and I was never ever a normal drinker - not even back in my teens. Once I started the game was on. Yes, things got worse over time. But it was never "normal."

Tough chick meeting today.

DG

[Cherbear]

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rebirth : congrats!!!! I'm right behind you ))

Last night was my small women's meeting and it was very interesting.. we had a new gal come in and start to share and she was mostly talking about taking antabuse and how she was decided to see if alcohol and antabuse would mix !! and she said she didn't get that sick! She was thrilled..anyway to make along story short she started to dominate the evening by talking a really long time and a long time sober gal interrupted her to say she needed to let others share which we were all glad and then the meeting took a turn and talked about the insanity of the disease .. example being.. thinking "why not see if AL and antabuse mix!!" yes indeed.. crazy , crazy thinking.. made me so grateful for semi-sane thinking today.

re: spouses and sign. others relating to all this AA stuff.. My hubby is like Mr. Doggy.. very quiet. non group guy and my sponsor says to just slowly start sharing with him stuff I feel like sharing which I am doing... my main thing now that is bothering me.. and I hope I can talk frankly here. I am having a harder time connecting sexually now. I feel sad about this and I am wanting any words of experience from you guys.. help...

[dancelot]

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Papmom, that's sweet! Rebirth, that happens with the chips - when I had 6 months a woman I was talking to after the meeting went to find me one, and they were out, so she brought me two 3 month chips! I got a real 6 month chip at 7 months, because I was at a meeting on the "chip night," so I just asked and the guy gave me one (and I got the applause, and hug, etc. I got my nine month chip at a group I was just visiting. Those chips mean a lot and I want mine! :H On the positive side, it means lots of people in your group are making it to 3 months. Oh yeah, congratulations on your 3 month anniversary! :happy:

About denial and the insanity of the disease - there is nothing like seeing the new people to remember what that feels like. That's one thing I like about the tough girls meeting - the combination of the straight talking long term members and the often very new members. Some of these women hit lower bottoms before coming in. Any of us could end up the same way were we to go back out. There are also many who were doing the solitary drinking like I was, and described how their spirit had died. That was me too. I wasn't out on the street, but I was in a very dark place, and hearing someone else describe it reminds me of exactly what it was like.

Cherbear, I can't give you any advice. If you are comfortable with your women's group, maybe bring it up, if it is relevant to the topic? Sometimes if you mention something, you will find there's a whole lot of people feeling the same thing. Often someone doesn't have anything to share on the topic, they will just say what's on their mind about what's going on in their life or what is worrying them. It was mentioned that at one that they used to have a specific women's meeting for those issues (they did have several women's meetings a week at that time, so I maybe that was why).

[rebirth]

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Papmom thank you! Thats a nice looking chip! Now I really want one!!

Thank you Dance, DG , cher for the congrats . Just for today I am really proud of myself .

Cher - When I first started out, I was mentally not interested as I felt I had too much on my plate. Fighting my cravings, battling with imsonia and the rest of it left me exhausted most of the time. Plus my BF and I were not initially seeing eye to eye the first few months because I was changing.We did alot of fighting!
There was a point when I thought I was not sexually interested in him anymore but as I became more settled in my sobriety, our sexlife went back to normal. i.e we have sex once a year (Ha ha , only kidding..erm...maybe not)

Maybe it's just your body adapting to changes? If not how about thinking he is George Clooney? That works for me. Lol. Only kidding. Sorry. Being facetious.:l

[rebirth]

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In seriousness Cherbear I think it's just a phase you are going through. Give it some time?

[Cherbear]

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Rebirth I love you!!! You made me laugh , which is what I needed!! I think I am being too friggin serious right now. Sometimes.. going to a lot of meetings, I'm trying to absorb so much of what people are saying I almost get a headache from it.. I need to take it easy.. lighten up.. thank you!! for your input.. I know my sponsor says that it is an adjustment period.. but "I want it all fixed NOW! do you hear the 4 year old voice there???

[Doggygirl]

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Cherbear! :l and I so know that feeling of my head spinning it seems so full trying to process so much. I hope it just keeps getting better and better for you as it has for me. On the sex thing, I've got libido issues. I'm sure some of it is menopause related. I have no idea if any of it has to do with the transition to sobriety. I'm still waiting patiently for the return of my libido. Checking the lost and found daily. :H

Rebirth, I hope the next time you go to ANY meeting you ask for that coin! Yes, there have been many people who have come to a meeting and asked for their coin. I have never seen anyone asked whether that's their homegroup, or whatever. Anniversaries = coins.

Boy. The insanity. That was specifically the topic at the tough chick meeting today. I am really feeling the connection with that group. I may not have had 100% the exact same "insanity list" as all the people in the room, but I have at least one and usually (many) more than one thing in common with each and every person there. And yet at the time all this was going on, I didn't think it was all that nutty. Usually I didn't think there was anything wrong with my behavior at all.

Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday weekend (if you are in the states). I will be going to Big Book study tomorrow morning and my usual Sunday morning meeting. On Monday I will be able to go to home group since we have the day off from work stuff. I'm looking forward to seeing my friends and seeing what topics come up.

DG

[retteacher]

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Tonight we read out of the BB: How it works & Into Action...the heart of the program. I got (again) the need for rigorous honesty, not flinching from looking at past wreckage, & no longer having 2 lives (real & false). So much of my drinking life was about:
-acting out roles.
-lying.
-deception.
-other bad stuff.

Now that I'm doing the steps again, I get to look at it all again...not to beat myself up. I need to uncover everything & admit it. I know a weight off my soul & lessens the chance of a relapse.

Mary

[Cherbear]

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Thanks DG.. yah it also could be menopause for me too.. grrrr..

[j-vo]

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Menopause is right around the corner for me, too ladies. Haven't hit it yet, but it's a comin'.
Cher, I like Rebirth's idea: George Clooney thoughts in a very small, sexy, tight bathing suit! Or Brad Pitt will do. Ahh. Fantasies.

Rebirth, Happy Freakin' Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you!

I liked your list Mary. I'm not a normal drinker, never was, never will be.

Cher, Antabuse and alcohol just to see if it would mix? Doesn't sound like she's ready for this. Sounds as though she's trying to find other solutions to her problem instead of what AA suggests.

Thanks everyone for your thoughts and advice on spousal support. As we were taking a walk, I asked him what he thought of my going to these meetings. He asked if i was always going to go to that many. I go Tues p.m. Thurs p.m. and Sat. a.m. I said that's what I'm comfortable with and I believe it's necessary to continue my sobriety and recovery. I explained about it more. I told him it's three hours a week, plus travel and chat time. I was drunk much more than that in a week. He said, good point! He tells me to do what I need to do. I just want him to understand the disease more. He's not a reader and doesn't inquire about certain things.

Goin to my home group meeting tomorrow morning. Looking forward to it. Last night I went to a speaker meeting. Everytime I go there, I think to myself, "I'm really in the right place." I just wished I would have figured it out earlier on in my life.

Have a great weekend!

[marriedgirl29]

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Hello everyone. Hope you all are looking forward to a good Labor Day weekend. I have started back to classes at the university this week in addition to AA and my full time job so I am trying not to lose my mind.....

[rebirth]

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Good morning all,

Hi MG- What are you studying? You got energy girl!

Cher- Glad you laughed cause I wasnt sure if I offended you. v-jo has given you another option- Brad Pitt! Now you have choices. Glad we can help. lol

DG - My mentor says that she has ordered something for me from the internet so we shall see. Maybe she got me a coin? Can you buy then from the internet?

Mary I cant wait to do the step work. Will ask for a sponsor next time and go from there. So much to look forward to!

j-vo - menopause? When does that start? Early forties? Fifties?

Insanity is THE word to summarise my drinking years. And CHAOS is another good one! I remind myself daily of the madness and chaos that came hand in hand with my drinking.
And that chapter is over! Thank GOD!

My gratitude never ceases. It's a miracle that I will have another sober day ahead of me. Off to a chocolate factory today. Have a good one.
x

[Doggygirl]

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George. Brad.

Hello to all and special extra energy for MG! If you think it's a wild schedule while sober, can you imagine trying to drink and do all that???

j-vo, sounds like that was a great talk with Mr. j-vo and a nice starting point. I always try to remember that while I want and need Mr. Doggy's support, it's my alcoholism. It's nice that he is supportive but he doesn't have to have the treatement that I do.

I was asked to be the speaker at an open speaker meeting this morning. Last minute - no time to get nervous! :H Will write more later.... Just wanted to say hi and draw some energy from you wonderful people!

DG

[retteacher]

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Last night's small Burning Desire discussion meeting was quite emotional. A man came in staggering drunk. The meeting chair was very skillful in letting him vent a little, but when he got repetitious, nicely told him to listen to people who had some sobriety. Before he was cut off, he really got across to the group just how desperate he really was. It was hard to see, but "there by the grace of God, go I." He left quickly after the meeting, but I sure hope to see him (sober) at another meeting. I spoke directly after him & tried to get across that if a person is willing to go to any lengths, sobriety is an attainable goal. We'll see what happens. I've seen this phenomenon before. It's very sad. I must say that there was no shock or judgementalism.

I'm having a small pot-luck dinner right before tonight's BB meeting. It's important to my program that I continue to put myself out to others in the program.

Mary

PS: My daughter got through her first week of school OK. She was exhausted on Fri., but that might be a result of the chemo medicine she has to take.