October Optimism - week 1

[cyntree]

October Optimism - week 1

Hey all - just hopping on for a sec to check in (and trying to avoid being run over by power tools: bang, bang, zzzzzzzzzzzzr, punch punch, growwwwwwwwwl.) My dogs are loving all the company and attention. Me, not so much (I mean, no attention, good thing).

Rebirth - so sorry you had to go through all that. I guess the universe is showing us all just what we thought 'normal' was. Fabulous job at staying centered in your sobriety - CONGRATS on 4 months, you are the poster girl!

More later today -- have a great one, everybody --

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

Looks like I have a date with Mr Eligible :h

[Rusty]

October Optimism - week 1

Chill,

That's fantastic! Congratulations! A date with McDreamy!:kewl:

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Oh Chill! How exciting! Remember.No big pants okay!
Cyn yesterday's ordeal was a good reminder and has given me even more inner strength to stay AF.
John oh Blimey that cast must be driving you nuts! I really hope that they have done a good job this time
Sooty Yeah! We won. Ahem.sorry

Just to give an update. My BF and I had a heart to heart and I do believe that he is truely sorry. He has promised not to drink in my company ever again. He promises to address his anger issues. Action speaks louder than words so I am watching him...I hope that he does live up to his promises because there cannot be a next time.

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Right! ! am going to get off this computer and read for a change. This site is getting more and more addictive each month!!But it's a good addiction. Good night my virtual friends. Sleep well. x

[Chillgirl]

October Optimism - week 1

Goodnight RB
I'm off to bed early too for some McDreamy dreaming

[Rusty]

October Optimism - week 1

Rebirth-I support your decision to give your BF another chance. Sweet dreams-now you can be at peace.:l

Chill-I hope you have romantic McDreamy visions all night long.

[rebirth]

October Optimism - week 1

Nothing too naughty Chill!
Thanks Rusty. x
Nite nite

[dill]

October Optimism - week 1

It's a late check in for me today. Rebirth, congrats on 4 months!! You are awesome.

It's been a long day and I am feeling exhausted. I just did a 30 minute body scan meditation and had a really hard time keeping my thoughts from running on about this and that thing I have to do at work. I managed to push the thoughts away to some extent and do feel better for the experience.

Peace and strength to all.

[ladybirdheart]

October Optimism - week 1

Its only 5:30 here and I can barely keep my eyes open. I used to use alcohol for fuel at such times and it is painful to keep going. Lord Bird Heart is on his way from out of town and I am hoping to just make him a meal, have some polite conversation, and retire as early as decorum allows if I don?t get a second wind. It sounds as though I am not alone, so we can all dream ensemble on the thread. Tomorrow will bring new energy. You are awesome Rebirth. Love, Ladybird.

[Lavande]

October Optimism - week 1

WOW!
Chill has a date - woo hoo!!!

Rebirth, glad your BF got the message - let's hope he sticks to his promise!

Red(Star) - about the birthdays & holidays coming up. Well, my family consists of my two kids, their spouses & now their kids. Extended family gatherings just don't happen anymore. None of them give a damn about holidays or anything else for that matter. They always accepted my invitations but never extended any of their own. Going to my kid's houses is just not an option for a couple of reasons. They both live in very tiny houses, barely big enough for themselves & their dogs. Stuffing a few more people in just doesn't work - we've tried. My son is stuck working shift work (just like his parents always did) so he's not likely to be home during the usual holdiday celebrations. Because of all our shift work over the years we often have had Thanksgiving on Friday or Saturday, etc He does the cooking my DIL doesn't. My daughter & SIL live in an even smaller place this year - no room to invite the group over. I have plenty of room here for everyone, 2 ovens, 2 fridges, etc. It's just easier to get the family together here. I hope someday they all live in bigger homes but I don't see it happening anytime soon.
As I mentioned before, I'll figure it out when the time gets here.

I need to get back to work for a bit - I was interrupted this afternoon to watch EB while his mom had a doc appointment.

Wishing everyone a good night.
Lav

[Stargazerlily]

October Optimism - week 1

Good morning to all.

Chill, what fun to look forward to your date. Is it this weekend?

