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[Pavati]

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Night, all.

Getting my son ready to go away for a four week summer program after a 12 mile solo hike today. I'm pooped to say the least. I'll be gone for a few days and might not check in as much - I'll be reading but have such a hard time posting on my phone that you might not hear from me as much.

I did branch out from the Bubble Hour podcast to the Moth (great story telling) and WTF (Marc Maron, comedian, interviews interesting people - watch for irreverent humor and swear words). I actually felt like that was a significant step in my sobriety - my willingness to step away from the Bubble Hour. I have been a bit obsessed, in case you couldn't tell. I read some of the Six Year Hangover, too - he's a good blogger and mentions the Bubble Hour several times.

Happy weekend - sorry I don't have time to read all the way back. Hope all is well.

xo
Pav

[lifechange]

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Pav!! 12 miles is impressive. No wonder your pooped! Thanks for the other recommendations and have a great weekend. Look forward to hearing from you when you're back!

WAGS! a lot going on in your world. 4am is an early wake up call, for sure. It really shows how passionate you are about rowing! I like J-vo's suggestion regarding what to say to your new friends. It is fortunate that they only know you as a non-drinker-- and probably as soon as you feel comfortable/confident about being around them with your af drink, it will all fall into place. It's so strange, when one really thinks about it, that there should be anything wrong or unusual about not drinking alcohol..

Yesterday I ran into a good friend of ours on the street. He started out as a good friend of my BF, but he and his wife and another couple have become good friends of mine and people that I have tended to drink A LOT with. His birthday was Tuesday night and I opted not to go-- I also only congratulated him through my BF. When I met him he gave me a huge hug and I apologized for not coming over for his birthday-- said that I'd been feeling anti-social. He said that they'd had a good time (it was also WC finals) and that my BF had declined even sharing a beer with him, saying that "we" aren't really drinking any more. I just spurted out that actually it's me who can't and doesn't want to drink any more and that the BF is being so supportive-- he asked why and I said that it's one of, probably THE major reason I turn into such a "freak"--(he has seen me as one!)-- he asked how I was feeling now and I said great. He said I looked great and we made a date to grill when he and his family get back from their vacay in mid August. I hadn't planned on saying anything, but I'm glad I have it out in the open, as I think with this small group it's the only way I can get away with not drinking. Because the other man in the group has struggled himself with alcoholism (he's drinking again like crazy) I've sort of always known they'd understand and accept it, if and when I was able to say it like it is. I like myself so much more when I don't drink. I am so much more confident. I still get giggle fits like a kid (as you've mentioned, Pav), I am so much more empathetic and so much better able to listen to others, I'm much less self centered, I am gentler with myself and my faults, I am much calmer in everything I do- not rushing around, planning my life around when I can drink. That was so stressful!

:h to everyone!!

[lifechange]

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Thinking of you, Ava, as I clean the house! I have been procrastinating the past 2 weeks, 'cause usually cleaning means drinking. I remember the first time I asked my wine shop guy if he could recommend a nice white house cleaning wine.. he gave me a funny look, then laughed and said he hadn't heard that one before. I think I thought I was clever for suggesting something he hadn't yet heard. I know most of us are more than familiar with that scenario. I almost thought of getting an AF beer for the job-- just for a second or 2. Then I decided instead to put on Fleetwood Mac Rumours really loud, drank a liter of cold water with lemon juice and prepared a coffee for the freezer for an afternoon treat.
Here's to all of us who can get the boring house work done without alcohol---I'm finding lots of huge dust bunnies!!

[available]

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LC where the hell did a "nice white house cleaning wine" come from. I would have looked at you like you were an alien WTF. that is so funny, oh god i am still laughing. I love listening to Pink when i clean but atm my steam mop is broken, it has been raining and i have a house full of tiles so the house looks like a brothel oh and my shoulder is stuffed so i might come and chill at yours.

[lifechange]

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Come chill at mine, honey! We have warm sunny weather and we can sit on the balcony with an iced coffee--Sounds like my idea of Australia! I'm always shocked to hear it when you undies are talking about a cold winter-- I always think, yeah right, like they know what cold is!:H but it does get quite cold and wet!! What's with your shoulder? If I remember right, you have a chronic condition? Does icing or heating it help? And you will get some physiotherapy, right? Love to you, dear Ava!

