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Kailey,

What could we do that would help you stick with your goal? Different things work for different people so what I think you "need to do" may in fact be totally off base (so I won't go on and on here ).

I'm not really sure why I'm so gung-ho on getting people I've not even met to do this - I guess because it has been so transformational for me and if someone expresses the desire to change, it makes me want to do anything I can to help them because I think it is so worth it. It makes your life better and it makes the world a better place - one recovery at a time.

How can we help you?

:l NS

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j-vo;1679651 wrote:
Ava, Pav, Jane, and NS, will those pangs subside?

Yes. :h NS

[scottish lass]

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Hi j-vo, I am so impressed you made it through your holiday - mine is in a month, and will be thinking of you.
I think you, me and Narilly (hi Nar:wavin are in a similar place - it is so good to have a strong group ahead of us letting us know it is so worth soldiering on - I will be very happy when "those pangs" subside....
I am so loving the mornings - so happy, I even exclaim to myself how happy I am, but by the afternoon that glow is subsiding....and I become debbie downer again - at 4 1/2 months so by all accounts just a bit more to hang on for.
Daisy - how on earth have you lost all that weight? I am jealous! I am trying and it just isn't budging :upset: Would love that change to come....

[Eloise]

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NoSugar;1679608 wrote:
Great job on 50 days of AF living, Eloise!

You're doing so well and staying true to your commitment despite your headaches. That is impressive!



I guess this should be 1 artist, 50 days but this is as close as The Google could get .

Awhhhh, thanks NoSugar!!!! Now to keep things rolling in the right direction.

[Guitarista]

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NoSugar;1679659 wrote: Kailey,

What could we do that would help you stick with your goal? Different things work for different people so what I think you "need to do" may in fact be totally off base (so I won't go on and on here.

I'm not really sure why I'm so gung-ho on getting people I've not even met to do this - I guess because it has been so transformational for me and if someone expresses the desire to change, it makes me want to do anything I can to help them because I think it is so worth it. It makes your life better and it makes the world a better place - one recovery at a time.

How can we help you?

:l NS

You're a treasure Ms. NS! :h

Yo Loamers! :wavin:

Congratulations on 50 days AF Eloise. Bravo!

Visited an old girlfriend last night. Thought i'd git lucky. :upset: well, i did really. She is an amzing cook and the company was great. Always good to get out of my cave. :welcome:

I just noted with interest all the superb AF time being clocked up on this thread which i put down to the support and friendship, shared info, stories and more...... So cool.

Monday morning here and week 3 of the 6 week outpatient rehab program i'm doing. The core of it is Cognitive behavioural therapy or CBT. Today, a financial education session, then CBT. A bit tiring being in a 'classroom' all week, but a friendly vibe, good group and facilitators and I'm sticking with it.

This is such a beaut thread. Best wishes to y'all.

Greg. :h

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Hi everyone. Sorry for the absence, yet again. Hiya G. Nice to see you here. Sending love and support on the rehab program. And I agree - NS is a true treasure. She has saved my life a few times.

Have spent the last few days with friends - one is a man I used to be engaged to, and haven't seen in over 35 years. It's been interesting. And so much better that I could do it sober. He definitely doesn't remember me that way!!! Love to you all. Will read back and be a proper LOAMER again soon. xoxoxo

[Kailey]

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NoSugar;1679659 wrote: Kailey,

What could we do that would help you stick with your goal? Different things work for different people so what I think you "need to do" may in fact be totally off base (so I won't go on and on here ).:l NS

Hi, NS. At the end of the day, it's on me. Living an AF life is so close I can feel it. I have to believe that this time I have the tools I need to make it stick.

When I'm not doing well it's almost impossible to check In here. I need to work on that. I don't like the feeling of dragging the group down.

Also I'll never be one that can respond to everyone's posts, so to tell the truth at times I feel like I'm just taking and taking without anything to give back.

Anyway, it's day 2 for me and I'm feeling solid. I logged back on here because I know from the past my best results are when I come here. Thanks for caring NS. I'm going to be one of your success stories!

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Kaily please take as much as you want, that is what we are here for and in time you will give back and you do give already to MWO. By not drinking you are showing other newbies the way to go and by coming back also. Keep on here and keep reading if not posting. I was a habitual poster when i first stopped drinking, it got me through some really tough times and it does take pure determination to say no to al.

NS you my friend are a treasure, i dont think i need to elaborate on that fact that you have helped me enormously to get to where i am and give me the push that i needed when i was so (un) happily moderating when my daughter got married and i was procrastinating about giving up. That "one day" never happens unless we are pushed to give it our best shot and luckily i was ready to quit.

Mr G, i am so glad the program is going well. We can only try different avenues and find one right for us. God, hibernating in winter is really the best option. I did manage to get out and go shopping with my daughter on the weekend but "my cave" is the best at the moment.

Jane, what a lovely colour though i dont feel that colour in winter, more a puce brown or something, if there is such a colour.

Pat, hope you made it safely to your holiday destination and you enjoy the week off. Is it cooler there or just as damn hot as where you live? Send some heat my way please.

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daisy45;1679572 wrote: Wags, I feel for you.....I have relocated a few times....the hardest was actually coming home after 12 years away....felt so out of it....when I eventually made friends and told them how I felt when they got together and I was left out, they felt so bad....just never thought.....it will take time...
But, while I was feeling left out and lonely, I believe that is when my problems with alcohol really took off....wine became my friend, support.....we all know the rest.....isn't hindsight wonderful?

