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**Mick** · May 13, 2013, 02:58 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

morning all...how are you?cant stop long....forgot Im taking the outlaws to the airport this morning ..big oops!!!

so here goes ..tea n coffee on the go

Hi ltlw ..hows you today? quiet peaceful night? best of luck and fingers crossed for the job...does that mean that upstairs is now empty ,or his nerd mates just gone? have aa great day

evening tt ..hows you today? busy busy?whatever have a chill out evening

Evening Ky....10 degrees whats up wi ya? thats the middle of summer!!..thats about 50 degrees in real money!!!spoilt you are

So what have you been up to today?
Yep the talkin snake joke..like it pretty much true!!! man took over the provider role once woman and snakey talked!!!!!:H:H(shoulda stuck to eatin apples..least you only get belly ache now and again! :H)
have a good one

morning Bear ..how are you?seem to have done pretty well in all your previous targets that you set...and yet you cant nail booze n fags?maybe your plans aint as bulletproof as you think..might be worthwhile rewriting them or revisit and amend....

Hi Cinders ..hows you today? yep you are right...stress always forms part of our lives irrespective of what or how much we are doing....its how we deal with it that counts..jeez I worry coz Ive nowt to worry about!!:H Any plans for today?

Mornin Lav..one brew for you..Well did they all cook for themselves yesterday?or did you end up doing it..think I know the answer!Well orf you jolly well trot...to the mulch pile...have a good one

hi YAH..nice to see you ...well done on the no cigs n booze..finished the hose now? :goodjob:

mornin ppqp ..hows you today?love the smells of cedar and pine..so whats next in the garden project?what did you do with your scorcher day ? did it turn out as planned?

Morning SL..hows you today?well done on the not going out on the errands,but you say that will be back those feelings..I can relate to that..used to do the same ..any old excuse to get out,get some vodka down my neck and then felt great..or so I thought,but looking back I think what was that all about?Maybe its a thinking change you need and somewhere along the line that mode of think ing will change, but you will need to help it along..be positive..you can do it!!!

Morni Det..well hows you today?sounds like you are back to your good old cheery self again ...keep it up mate

Hiya Cat hows you? are you feeling any better today? hope so.

yep got to agree with Kuya in one sense..I remember thinking "shit not going to drink ever again....thats scary..but the only thing with setting targets is when you reach them you want to celebrate, and how do some people celebrate?yep with a glass or two, so that is something you need to be careful of, because all of a sudden target when it comes can be really flat and then negativity jumps in

right peeps orf to Manchester airport in a minute so have a great day

Two women are riding bikes to a friend?s house when it starts to get dark.

?I?ve never come this way before,? says one of the women.

?Me neither,? says the other woman. ?I think it?s the cobblestones.?

A priest walks by a hooker, who shouts, ?Hey, father, I?ll give you a blow job for 10 bucks!?

The embarrassed priest then bumps into a nun from his church. ?Perhaps you can help me, sister,? he says. ?What?s a blow job??

?Ten bucks,? the nun replies. ?Same as everywhere else.?

A man has six children and is very proud of his achievement. He is so proud of himself, that he starts calling his wife, "Mother of Six" in spite of her objections.

One night, they go to a party. The man decides that it's time to go home and wants to find out if his wife is ready to leave as well.

He shouts at the top of his voice, "Shall we go home Mother of Six?'"

His wife, irritated by her husband's lack of discretion shouts right back, "Anytime you're ready, Father of Four."

Father Norton wakes up to a beautiful and sunny Sunday morning and decides he just has to play golf. He pretends he?s sick and convinces the associate pastor to say Mass for him that day, then heads out of town to a golf course about 40 miles away so he won?t run into anyone from his parish. On the first tee, he sees that he has the entire course to himself?everyone else is in church!
Watching all this from the heavens, Saint Peter leans over to the Lord and asks, "Are you going to let him get away with this?"
Just then Father Norton hits the ball and it heads straight for the pin, dropping just short of it, rolls up and falls into the hole-a 420 yard hole in one!
Astonished, St. Peter looks at the Lord and asks, "Why in Heaven did you let him do that?"
The Lord smiles and replies, "Who?s he going to tell?"

A man left for work one Friday afternoon. But, since it was payday, instead of going home, he stayed out the entire weekend partying with the boys and spending his entire paycheck.

When he finally appeared at home Sunday night, he was confronted by a very angry wife and was barraged for nearly two hours with a tirade befitting his actions.

Finally his wife stopped the nagging and simply said to him. ?How would you like it if you didn?t see me for two or three days??

To which he replied. ?That would be fine with me.?

Monday went by and he didn?t see his wife. Tuesday and Wednesday came and went with the same results. Come Thursday, the swelling went down just enough where he could see her a little out of the corner of his left eye.

A man goes to see a psychiatrist, who shows him a picture of an inkblot.

?What does this picture remind you of?? the doctor asks.

?A lesbian nun orgy,? the guy replies.

