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[NoSugar]

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DreamThinkDo;1631508 wrote:
Good tip if you don't want to read 200 pages - change your settings that a page contains the maximum posts - still the same amount of reading, but fewer pages. All in the mind...!Good point, Dreamy. It is especially nice at times you have a slow Internet connection and it seems to take forever for new pages to load.

lifechange;1631687 wrote: I just took care, took to heart all of the great posts here, read the articles about sugar and decided to just quit with that, too, ...Now I'm really

glad you're here, LC - I've been really outnumbered on the sugar thing around here :H!

Dottie Belle;1631738 wrote: Doc called today and the biopsies are all negative....WooHoo...he is always worried since he had prostate cancer 2 years ago....we can exhale now!!

That is wonderful news, DB.

MossRose;1631755 wrote: This feels like home. So if it's ok with all of you, I would like to start posting regularly. ... It was a very good day.

Wow, it already was a happy day when LC posted and now I see another special lady is here :l- that's just the icing on the cake (that LC and I aren't eating :H).

HumbleRider;1631787 wrote: I can't believe it's 4:30. I've said it before, but I was terrified about what to do with my time if I quit drinking. I couldn't imagine being anything but bored and anxious. Now, I'm wishing for more hours in each day. I've got healthier addictions now, like reading, taking pictures, watching a little television, actually having a coherent conversation with my husband after dinner.

HR, You seem to have done an especially good job of balancing the attention you need to pay to your sobriety with the benefits that being sober brings you. Your ability to do that so well probably helps you avoid the frustration some of us have felt about constantly thinking about (not) drinking. It doesn't have to be constant or overwhelming - but I think it needs to be regular.

Hope you're feeling better, Ava and Jane. I read your complaints about threading in the NN. I love threading - full face when I have the $ .

Have a great MAE, all - I'm so happy you're all here and I hope some missing friends return soon.

xx- NS

[narilly]

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Welcome LC and Moss. Glad you are here.

LB, LC, NS, J-Vo, Pav, I agree that coming here everyday helps to maintain our sobriety. I know that will power alone just doesn't work for me.

I am dead tired tight now but am posting because I want to make sure I don't drink on Saturday when I meet my gal pals. I did have mod thoughts and so I have had to re wire my brain. I can't moderate I know that. I think DTD said to just completely take it off the table. Drinking AL is not an option. Also, have the mind set of gratitude.
Coming to MWO reinforces my non AL way of thinking. Thank you for all of the great posts.

Dottie, glad your hubs is cancer free. Your dog will come around!
Ava, love the computer story. Your workplace sounds very interesting!
J-Vo, love the singing boys you have
Pav, love your posts
Humble, so cool that you are filling your time up with so many things. What a great way to be AL free!

LB, I love breakfast! It sounds like this weekend will be fun.

Well gals, time to sleep. Goodnight.

[Pavati]

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Hi, Ladies:

LC! So glad to see you. As I've said before, you were one of the kind, welcoming voices I remember in my first couple of days. You sound ready to regroup and get back to work. I am VERY glad you are here with your positive attitude.

MR - You, too. I'm sorry you had such a miserable Sunday and glad you are back to you fighting self. A sober Birthday? What? I guess I had one when I was pregnant (only twice)? It actually sounds like a lovely evening. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!

Dottie - Glad all worked out well. I had the anticipation that comes with all of those procedures.

Humble - I don't have a lot of time still - I drank when doing things around the house in the evenings mostly, but I do have enough time to post here some after coaxing my son through his homework. As the kids get older I do have more time on the weekends, however, and it is wonderful to not have to face it all with a hangover or plan it around drinking.

LB - Mardi Gras (I went years ago in college) was one big inebriated week for me. I remember waking up every morning with a neck full of beads, a red mouth (from the hurricanes), and a dim memory of various sordid activities. I thought I was going to have to go to the hospital because I was so hungover, FFS. I would LOVE to check it out sober. Sounds like you're going to have a great time, and are ready to dazzle 'em with your new duds. I hope the Polar Vortex doesn't come ruin all the fun.