Weighed myself today....I have lost a stone in total, most since gong AF and the added exercise....chuffed!

Daisy - Sorry I didn't see your post earlier, and I hope you're feeling better! Thanks for the empathy. Loneliness turned me more toward drinking as well, although I didn't really realize it at the time. I thought drinking would help me be more social, but in fact it actually isolated me more. This whole experience is rather new for me. I've always had a good circle of friends, but the past several years have involved so many changes (including a few moves to new cities), and I've just never re-established myself in one or more groups. Time to change that though, and I'm feeling really good about all of the steps I'm taking. I know in time I will find some great people.

That's awesome about your weight loss, assuming it was intentional. I don't weigh myself, but based on how I look and how clothes fit, I would guess I've lost about 5kg or 10+ lbs since I stopped drinking. I'd love to lose that same amount more, and it's very motivating to see the AL bloat and weight coming off with good nutrition and exercise.

Kailey;1679716 wrote: Hi, NS. At the end of the day, it's on me. Living an AF life is so close I can feel it. I have to believe that this time I have the tools I need to make it stick.

When I'm not doing well it's almost impossible to check In here. I need to work on that. I don't like the feeling of dragging the group down.

Also I'll never be one that can respond to everyone's posts, so to tell the truth at times I feel like I'm just taking and taking without anything to give back.

Anyway, it's day 2 for me and I'm feeling solid. I logged back on here because I know from the past my best results are when I come here. Thanks for caring NS. I'm going to be one of your success stories!

Kailey - I can only speak for myself, but personally, I get support and ideas from everyone's posts, whether they are offering suggestions or asking for help or just saying hi to others. All of these things help keep the group vibe alive and energized. Everyone else's experiences help me reflect on my own and learn something about myself, and I'm guessing that at least some other people feel the same. What I'm saying is that you are giving more than you realize, even if you're coming here primarily to report in and/or ask for help.

Please keep coming and participating in whatever way works best for you. I can understand why it would be hard when you aren't doing well, I really can. However, remind yourself of your own words - your best results are when you come here.

:huggy

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jane27;1679436 wrote: I am beat! Our little party was a great success but my favorite part of today was how much love and support I felt from you guys. After my husband and family you are the most important people in my life, and my gratitude is boundless. Love to each of you. X

Glad your party was such a success, Jane! It seems like you're starting to feel better as well, is that the case?

Love the blue color - can't wait to get there and feel it. For now, my AF color is sunshine yellow, as I just feel happier in general.

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MAE Girlies,
Settling in for the night. Going to continue reading a book I took on vacation and really didn't read as I hate to miss everything going on around me and having my nose in the book would make me miss out.

Kaily,
Please stay and post. Just don't worry about asking for help now, post how you're feeling, and connecting in any way you can and want to. There are no rules in this Loamers thread except to be accepting of others, encouraging, and sending a little love here and there. Cyber hugs are great.

Thanks Jane and NS for your reassurance. That does mean lots to me to know that each and every day it will get better and easier.

SL and Nar - yes, I feel as we three are on similar roads right now. If we can just keep adding our days one by one, then that's all we can do. We've got to have faith in what the long term abbers are saying and I certainly have faith in them. Maybe we three need to work on our gratitude lists, drill those thoughts into our minds more? I don't want to go through the rest of my life being in situations that cause me sadness or wishing that I could have one. I want that to go away for good, but other changes need to take place in order for that to happen. We are still early in sobriety. Anything under 5 years is early as I've read. I want to be here in 5 years knowing that my sobriety is pretty set in stone, although not cocky enough to think that the work is done. The work is never done, like exercising to keep our bodies strong. If we stop, we get flabby and we don't want that. We have to stay on top of our game. Together.

Ok. Night girls!

[daisy45]

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SL. Nar, J-vo, Ava.....you are looking at long-termers for their stories and inspiration to keep going....I do too, but for where I am right now, you are mine....when I wonder if I can actually do it, you lot keep me going....just so you know.....

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Thank you Daisy! That makes me feel good that I'm helping you!:h:l

G-man, I'm so glad you're progressing through your outpatient rehab. Good for you! And thanks for stopping in. It's always nice to hear from you.

SL, Nar, and all the Loamers...I was reading Unpickled tonight. She wrote this blog recently, and I thought it applied:

UnPickled | My story of self-managed recovery… from daily drinker to alcohol-free living

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daisy45;1679744 wrote: SL. Nar, J-vo, Ava.....you are looking at long-termers for their stories and inspiration to keep going....I do too, but for where I am right now, you are mine....when I wonder if I can actually do it, you lot keep me going....just so you know.....

That is why I think it is good to have people at all stages, including people who are struggling in the early days, actively involved. The "group wins" would be pretty few and far between if we all had years and years of sobriety - keeps it fresh and inspiring to celebrate with others. On the other hand, imagine the chaos in the newbies nest if Byrdie and Lav weren't there. We all have something to offer and like Wags said, any one of us might be helping someone without being aware of it. :hug:

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Kailey don't feel like you have nothing to contribute. Being able to reach back and give someone help achieve their goal is a big part of what keeps me going. Active here. It gives me interest. Sharing my experiences makes them a little more real. It keeps my quit strong. You are helping me by asking for help.