?How about this one?? the shrink asks, holding up another picture.

?A cheerleader orgy,? the guy says.

After three more pictures, the doctor finally puts down the cards. ?You are a sick pervert,? he says.

?Me?? the guy says indignantly. ?You?re the one who keeps showing me dirty pictures.?

Q: Did you hear about the Arkansas farmer who thought he had an STD?A: It turns out that he was actually just allergic to wool.

Two bored old ladies are sitting on a park bench. One says, ?For five bucks I?ll streak through the flower show across the street.? They shake on it.

Waiting outside the flower show, her friend soon hears a commotion in the convention hall, followed by loud applause. Then the naked granny bursts out through the door with a cheering crowd behind her.

?What happened?? asks her friend.

?I won first prize for best dried arrangement!?

The owner of a drugstore arrives at work to find a man leaning heavily against a wall. The owner goes inside and asks his clerk what?s up.

?He wanted something for his cough, but I couldn?t find the cough syrup,? the clerk explains. ?So I gave him a laxative and told him to take it all at once.?

?Laxatives won?t cure a cough, you idiot,? the owner shouts angrily.

?Sure it will,? the clerk says, pointing at the man leaning on the wall. ?Look at him. He?s afraid to cough.?

**treetops** · May 13, 2013, 03:07 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

Good luck LTLW with the apartment situation and the job.
There are always going to be stresses in life and unexpected lows and highs. I made the mistake for many years thinking - OK I will stop drinking when I get this done, achieve this etc etc. Well I achieved many of those things - and guess what? I did not stop.
I think the really hard grind is at the start of the quit - the first few months. For me - that just sucked a lot of the time and I don't think I was a bumble-bee of joy to be around. I also thought i would never get my writing 'mojo' back. Then its keeping yourself very aware and realising that its not going to be perfect - ever. But it can be very good.

You are doing really well and you are a strong woman. You have a very special way of expressing yourself so grab that while you can.

Enough preachiness - I had a day of meetings (note cherubs the plural) and some doozy interpersonal matters to deal with. Oh boy - I needed PPQP, SF and SL to help me with those ones!!!:H
Cooked in my new oven tonight and wondered why it was not working - duh! One of the oven trays was blocking part of it.

Had a great day yesterday - lovely walkies and daughter was friendly without being sloppy (actually I miss sloppy - little kids when they hug you to death and think you are the most beautiful kind Mum in the world). Partner rushed out at some stage to the shops and came back with heaps and heaps of flowers :h

Have a great day all- I might pop in later or I might just do the lurking thing :l

**learningtolovewinter** · May 13, 2013, 04:35 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

hi TT & Mick- just back from a great workout.

Thanks for the perspective on the difficulty of a new quit in the beginning. I know it must get easier. Making that commitment 'i won't do it regardless' is tough. We had dinner with my mother-in-law last night and she probably said 20 x 'Why are you drinking water? Have some wine dear.'
Then onto 'have some bread and butter, it is delicious, I love it!' It really was funny. And 'why aren't you eating the fried potatoes?' (( Because my ass is going to be as wide as a barn door if I am not careful!!)) Of course I just said no thank you.

My husband and I were laughing! All this started because my genius husband couldn't think of anything to talk about so he says 'mom, she is on diet.' I was like 'u idiot, what is wrong with you??!!" Anyhow, at least we laughed through dinner!!

So, I can still laugh about all this.

The tenant upstairs has returned to Paris, but there will be someone else of course. For today, I can count on quiet. Actually it is fine as long as they don't have so many people up there, and don't have parties. They were even smoking dope I guess, I didn't smell it. Anyhow. Whatever. Time to move on with the day....

**Cinders** · May 13, 2013, 05:53 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

GM AFers,

Sky is breaking clear today. Yesterday was also beautiful but a bit chilly.

We took mom out for late lunch/early dinner at a Chinese Buffet. She pretty much knew most of the family. For some reason she never knows who my daughter is. Yet she recognizes my son, who is shaved and has a beard.

Considering twelve of us were there, ranging from two to 89 years-old, things went very well. It was a great relief to hand off the four I kept. I was totally exhausted by the time dinner was done and we had dropped off mom.

She tried the old guilt trip when we were taking her back. She said, "I don't think you love me." Hubby laughed and told her not to even try it. She giggled. At least some of her mind is still working.

On the final stretch for hubby. He goes on Thursday for the colonoscopy and Friday for the surgery. He will be home two weeks on leave. A bit of a nail biter about what they will find caused the whole mess but it is what it is. We will deal with it.

I hope all have a wonderful, AF day.

Think of what you have to be grateful for today and smile.

Love,
Cindi

**porqoui** · May 13, 2013, 07:23 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

MAE ALL...

LTLW...very cool you start the thread this morning, thanks. Good luck with the apartment hunting, it's just a shame it has to be this way. Glad you got some sleep last night and got the fingers crossed for the job.

