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Pavati;1636079 wrote: I'm BAAAAAACK! My trip went fine. It is so nice to have such great friends, and it is nice to be more and more public about quitting drinking. Missed you ladies!
Pav
scottish lass;1636125 wrote: I was coming to post about feeling good this evening, even though it is the end of the weekend:upset:
Bought a bird bath for my friendly hummingbirds - well not very friendly - aggressive little buggers, but I love them - and some tomato plants and a little colour....

So glad to hear that you had great AF weekends ! One great thing about being "reformed" is that we notice how much better our weekends (and Tuesdays and holidays and ... and ...) are without alcohol. An experience like we've all had is a great one for not taking even the littlest of things for granted.

:h NS

[little beagle]

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Being af has taught me to really enjoy the little things.
Pav glad you had a great time.
No sugar I personally am very proud of every single af day. I am like you and probably startle others with too much info about how long, etc.

Mossrose. Please don't give up on yourself. You are a special, thoughtful person. I would miss you.
This is the place to come when you are down, when you need a friend. You are our friend. Good times, bad times and all times between. We are here to help you. :l

[narilly]

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Moss, the drink is having a bad effect on you. Throw it out! It is a depressant, you don't need that, especially now. If anything is going to make you feel like crap it's AL.
We are here for you and we need you to be here for us!

Pav, so glad you had a great time with your friends. Interesting that they have AL issues too.

J-Vo, I agree about Facebook. That is funny about the article 'How to make yourself look good on Facebook'.

LB, SL, glad you are feeling good. So nice to read your posts. SL, nice you feed those nasty birds

AVA- 100!!!! YEAH!
That is Amazing! So proud of you girlie. Thank you for sharing your story. Your life seems so much better now. I guess it's worth sticking to. I bet your liver looks way better now than it did in November. I know mine does! Keep up the good work hon. I love your posts.
I read the last one, it took a couple of hours and it was a great read! Lol, ok maybe not that long.

It was +13 today and sunny. It's like heaven. Love it!

Goodnight.
XO Moss and all you beautiful Loamers.

[Pavati]

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MAE, all:

I think I posted on 50 threads today - good to get caught up. I am at post 933 - I guess I won't make senior member for my 100 days unless I post 67 times tomorrow. I guess if anyone can do it...

G'night. Mossy - come back!

xo

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Hello my lovely loamers, kids gone home, pizza's homemade and eaten (yes LC i cooked, never would have happened in my drinking days) and i have had the best day today. I think i finally have realised that yes it is me that has done 100 days and i so farking deserve to be proud and be here celebrating this with my family and you gorgeous wonderful people.

Jvo loved reading your post this morning, can you imagine me with a list of any sort? Nope and if i do do one, i either lose it or forget about it, i think with me not having a plan except to not drink was the only thing i could do otherwise i would have been overwhelmed and expecting way too much of myself. So no list, no journal, no plan except to be on here. I hope your dinner went well, you are doing so amazingly well with having no urges anymore and doesnt that make life easier to ones psyche! The inner fighting used to drive me nuts so i was so glad when that took a walk!

Pav, Pav, Pav, not long now for you girl and i love that i can read your posts and think, ffs that is me and how i feel. We are not alone on this, we just go through feelings and moments at different times, i am lucky to go through it with you. I love my quit buddy even though we did not know we were quitting at the same time i am blessed that you massacred when you did (have to be grateful for something out of that massacre!). I think we should celebrate in 50 day increments if that suits you, i have a feeling i will forget the days i am on but thank god for the date/day time dooby on google. Oh a dooby is a "thingy" lol.

Oh NS what a gorgeous pic of my girls, is that you in the front with the dark glasses and Jvo next to you? LC you scrubbed up pretty damn fine, just like the other girls.

Thanks Giraffe, i always figure if my waffling on and being honest helps one person then it is worth all of my journey to be af. I never thought anyone did, felt or went through what i did but we each have our own story and we all know its not a pretty one but my story is gettng prettier everyday, just like me! Well i look better than i did.