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i think i have bursitis, well that is what the dr says but until i have the ultrasound i have no idea. i do know the pain last night was nearly crying material. it is a lot better today as i have not been doing much. Oh our winters are nothing like yours but we do love a good bitch about the weather, reknown for that one. My mum told me to ice my shoulder and i told her to jump in the lake, way too cold for icing but have been putting a heat pack on it. Now i think the flight only takes 24-30 hours so i should be there my Monday, it would be so nice to get away but heading up to my mums in 2 weeks and its warm up there or they see the sun!

[lifechange]

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so Ava, I read about bursitis (didn't know what it was) and it looks like it will be treatable. Hopefully your doctor will be able to help you. Until then, it looks like your mom was right about icing!! She must have googled it as well! Remind me again of where she lives? How long does it take for you to get there? A bit of sun is always good for the spirit, even if the air temperature is cool--don't you agree? Why don't you pop over directly after your visit with her...
House is clean and the girls are here!! Time for the fun to begin..

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Enjoy the girls and remember dont stress. yes she googled it as well bless her. she is about a 4 hour flight and lives in Queensland which is mainly hot and humid whereas Melbourne is four seasons in one day so you learn to dress in layers so you can take them off and put them back on again. I cant wait to get some vitamin D. Its a deal i will visit mum and fly to yours, oh i wish i was a millionaire or married to one. Its treatable just very very painful, glad it is in my left arm as i am right handed. The joy of getting older! I swear i was weller when i was drinking ha ha.

Congrats on 2 weeks LC, i am sure from your posts that you have hit that switch and its so good to see and hear you being so positive. Big Aus hugs to you. xx

[lifechange]

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:l:h:l:h-- I think it's unfortunately difficult to find a good millionaire. Most of them are a**holes and we all know you don't put up with a lot of crap!!! Know what you mean, though. I wouldn't mind having few extra bucks-- I know flights to Australia cost a bomb. But it would be nice if all the Loamers could meet somewhere for a long weekend...Maybe someday. See you in awhile, dear Ava-- must be getting close to your bedtime!!

[wagmore]

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lifechange;1681734 wrote: Pav!! 12 miles is impressive. No wonder your pooped! Thanks for the other recommendations and have a great weekend. Look forward to hearing from you when you're back!

WAGS! a lot going on in your world. 4am is an early wake up call, for sure. It really shows how passionate you are about rowing! I like J-vo's suggestion regarding what to say to your new friends. It is fortunate that they only know you as a non-drinker-- and probably as soon as you feel comfortable/confident about being around them with your af drink, it will all fall into place. It's so strange, when one really thinks about it, that there should be anything wrong or unusual about not drinking alcohol..

Yesterday I ran into a good friend of ours on the street. He started out as a good friend of my BF, but he and his wife and another couple have become good friends of mine and people that I have tended to drink A LOT with. His birthday was Tuesday night and I opted not to go-- I also only congratulated him through my BF. When I met him he gave me a huge hug and I apologized for not coming over for his birthday-- said that I'd been feeling anti-social. He said that they'd had a good time (it was also WC finals) and that my BF had declined even sharing a beer with him, saying that "we" aren't really drinking any more. I just spurted out that actually it's me who can't and doesn't want to drink any more and that the BF is being so supportive-- he asked why and I said that it's one of, probably THE major reason I turn into such a "freak"--(he has seen me as one!)-- he asked how I was feeling now and I said great. He said I looked great and we made a date to grill when he and his family get back from their vacay in mid August. I hadn't planned on saying anything, but I'm glad I have it out in the open, as I think with this small group it's the only way I can get away with not drinking. Because the other man in the group has struggled himself with alcoholism (he's drinking again like crazy) I've sort of always known they'd understand and accept it, if and when I was able to say it like it is. I like myself so much more when I don't drink. I am so much more confident. I still get giggle fits like a kid (as you've mentioned, Pav), I am so much more empathetic and so much better able to listen to others, I'm much less self centered, I am gentler with myself and my faults, I am much calmer in everything I do- not rushing around, planning my life around when I can drink. That was so stressful!

:h to everyone!!

Just a quickie before I head out for a day of paddling races...

LC - Thanks for your encouragement - I really appreciate it! The convo you had with your friend is AWESOME! It sounds like the whole interaction made you really happy, and I can totally see why. I'd call it a victory! So nice when our friends turn out to be understanding and supportive, and even better that your BF stood strong and in alliance with you, even when you weren't there. Good luck with your sober cleaning today - you can do it!

