sun 31 oct af daily

[bear73]

Morning all - late night but clocks went back so extra hour in bed. I drove so didn't drink or smoke - it's the only way I can go out and be in boozy situations as drink/drive is a total no no for me.
I have decided if I am not driving I won't put myself into boozy situations.

Mom of 3 - that article is great - really like the point about exercsie - 'and some have got sober through that alone' - and about continuing personal development,taking small steps towards goals to increase self esteem and to experience our emotions.

Blueness has lifted today - think it's because of doing some of the above.
I went to the gym and bench managed for my team yesterday (so stressful but I love last minute chaos!) I bought my lightbox online (for seasonal depression) - it's got a free 30 day trial so we'll see how it goes. Got a slightly more expensive model that you need to use for 30 mins a day (can sit with at breakfast) - rather than cheaper ones that you need to use for 90 minutes.

Anyway - in spirit of using the article above my goals for next week are

. Staying AF and smokefree
. Eat better - plan menus
. Stick to calorie limit
. Gym x2 - cycle to work x2
. Make up off and teeth clean
. 1 small cleaning task per day

[Brigitte Bardot]

sun 31 oct af daily

Good morning Bear!

And good morning to all who pop in today!

I think your plans sound really great, looking after ourselves should be priority 1, not only for ourselves but also our loved ones, they need us too and slowly killing our bodies is no way to live.

I'm getting ready for the trick-or-treaters today. I've got the little one's costume out, she is going to be a devil witch. Ooooo, scary! Right now I'm so happy I'm not hungover since she is blowing on a recorder very very loud and piercing my eye drums. I'm expecting my ears to start bleeding soon, if I was hungover my head would have combusted by now. :H
Happy Halloween!!

[Guitarista]

sun 31 oct af daily

Greeting's all,

Wishing everyone a safe, sober, and magical day, wherever you are!

[greeneyes]

sun 31 oct af daily

God morning bear, bridgitte & all globe-spanning abbers!

Why does the other side of the pond start daylight savings or unsavings whatever it is a week ahead of US. Is it not already confusing enough? I remember last year's confusion on my part sent up a red flag (more like a flare gun) that DG picked up on - remember that DG? You immediately knew I was in the danger zone. Thanks for that... :l You're such a good pal - right up there on my gratitude list.

I can't get over last night's date with my dad. I can't get over WANTING to go! And I enjoyed it! I wasn't antsy to leave, I was comfy and relaxed, just contented to be there. Wow... just wow!

Gia, trick-or-treating is tonight?? Crap, I thought they did it last night. Or is it different in US?

Bear I like you goals and I'm glad you're feeling better.
Here comes my 2 cents.

bear73;993426 wrote: I drove so didn't drink or smoke - it's the only way I can go out and be in boozy situations as drink/drive is a total no no for me.
I have decided if I am not driving I won't put myself into boozy situations.

This is from last weekend the day before you drank.
"Think i may need to re-read some old posts to refresh my memory I WON'T drink today - I am driving so have put myself into a position where I can't drink."

Bear, WHY are you continuing to put yourself in boozy situations? I totally agree with M3's analogy of a diabetic hanging out in a candy store. I really want you to succeed and such situations have not proven conducive to your maintaining sobriety.

I hope I get around to some of the leaves today. It's supposed to be beautiful adn I want to spend some time outdoors. I see it is just about dawn outside. I hope it's a spectacular sunrise. One thing's for sure...........

Have a sublime sunday!

[greeneyes]

sun 31 oct af daily

Hi G X-post XO

[Brigitte Bardot]

sun 31 oct af daily

Morning Greenie!!

Yup, we do have the little monsters coming tonight looking for candy. It should be the same in the US as it is in Canada? Although some counties and cities do choose to announce that they want it all done on a specific day. It is today for us. That's great you had a really nice time with your Dad! What movie did you watch?

I'm not ready to put myself in AL situations as yet either. Last night there was a Halloween dance and I chose not to go, I know I would have had a drink. I was thinking about one on and off during the day and I wasn't up to dealing with the temptation so I completely removed it altogether. The driving would not have stopped me. I would have just gotten a family member to drive me home and pick my car up in the morning.