SL thank you and that ranch sounds so nice. My thoughts are if you are past the bikini stage then just go naked, all over tan, win win really! haha. I grew up in the country and loved it, i always wanted a horse so made a friend who had them but then realised i did not like horses at all, no brakes, no steering wheel but i still kept the friend.

LC thank you very farking much, i know that if it was not for you and you only when i came back on here and your confidence in me that i would not be at 100 days. I wanted to make you proud of me and i think i have achieved that today and i am very proud of you on this journey for being here for me and everyone and i have the confidence in you that you will get back to where you were, you are a strong valuable member of mwo and never forget that. You saved me!

Daisy glad to have you back, if it is too hard to plan then just plan not to drink each day and come on here and post like lunatic linda. Be proud of those 26 days but forget those moderating thoughts, they cant exist for us alcoholics. None of us are perfect lovely so just take each day as it comes.

My Roxy girl, thank you for your big congrats, you I know will get there and you know i am here for you. I love bouncing back and forth with you my friend.

Moss I hope you are okay, we are here, it is not hard to ask for help and receive it. All have the badge for failing with al many times but we are still giving it our best shot.

SL sounds like the weather is warming up if you are buying plants for the garden. I am glad you had a nice weekend, big difference not drinking i must say. Be happy you deserve it as we all do.

LB i too am proud of everyday af, i was not proud when drinking. no one has ever asked me how long i have not been drinking for, god forbid if they do as i will have the exact day, hour and minute but hey we are proud of our achievement and who wants to be normal anyways!

Nar, thank you lovely and YES it is so worth sticking too, no guessing it is as it is! My liver was fine when i had bloods done suprisingly and that was after 4 weeks af, bloody amazing i thought, now it probably thinks its someone elses but wont talk to my kidneys on how the feel. You are having a heat wave, out in the bikini to do some gardening i think and get a tan!

Pav give me your log-in details and i will waffle on for an hour or so to up your posts lol. Just bump every thread and BANG 67 posts in no time.

Well today was great, fantastic. I remember when i was a little girl and was given a "giggles" doll and a "chrissy" doll" for xmas and how excited i felt then and that about sums up how i have felt today, the little girl in me is starting to grow again and is happy, like the grown woman that I am is happy too.

I dont think i will ever feel again how i have felt today being sober and 100 days. It means that i have achieved what i thought was totally impossible to do, so now my goal is to keep sober and help others and waffle on like usual. I am sure Pav you will have the best day imaginable like i have on your 100th.

ta muchly my friends for being just here where we all belong. xxx

[Marylou123]

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Ava - happy 100! Your celebration sounds wonderful. I am closing in on 50 thanks to your verbosity (:H which I love); your comments and advice are dead-on, funny, blunt, inspiring, and always helpful. The next 100 will no doubt fly by!

P.S. You're already on a second scarf? My potholder just gets bigger and bigger. :H

[lifechange]

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Dear Ava, I think that is about the sweetest, most heartfelt post I've ever read! Also what you wrote to Moss..:h I am so happy for you. To hear you so strong and so full of joy fills MY heart! I love your waffling-- I was almost rolling on the floor with what you said about horses!:H Not so easy to drive something with a mind of it's own, is it? It's good to hear that you are planning to celebrate every 50 days, 'cause that was a blast!

Dear Moss, I hope you won't be leaving here for good. I don't know you so well, but I do know from reading your posts that you are a very thoughtful, loving person and I KNOW that you are an important part of this forum. You really helped me the other night with your response to some of the problems I've been having. You gave me courage to take a stand-- which I have been able to begin to put in to action. So thank you for that. It would be a huge loss for all of us if you left. And I think there are people who can help you here if you let them.:l

Pav, I am happy to have you back after such a nice weekend with friends. I was wondering if you have opened up to the friend who has admitted she has a problem? I loved Ava's idea of bumping up lots of your favourite threads to get up your post count. What a hoot!! To answer you question, I was born in CA but only actually lived there for about 3 years total. Otherwise I lived in Arizona, Alaska and WA-- and now I've been in Germany for 15 (!) years. Are you a Californian? Do you live there now? Are we celebrating your 100 on the beach??!