J-Vo - Your kids sound so sweet. Happy Birthday to cheer you up. I was talking to my therapist about standing my ground more (for me it was with my Father-in-law). She responded that it was to be expected after giving up the crutch of alcohol. I think that when you are actively drinking you (one) can lose confidence in yourself. Great for you for sticking up for yourself. I started trying to do it more and more in my older age, and being free from AL has helped. You go, girl!

Rox - Going to get Loamer on you (tough love). What is your plan for day 1? Enough farting around - jump back on the wagon. We're having fun, rumbling down the road as sober as can be. All the cool kids are doing it...

Dreamy - always good to see you here. I wish a) my husband wasn't allergic to cats or b) I was home more to take care of a dog. I miss having pets around!

Ava - Upside down would be right side up to us north of the equator, right? I love how responsive you are to the newbies in the nest. They are so grateful for all of your waffling (as we all are). I am SURE you will be here to support them still in 2016. I will try to keep up.

OK - Sleep tight, unless you have to wake up now.

xo
Pav

[Pavati]

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Narilly! xPost again. You stay up LATE!

Yes, take that choice off the table. That's what did it for me. Saying NO is so much easier than saying um..well..if I just have a little...just with the girls...just on my birthday... wine but no spirits... blah... Think how great your skin will look when you see them in five years!

xo

[lifechange]

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Good morning, Ladies on a Mission!

I feel like a new lady, here on day 2. Getting through a Day 1 is so difficult. After acting on those thoughts of moderating, getting back to the place where I could really say, NO MORE!!, has been a nightmare..My plan is to take some time to not think too much about time wasted, where I could have been (with Dot!), how I will possibly stay on track this time-- I'm just repeating my mantra, trying to remember the drill and following my plan wholeheartedly WITHOUT questioning whether or not I can. It helped re-reading RR to visualise the AV beast as something apart from myself. I'd conveniently forgotten that!

I watched an inspiring film last night called, "Gold", following 3 contenders of the Paralympics 2012 in London. One touched me in particular-- a blind man from Kenya who ran the 5000m and marathon. He'd gone blind as a child and had been ostracised from the community because they thought he'd been cursed. After going to a school for the blind and realising who he really was and his worth as a person, he began running to compete. After winning the gold medal in Sydney and setting all sorts of world records, he went home and began with strengthening the community. At one point he said something to the effects of, "I never regretted losing my sight. I see with my heart and with my brain. Some people see with their eyes and they do nothing. Others can't see with their eyes, but they have a vision. Disability is not inability." Touched me at the right time!

Moss, I am so happy to see you here. I read your thread on Sunday and my heart went out to you. I was so worried, but didn't feel like I could say anything worthwhile at that point. I actually felt like signing on and saying, "me, too!". You have so many people that love you and support you whole heartedly here and you have done the same for so many others.

Ava, where are you this lovely day! What is threading?

Narilly, I can't say so much right now-- but do whatever you have to not to drink on Sat! You've come so far and you don't want to set yourself back. You know how much it sucks and for what? One afternoon of having a drink with friends. You will feel so proud of yourself if you hang out with your girlfriends and stay strong on your path. I hope I can remember (or that you all remind me) the next time I start to think about how nice it would be to have a drink with my friends. It always ends up the same. And it always will!:h

I am off to work. To cook. I have no idea what yet-- and I'd better decide soon as I have 85 people to feed by 1pm! Yikes... If it's yummy I'll save some for all of you..

[HumbleRider]

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Someone asked about the Memorial Day coming up for me in March, where it's tradition that we drink. It is me and the other mom who lost her son with mine. We've had some great times getting high and celebrating the anniversary if their deaths. We do crazy things to honor them every year. I have done it sober once or twice in the past, so I know I can do it again. It's just this time we are staying overnight at the casino, so I might be tempted. But I'll just gamble and smoke a couple of my three cigarettes a day. . Night all, I'm way beat.