[papmom3]

sun 31 oct af daily

G-Man: Is that you in the pic? :h

Bear-good on you for NOT drinking but I think along with Greenie and M3 you're playing with fire when you put yourself in those situations. However, I understand you are young, social life is everything and your other job involves pubs and gigs right? Tough place to be for a non drinker. Ultimately its your choice how you deal with everything and I too desperately want you to succeed in your quest for an AF life. On another thread a few months ago, someone was out socializing and they had gone to a swanky dinner where the booze was flowing. She/He sat at a table with a couple who do not drink at all. This was a lifestyle choice for them, not a decision made due to a problem with AL. When our member asked them why they don't drink, don't they miss it, the husband replied(something to this effect): "Why would I miss putting poison into my body? That is all Alcohol is to us, poison. It does nothing for our health and wellbeing so we choose not to include it in our diet". I had forgotten about this story until just now and it makes perfect sense for us all.
Your plan does sound very good and sound so stick to it!!

Greenie-how wonderful that your date with your date went so well. It is a memory you will cherish forever as will your dad. You did good! As for DST, isn't this only the 2nd year of turning the clocks back so late? this was a Bush thing in his last year, right? Didn't we used to do it even earlier than the Europeans or am I hallucinating? I'm glad DG was there for you last year to help you get over the confusion. I woke up today at 7am to pitch black. I for one will be very glad when the sun is shining again at 6am if only for a few days .

Still don't know what to do tonite. If my sis does invite me over I will go. It is SO SILLY to miss a chance to see all those cute little goblins because I can't have a glass of wine!! How infantile!! If she doesn't invite me over, I will hide in the back of the house as I just can't have the doorbell ringing every 2 minutes. It would drive the dogs crazy (and me!!)!!

BB-how are your eyes and ears now? Hope they are in one piece!! Have fun with your little one tonite!!

Happy Halloween everyone!! Trick or Treat (non sugar please!!)

[greeneyes]

sun 31 oct af daily

Gia,his favorite poem is Invictus. That was the movie we watched. It was about Nelson Mandella.

P3....erm.. confusion wasn't what I needed to get over, that was just a symptom. I was just winding up my "modding" fiasco and DG saw a remark that was a bit unusual. I think it was "What the f*** day is it?"


MARSHY, LET'S HEAR IT!!!!!!!

[Doggygirl]

sun 31 oct af daily

Good morning fabbies. Bear, thanks for getting us started. I don't know how you deal with the boozy situations, but it's a lifestyle choice and we all have to make the choices that suit both our sobriety AND our life. I'm glad that social situations of the kind that tend to be boozy are just not part of my lifestyle any more. But of course I'm an old married lady so that makes a difference too.

I'm remembering back to being 39 (well, 29 - just not 29 as long as today) and single. (right before I met Mr. Doggy) I still was in denial about my own AL addiction but this is more a story about dating in the "middle 29 years." By that time, the bars contained nothing but sad sacks (but of course I kept right on looking). I was AMAZED when I joined an on-line dating site that there were so many men in my age category who had really interesting lives, hobbies, etc. While "meeting for a drink" was a common way to mett face to face, the most interesting men were NOT over drinkers like me, and didn't go to bars regularly like me. They were busy off doing more interesting things. What a shocker that was. I guess now I'm seeing that there is a nice, calm, good life to be had that doesn't involve bars or booze. But that's just me. We each have to find what floats our sober boats.

Hi Gia. Halloween with the little one sounds like fun. Your story about the recorder made me think of the noise levels around here yesterday with the construction and you are right - I would have wanted to shoot myself if I had tried to get through that with a hangover. (well, no, I would have just started drinking heavily to drown out my headache.

G-man! :yougo: Love your avatar. :h I hope you have a safe and magical weekend too! I know that you are well able to hang out in boozy places and enjoy the music and the people, etc. A great example of how we each find our own sober way WRT boozy things!

Greenbean! Yes I remember last year. I think it's to the world of trick or treaters when Halloween is on Sunday. Some people want to have the fun on Saturday. (especially the grown up partiers who want to reserve Sunday for the hangover - that would have been ME!). Some people want to preserve the actual Halloween date. Some people think it's a great opportunity to make Halloween last 2 days. :H Whatever. I am safely inside my gates so will not know what the little ones and big ones are doing.

Hi P3! I like Lobster Boy in your avatar! :H Thank you for the reminder about the door bell ringing every two minutes and the DOGS going nuts. I forgot about the dogs part of it. Another reason to be secretly thrilled that we are fenced in. Whatever you end up doing, have fun!