On day 5 I feel a bit emotional-- crying. Actually, maybe I have PMS! Could be.
I have the day mostly to myself and the sun is shining. And I have to say, with the crying included, I feel stronger than I have in a very long time. I feel like I am ready again (finally) to face my life head on. I'm afraid I may have said this exact same thing not so long ago so I'm not going to let myself get too excited. My goal again for today (because so far so good!) is not to let my mind wander too far into the past or future. To stay as much in the present as I can. And in doing that, just don't drink. I like the "simplicity" of it, like Ava.

A big HUG to NS, LB, Dottie, Nar, roxy, Moss, SL (I am so happy you're feeling so great! Tomatoes and Hummingbirds, what more could one ask for??), Giraffe and Daisy-- and everyone else checking in today.

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Marylou, I wish you'd post a picture of your pot-holder! I read as you wrote about it the other day and now I have this image of it taking over your house! or your town! Great going on 48 days!

[scottish lass]

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Ugg - Monday morning, after clock change, and raining - want to be in bed!!
LC - look after yourself, a few years back PMS was a big trigger for me - took a while to realise, and now I know that trigger PMS is no longer a problem:H:H
Crying is good - my tears always taste bad - i think it is the bad feelings inside coming out - as many have pointed out I need to cry a bit more - so treat yourself to a good cry.
Pav - glad you had a good weekend, and I am looking forward to your party tomorrow - I have frozen vanilla greek yoghury waiting (just 100 cals - 100 cals for 100 days:H).
Sticking to my diet - how is yours going j-vo? LC???
OK - got to get down to work....

[Dottie Belle]

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Hi Ladies,
Hope no men are lurking but if so maybe u can provide input too.
When I was drinking I didnt care about sex. Would just pass out and not care. Well now that AL is not in the picture it has become more important to me. DH had prostate cancer so plumbing does not work...he cant help it and I dont want to make him feel any worse than he already does but some nights ......I am just a little frustrated. Not worth drinking over but a big gap that I am going to figure out how to deal with....sigh.....

[narilly]

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Just a quick post to say Good morning! I used to be 'a little' hungover on Mondays SO often. It is sure nice to be here on Monday and just Feel Good! I love it! Walked to work this morning, and its only -1 outside, yup, finally warming up in Calgary. Today I am doing an exercise class at lunch time. I love it because they play music and I just forget about everything and work out. It is so nice to work out when I am NOT hungover!
SL, well I guess your drought is over. Its never Rains in California...I think that's a song.

Pav, I know you can get to 1000 posts, if anyone can do it, it's you!

Dottie, sex is a tricky thing when it comes to AL. I know that when I drank we did it way more often than when I am sober. So many times I don't even remember doing it which sucked. That always made me feel bad/guilty etc.

Ava, glad you are enjoying yourself. You deserve it. The pizza sounds totally wonderful! Homemade and everything.

Life, the sun is shining and so are you Have a great day. Marylou, are you going for the record with that pot holder?

Anyway, back to work ladies. xoxo

xo Mossy

[narilly]

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Ava, I was given a GIGGLES doll by my mom and dad when I was 4 or so. I loved that doll! Although I ended up cutting her hair and making her look kinda wierd. I was very happy to have her too.
Is that what is feels like to be 100 days sober? I'm going for it!

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I took a sick day today!!!!! And not because I'm hungover. Just because. Well, i do have lots of school work to do, which I haven't even started yet. But I did get a nice nap in after DS went to school. I got up normal time and was very crampy and thought, well, since I'm not in the lead for sick days, why not take one! My sick days were all about hangovers. And it's so nice just to relax at home by myself. NS, I guess I won't have a problem at the end of the month when the boys go away.