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Hey loamers

Well i am still not loving the feeling of razor blades in my throat but managed to soldier on through the day, not sure if Friday i will make it but who knows what tonight will bring.

Dream i am so glad i am not the only one who has experienced the computer mishap. I wont be doing that in a hurry again. The NN is good and to have some aussies on is even better but atm i am tired and achy so wont be much happening tonight though i did post one that may have been a tad serious tonight but we dont get the days up without hard work on our parts.

LB hello lovely, i so understand what you are saying that you "dont feel you have another quit in you". me either, so this is it really, mind you i only really did two quits before this one but damn they were hard haha. When i was "funking" last week or so i thought i could not possibly think of al constantly but as Moss and LC have shown (no offense girls) we cant stay away from here if we want to be accountable. I know left to my own devices would not be a good thing and i love you guys. I keep telling myself now that i am still in the early stages of recovery and i have to not take those days for granted and become blase about it.

LC this place is definitely home for a lot of us and if someone goes AWOL then beware of the consequences! I am going to thailand with my mother early april and i am apprehensive but i will have my daughters ipad and i will be relaxing so plenty of time to be on here and there are lots of af cocktails i can drink and if my mum annoys me i will go to the gym or walk or shop or something but i know i wont drink. i am also contemplating getting ab as a backup and taking it, it may mean buying one less present but it will mean my total sobriety which i must guard. Just take one day at a time, that is all we can do with al.

Dot so glad hubs is ok and gets to annoy you forever haha. I feel so much healthier but seem to catch anything that is going around atm. How is Maddy settling in now?

Jvo i hope you are "funked" out now and feeling better and things are resolving for you at work. I just drank for the sake of killing anything i felt or had to deal with basically and its weird having these feelings and having to deal with them now without a bottle in hand or two or three or.......Someone posted a thread about Sticky a few weeks ago, so very sad and she seemed to have been such a fighter but sadly lost the battle.

Moss so happy to have you here and safe, i was speechless when i read your post and honestly had no idea what to say (bloody suprise that was for me), as i vaguely remember i was going to start with you a few months ago but failed probably before i started. had a notion i could moderate i think. Better get those fingers exercised as we type overtime on here, well Pav does! Oh and happy birthday too, a sober one! Going to have to get my mind thinking when i had one of those.

Humble glad i could make you laugh but god i was thinking wtf have i done and it was pretty bad that even ITS had to google what i had done. I wish i smoked only 3-4 fags a day but that is another addiction i have to give up and god help my boys when i do. No witching hour here either and thats a great feeling. I was a mess going through that stage of what to do but its just another hour in the day.

NS i love sugar, love it now, my hips dont but i dont care. Chicco's are my fav lolly, not sure if you have them over there but we used to call them "black boys" till that was politically incorrect. I love threading too as seems to keep the eyebrows shaped nicely for a lot longer than plucking or waxing. How hairy are you to do a full face, magilla gorilla????? oops lol. You know i love you.

Nar you know you cant moderate like us all so get it out of your head. One wine is too many and 100 is not enough. You will probably be suprised at how easy it is not to drink after worrying about drinking so much, i know i was like that. I play the scenario in my head constantly when faced with al being around.

Pav love your posts girl. Its good to see us all posting again. funny how we all went quiet at the same time and then took a deep breath and off we went. The NN seems to have something going on at my nighttime so its good to chime in. the first days are hard and i never know if i am saying the right thing or not but they make take something from what i waffle.

LC i was working but do have mwo open at work, 24/7 for me. If i get stressed or annoyed i think "i'll just have a little read", makes me feel better to cope with the day.

Humble that was me that asked and i can imagine your son would be very proud of you for what you are achieving. As i say, i cant imagine the pain of what you go through sometimes, you are a strong woman humble and a beautiful one!