Lav, I'm sorry I missed the closet party last night. Can I come today? Sounds like maybe the closet cleaning is symbolic in a way. I hope you are doing OK. Living proof that we cannot control others, and cannot even influence others sometimes. Mr. Lav is throwing away something very good. Why??? I hope you are able to make peace with it, whatever *it* really is. How are the chickies doing after the storms? (I know - I'm days behind!)

Yesterday was a very stressful day for the remodeling project. Over the top noise and dirt. The new bathroom that was supposed to be "ready to use" after they left yesterday (with the other bathroom we had been using completely demolished) is filthy. There is a layer of construction dust on EVERYTHING. Floors, walls, counters, sinks, inside cabinets, windows, mirrors, etc. I was just so emotional last night I sat down and cried. And wrote a message of disappointment to the designer in charge.

After a night to sleep on it, I have decided to just tackle the cleaning and shut up already. My gratitude list is the antidote for a pity party as always. We are so fortunate, especially in this economy, to be able to DO this remodeling project. That bathroom is beautiful - it just has construction dust on it. That cleans up. Step coach dying of cancer would trade his problem in a heart beat to have my problem. Someone struggling to get sober who can't seem to quite get there would gladly trade their problem for my problem. So...head is out of ass today, and my vaccum cleaner awaits.

I'm grateful to be sober today. One thing is for sure....

DG

[Guitarista]

sun 31 oct af daily

Hiya P3 and DG.

That's 'Neighbour's' (aussie soap) star Jason Donovan in my avatar. I hope my gaze isn't that psychotic!, though i'm sure he's a very nice fellow.

Hey Greenie, xx

[Brigitte Bardot]

sun 31 oct af daily

I was thinking you look great for being 98! LOL..

[Lavande]

sun 31 oct af daily

Happy Halloween Abbers!!!!!

How do people get their dogs to sit so nicely, in costume for pictures like that????? So cute

bear, I say do anything you have to do to stay away from the booze! If that means staying home sometimes then just stay home......it won't kill you! Give yourself every possible chance to succeed, you won't be sorry.

Greenie, how nice that you were able to enjoy an evening with your Dad. I'm afraid that never happened for me & my Dad. I've accepted that he did the best he could do. He just wasn't a person fit enough to be around decent people.

BB, have fun with your trick-or-treater! That's all just a memory to be now. My youngest is turning 30 in November - yikes!!!!

Greetings to the very handsome G

I've recharged my camera battery so I can get some updated chick pics today. At almost 8 weeks they are huge!!!

Wishing everyone a wonderful AF Halloween!
Lav

[Brigitte Bardot]

sun 31 oct af daily

Morning DG! I'm going though reno's as well and there is dust over everything right now as well. As fast as you clean it up it settles back down. I'm thinking it's a nice price to pay for having something shiny and new! You should post some pics! I love seeing pics of what people have done.

Morning to you Lav, I don't know how they do either. I've just got little Halloween collars for my dogs to wear for a bit. They will be hiding in my room while the kids arrive, they bark too much and just get too excited.

Today, I am channeling the Mistress of the Dark, Elvira! I need to find my black wig. But I have my girls all nice and perk and pushed up..looking lovely ladies..lol. Ive got the fishnets and the sexy black 4 inch heels, and the black sexy dress. Makeup and nails will be done. I'll have to get someone to take a pic..I hope I can find that wig!

[Accountable for Me]

sun 31 oct af daily

Morning all!

I am about to go and work for my client who is wheelchair bound. I enjoy being with her on Sunday's. It is actually more relaxing there than being at my own house. She is a wonderful elderly woman. Very pleasant to be around.

Then I will meet up with BF and child for trick or treating tonight. I work out of town, so will be home just after they start. That will be fun. Our neighbourhood has been eerily quite this weekend. I thought for sure there would be parties and fireworks going off all weekend long. I heard 2 firecrackers. One last night (early) that scared the shit out of my cat. :shocked: But, so far, it has been quiet!

BB, I bought my daughter a recorder a couple of weeks ago. The WORSE thing I have ever bought her! :H I swear that if she was ever blowing on that thing and I had a hangover; it would be right in the trash! It is hard enough to deal with on a sober day! lol!

Well, I must be off and running. Have a wonderful day everyone! xo

[Choochie]

sun 31 oct af daily

HAPPY AF SUNDAY EVERYONE!