Lav, sounds like you enjoy the hustle and bustle of getting ready for a big celebration, despite the hassles and work. I understand, I love the preparation time and just everything about it, even when I am exhausted afterwards. Sometimes, through, it is a nice change when another family member offers to host the party. I have to laugh, a fleeting memory of my mother on a particular Thanksgiving. She was supposed to be hosting and her oven went out a day or two before the holiday. I offered to cook the turkey and have the dinner at my house, and she blurted out, "but you don't have nice dishes," or something like that. I was young but just laughed and said, "is that really important?" Later she apologized to me, we had the dinner at my little house, with crappy dishes, and it was a fun time. My mom used to get really uptight about holiday stuff like dishes, silver, and the sad thing is her silver and china are sitting in an unused buffet. I don't want that stuff, I never formally entertain, and at this time no one wants it. Interesting. My mom and I learned alot from each other

Rebirth, talking it out with your boyfriend is a great thing, now the action part. We do make mistakes, and need second chances, relationships are lots of work. One of my favorite quotes goes, "loving someone is forgiving horrible faults," or something like that. Hope he is able to support you in your AF efforts and refrain from drinking around you and your son.

PA, you showed self-restraint in not at least teasing your partner about feeling a little sick due to excess booze. He sounds like a great guy, very supportive throughout this time when you need him. It is a dilemma, wanting to make changes when your partner is not in the same place.

LBH, I was so tired last night I fell asleep way too early, too Between 8 and 9p.m. the first time. I need the time change and that extra hour.

Hey to Dill, Sooty, Rustop, Cyn, Rusty, SD and all on this thread. AF today for sure.

[dill]

October Optimism - week 1

"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It
turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a
feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past,
brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow."--Melody Beattie

LBH and Star, somehow we'll have to try and conjur up that gratitude feeling when we are feeling as spent as we were last evening. Star, thank you for sharing that little memory of your relationship with your mother and holidays and fine china. I think you and I must be alike when it comes to entertaining. I have never owned any fine china and the only silver I have was handed down. I keep it in a box and have never once used it.

Lav, Holiday meals and get togethers are almost always at our home. We have the biggest house, for one thing. This Thanksgiving, my daughter and SIL will be up for a few days from New Orleans and my son and DIL will join us all here for dinner. It will be a lot of work, but worth it.

My time is short is short here this morning, so I will simply wish everyone and AF day.

[Rusty]

October Optimism - week 1

Good Morning Friends,

Star-I had to laugh when you said you went to bed way too early, between 8-9:00 p.m. Many nights I am asleep before 8:00 p.m.:H That's because, as JackieClaire on the Army Thread says, "Rusty gets up at silly o'clock in the morning (between 3:00-4:00 a.m.)" I loved the story about your mother, as my whole family formally entertains. Nice china and silver are important to them. I have to admit, I love to formally entertain....I like to give dinner parties and brunches. I enjoy setting a beautiful table and making the flower arrangements....I know....girly stuff

Ladybird-you sound good!

Shelley....you whoooo! Are you still sleeping? Trying to recover from a week full of company AND the wedding, I bet. I don't blame you....I wouldn't be out of bed yet either.

Rebirth-how are you feeling today? You are so right about this site being addictive. I need to spend less time here but I just love it! Can you tell I live and travel alone?:H

John-I would just love to have the part of your brain that "gets" computers and loves them!

Lav-how did Mr. Lav react to the fact that Mrs. Lav wasn't going to put on an apron like June Cleaver and present him with a birthday cake? For all you young people out there....I am referring to a very old TV show about a husband and wife with 2 boys and June wore shirt-waist dresses and PEARLS to bake and clean the house in. She did not wear pants!

Dill-the 30-minute body scan sounds heavenly!

A cheery hello to Cyn, Papmom, Rustop, Sooty, Mr. G and anyone else who stops by! Have a wonderful AF Tuesday!

[Rusty]

October Optimism - week 1

Hi Dill,

Cross post! I loved your quote, as always. I smile because we always have feasts at our house. We all love to formally entertain. I have a big family with lots of nieces and nephews (22) and we all like to decorate our tables, do the flower arrangements, the whole bit. I enjoy it because for so many years, I lived in tiny apartments with crappy furniture AND crappy dishes, and my career has made it possible for me to enjoy china and to invite people over to my house for a meal.