Mick...thanks for the coffee. Forgetting to chauffer the outlaws is a very big oops. The scorcher day turned out as planned. I did nothing. We have some soil left over so are thinking of wicking baskets and a couple of key-hole gardens. Would be a shame if the soil just washed away.

TT...evening to you. I gave up on perfect a long time ago. Totally agree the start of the quit is the hardest. Think it also has something to do with wanting instant gratification. I think people have lost the "work-reward" mentality and expect everything to just happen instantly. Ugh meetings, but they were probably easier than the interpersonal matters that came up. Just think what it would be like if you were still drinking. Your Mothers Day sounded lovely and I hope things sort themselves out at work.

Cindi...sounds like the outing was a success. Took me a minute to realize you meant you kept 4 kids, not 4 orders of chineese food. The giggle tells me she still has some of her whits about her. At least the leaving didn't end in tears this time. Must have missed the reason for hubbies surgery hope all goes well. You definetly have the right attitude though, we will deal with it. I am grateful the garden is done and yes it does put a smile on my face. Have a good one.

Det...like Mick says you're sounding like your old self these days. Looks good on you.

Cat...hope you're feeling better today.

Off to get my second cuppa. Already read the jokes, thanks Mick. Have a great AF Monday all and all to come....

PPQP

**kuya** · May 13, 2013, 07:27 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

MAE everybody.

Just a quick flyby as just realised it is late and I have an early start.

Be good

KY

**Lavande** · May 13, 2013, 07:42 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

Good morning Abbers!

I had a crazy, crazy day yesterday but everyone lived :H:H
My 3 grandkids were as loud & obnoxious as they possibly could be, just crazy.
Of course I did end up doing the majority of the kitchen work, some things never change

Greetings LTLW. Yes, without stress life would probably be boring as hell. Learning to roll with the punches is what we have to do

TT, our relationships with our kids change as they grow older but I think you'll find your daughter will remain closer, mine did.

Cindi, I really hope all goes well for your husband. We have to try to not worry too much ahead of time about things that just may never happen. Glad you had an interesting Mother's day gathering as well.

Mick, I will be getting back to the mulch pile today ~ I will!!

Hey PQ & Kuya!

But first I go to Curves

Have a great AF day everyone!

Lav

**porqoui** · May 13, 2013, 07:49 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

:hallo: KY...have a good sleep.

:hallo: Lav...glad everyone is still alive. :H

**bear73** · May 13, 2013, 11:46 AM

AF Monday, 13 May

hey everyone - day 2 here - can't remember who posted this but about slipping from resentful to gratitude mode - that I am choosing not to drink rather than I can't drink.
I am stealing this!

Mick - I think that may be the biggest change I need to make - its not so much details of my plan as my own internal state and attitude towards stopping drinking/smoking that I need to change.

Busy day at work and busy week - I have a new job in a much more supportive organisation - less money but so worth it! I am so much less stressed - it is exposing my ability to worry tho - even without stress am still finding things to worry about. I keep waiting for someone to undermine me, be very passive aggressive - it's not happening

I am at home with a load of washing on - done loads this weekend and changed bedding so I am feeling very pleased with myself.Also did a big shop at ALDI yesterday (will mean something to those in UK) soooo cheap - yet nice quality stuff - very pleased. Plan a lazy evening tonight - more reading of 'the little red book' on my kindle.
I was meant to be at the gym today - I am cancelling and going tomorrow instead, Monday is my sofa day.

I am so happy being at home with my 3 cats (recently adopted gorgeous stray cat - he is very soppy) and my other half. I am enjoying my down time at home - I have a tendency to overstuff my diary with lots of social events so I then feel overloaded and have no free time. Doing nothing is really nice, rollerderby takes a lot of time(and I love it), and then it's seeing friends all over the country and OH's band. I may call the parents tonight to have a chat and sort out dates for them to come and stay.

Happy and sober - have a great evening/day everyone. It's good to be back.

**scottish lass** · May 13, 2013, 12:10 PM

AF Monday, 13 May

Hi all - Monday comes again!!
TT - thanks for the thoughts - I have not taken AB - I have thought seriously, researched well and even worked out the site to buy it from - but, I do everything possible not to take medication - I hate it. Not sure if that is due to being a nurse and seeing the mess that people can get into with taking meds. I am also very worried about the liver damage. It is in teh back of my mind, but I am not ready quite yet. Even though I am struggling just now, I have made great leaps in the last two years - and as many people have said, it took me years to get this far, why do I imagine a quick fix???? If I can keep moving forward as I am, then I really am doing OK. I have been here a couple years, first year I probably cut back overall the year by about 50%, this year I am back by probably 90% - I do believe in the slowly but surely way to change to make things permanent. I think that I want more of a change in perception - the not constantly thinking of wine, the continual bargaining with myself, the belief that I am giving something good up when I know the reverse is the truth - it is the mind games that are wearing me out just now!
As always thanks for everyones support. LTLW - lets keep May going well - lets finish with 27 af days!!!
Have a good Monday everyone...:l:l

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