Ava - sorry to hear about the bursitis pain I hope you're able to find some relief. Wish I could send you some of the blazing hot weather we're in the middle of here right now. Hugs to you. :l

Ok, out the door... catch you all later...

[j-vo]

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MAE Pretty Ladies and Gents,

Mom3,
hang in there. It's so difficult in the beginning, because life doesn't stop. These same situations will occur in the future, but in the future, it seems easier to deal with. Well, some do. I'm working really hard on letting go of what I can't change about others. And limiting your time with things that frustrate you, if possible, is a must at first. No, we can't continue to avoid situations, but we can limit them for our sake in the beginning. Take deep breaths. Bring yourself to the present moment (LC says). Keep posting.

LC,
That a great story!!!! Thank you for sharing, Dear. Doesn't it feel liberating to let these things out slowly to some people that you can trust? I felt that way too, when some people I trust questioned me. And the people that truly care about you will be happy for you. I know my SIL doesn't give two shits about me or anyone but herself, so when she heard that I wasn't drinking on vaca last week, she went behind my back and questioned my MIL, BIL, and DH about it and asked each one of them if it was my choice or if I had to quit. She didn't ask me anything. She just looked at me like I was crazy. She's a problem drinker, so you'll have that with people that over drink. Thanks for sharing that story. And have a super time with your girls. How wonderful to be free of the poison and be able to put all of your energy into your girls.

Pav,
what are your hikes like? Is it beautiful? I'm sure it is. I've never hiked, but I'm sure that experience is great for mind, body, and soul. That's a long time for your son to be away! Good luck with that. Is he excited? Does he do this camp every summer? Do you visit throughout the 4 weeks? Sorry for the questions.

Kailey,
the diet was out the window for me, too. I'd say just get through at least the month without worrying about that. Too much on our minds will overwhelm us and that, we don't need. Thinking about sobriety is enough!! Take it easy, my girl.

Daisy,
Great post. Acceptance is huge in sobriety. It's what makes it all click and takes away the deprivation. I soooooo agree with you that once we can accept that we are alcoholics, it makes everything so much easier. Wow. And I guess it takes longer for some than others to realize this, but I think this is so important.

Wags,
PiYo is amazing!!!! It's going to take a lot of getting used to the moves. There are several videos and DVD's in the package. It cost about 60 and I can tell you that I'm going to love it and I"d recommend it to anyone. I didn't get the bundle package that has the more advanced PiYo also, and I can't forsee me needing that for many years. This is something that will take a while to learn, but I know that results will come. I've been pretty sore this past week, but with any new program, that's a given. What I love about it is that you're not bouncing up and down, but really focusing on stretch, strength, and she makes it so that your heart rate increases so that you have cardio as well. My sisters coming over to do the sweat video in a few minutes. I did that one on Thursday and I loved it. So, yes, I can see this delivering great results and I love Chalene Johnson, so I really enjoy doing the workouts with her. There's a girl that does modifications in the videos, and I've been doing some of them but not all. It's really hard to keep up with the moves at times, but that'll come with practice.

Have a great day all!

[j-vo]

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Wags,
Also, she give you instruction on everything first. Then a schedule: Define lower body, define upper body, sweat, define lower body, upper body, core, buns...I like that. And with a few of them, i did do a little cardio afterwards as I didn't sweat as much, but the building muscles is really happening as I can feel them under my fat!!!!!!!

[NoSugar]

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This makes MWO look like a great deal! http://nyti.ms/1kf5RcF
I would much rather have all of you :hug:.

Bad Internet on travels so hi/bye and have a great sober weekend!

[Kailey]

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Feeling very blessed this morning to be among you. You are quite the group! Heading out the door for a busy day. Nice to be doing it with a clear head and conscious! Life is good!

[momofthree]

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Very busy day here, just posted in the Newbies Nest as well and I am happy to report that I did not stop and buy any AL today even though the weather is nice and it did cross my mind. I seem to want to drink more when I'm happy then when I'm sad. Seems I associate it with good times, but really the good times are not here for long before I'm slurring and having blackouts. Stocked the fridge full of delicious food, had fun taking the kids to huge yardsales and letting them pick out the toys they wanted. It's a beautiful day, and my husband will be home in a few hours with steaks for the BBQ. Life is good when you're sober.