Well my day was not interesting so nothing really to report. Tomorrow is Friday and i am turning the big 90. Woop Woop i say and still cant believe it but the countdown to the 100 will be long, very long i am sure. To see all those crosses on the calendar are amazing and an achievement i must say. My sons friends come over and ask what the crosses are and go "wow thats impressive'. they all know how much i drank which is sad but they still like me which is good.

Take care girls and i love you all.

Rox get your arse back here!

[roxane]

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ava, you scare me sometimes! and pav is joining in too! aww gawd.

i have to go to work, so ill be back on later and ava will be at work then haha!

[little beagle]

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So much I want to say and so little time.
Nar just come here or pm someone if you get overwhelmed. The next day will be better for it.
l loved that Gold story Lifechange. I will think of that all day.
I will catch up more later.

[roxane]

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90 DAYS!!!






for when ava wakes up

[giraffe1234]

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Available, well done on 90 days!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Fantastic, i am rejoicing with you. Big bear hug! Cause giraffes cant hug.
:-)

[j-vo]

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:wave::groupluv::band2::disco::loveyou:Ava, Dear Loamer, lovely friend, congratulations on your 90 days! You are a huge inspiration to me. Thank you for being here for all of us. You're a gem.

Happy 90th Day!!

[HumbleRider]

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Happy 90 days, Ava! :goodjob: :l:wd:

[NoSugar]

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I was telling Ava that days 90 and 100 are both big deals (Go Ava and soon, Pav!!) but they are like US Thanksgiving and Christmas -- too close together!! Every day AF is cause for celebration, though, so YEAH, EVERYBODY !

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narilly;1631843 wrote:
I am dead tired tight now but am posting because I want to make sure I don't drink on Saturday when I meet my gal pals. I did have mod thoughts and so I have had to re wire my brain. I can't moderate I know that. I think DTD said to just completely take it off the table. Drinking AL is not an option. Also, have the mind set of gratitude.
Coming to MWO reinforces my non AL way of thinking. Thank you for all of the great posts.
.
Hey, Narilly, YOU CAN DO IT. I went out to dinner with 4 friends last night. I think it was just under a year ago that I went out with this group for the first time since I had stopped drinking. I was really nervous about being with my Whine and Wine friends but not participating. I didn't really enjoy that evening but it was mostly because i was cold and tired and frankly, the conversation wasn't all that interesting (and got stupider over time...). They didn't try to talk me out of not drinking or anything like that -- I was still just too new to all this and very self-involved. Since then, things have changed. We usually go out to dinner, not just for drinks. They drink less (and not because I was the ring-leader of inebriation before or encourage them to drink less now).

It really does change the dynamic when 1 person isn't drinking but I think it is ok. Some of them have cut back on the volume and frequency of their drinking. They are a little awkward around me sometimes (sort of like some people here re: sugar :H) but it is ok. Last night one woman asked me how long I'd not been drinking and when I answered, she said, Wow, that long? You're really low key about it. I think that is a good way for it to be. No one else has to change (unless they want to - I don't encourage them one way or the other) and they don't have to go out of their way to accomodate me. We've had friends in our group with cancer and they certainly weren't left out or encouraged to drink - it was just great to have them there.

This was quite a waffle (I also love that word ) but my point is that even though things are different when you're not all drinking, it doesn't mean they are worse. And in many ways, they are better.

Pavati;1631850 wrote:
Yes, take that choice off the table. That's what did it for me. Saying NO is so much easier than saying um..well..if I just have a little...just with the girls...just on my birthday... wine but no spirits... blah...

That's the switch, Pav. This whole thing became an interesting, challenging adventure rather than a tortuous sacrifice when I realized I was ok with never drinking again. One day when I was posting, I realized I sounded like the people who had decided to quit for good. I almost burst into tears when I realized I truly felt that way, too. I literally felt a tension be released from my chest. I don't think you can force it, but you can force yourself to do the things that will rewire your brain and make the transition happen.


Humble, I don't know how you view the afterlife or anything like that but if your son is watching, I think he is so proud of his mom :l.