Nar and Ava, I did major damage to my dolls with hair cuts. Oh, I must have been an angry child.. Nar, good for you for stinking your co-workers out again today! You go girl!

Ava, no lists for you. I get it. I say to DH, did you write down such and such, and he says, yep, up here, pointing to his head. I guess lists are good for some, like the obsessive compulsive (me!)

LC - let it all out girl. I get that way. Even when I'm not PMS. I think it's healthy.

Marylou, congrats on your almost 50!!!

Dottie, I can't help you with that one. I'm the one not interested and I'm trying to work on that.

LB, Pav, Daisy, Roxy, Moss (please come and talk) SL, Humble, giraffe, have a great Monday.

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Hey loamers

well a short post today on day 101. I have work and i know it is going to be busy but thats okay, its the driving in peak hour that kills me. Been doing it for 6 years so should be used to it by now.

Mary nearly 50 woo hoo, sometimes the days just fly and other days it seems there are 72 hours in a day. My last ten days took about 10 years to get to 100. The longer we go the better we feel and stronger in every way. I dont have much use for pot holders as i dont cook much but i am up to scarf 3 and of course i bought the most difficultust wool to knit with but i will persevere.

LC cry away lovely, i dont really cry and that annoys me sometimes, i suppose i have repressed my emotions for so long being the strong one that its hard but give me a good movie and im off or an airport. god airports i just blubber, nothing like a good sob at an airport! I love that you feel ready again, its hard to get back to that way and keep it simple as i say, one day at a time you will not drink.

SL i am with you, not that crying is weak its just my eyes dont like to leak much, maybe i am too happy, no definitely not, but working on that one now. Frozen yogurt sounds yummy, i was slack yesterday so after work i will be whipping up a storm of ice cream with my juicer and blender, something nice and healthy.

Well Dot i had a smile when i read your post, not due to your hubs or your problems but my children know not to go to my top drawer. A single girl has to get it from somewhere and gees they have some great toys these days, all delivered discretely. Other than that no advice sorry.

A "little" hungover Nar, god i wish haha. Those were the days and thank god they are over for us. Kids were in shock getting food let me tell you but sometimes i find it just exhausting playing host now sober. i love it but it seems like i have to amuse everyone and do everything when before all i did was drink. Working on that one. I so loved Giggles and her pink hair and yes mine got a haircut too and then her head fell off her body and i put the head on the mantlepiece and it looked like chucky out of that horror movie.

Jvo you slacker having a day off, good on you and a sober on. Like your DH my lists are in my head, i may forget a few things but there is always the next day or the next to remember them. Yes i am sure i was an angry sad child as wll but i was happy also, i do remember that.

Pav i am not saying anything about your big day as even though it is today for me i am going to be patient and wait. I cant wait actually.

well shower time, be good and take care

xxxxx

[scottish lass]

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Lunch break - I am dragging today - can't get used to the time change, it has really thrown me off kilter this year.
Dottie - hmm, spring is in the air?? I was lying in bed just thinking - I am - cross that, was - similar to Nar and drinking helped my sex life - I left my husband three and a half years ago, and it was non existent before that....I am worried that I have lost desire, but I do like to read nooks with healthy sex in them - so I suppose I get my kicks that way - teh idea of dating and the rest scares the living daylights out of me. Top drawer Ava...I have looked on line, but never plucked up courage. Dottie - I know there are lots of people in a similar position (no pun:H) to you, and they can enjoy a healthy sex life - have you looked into help? a therapist?? My father had prostrate cancer too and I know they worked around it - I have no details (no thank you!!!) but they did find a way...
Yes Ava - tears only come at silly times - airport and books - when I know I need a good cry they don't come out - but when I can get it worked out I feel so much better