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[scottish lass]

Hugs LB - well done for your attitude, that is huge and will see you through all this - you are one strong lady...

well, wonder if I will get my tree up (or even bought) today - can someone postpone Christmaslease:

[narilly]

SL, once you get going that tree will be up in no time! I know, Christmas can be pretty overwhelming. Don't push yourself too hard.

[jane27]

SL, belated congrats, hugs and high 5s on 300 days done splendidly!
NS, are we talking house guests? I hope you are taking everything in stride and putting you first. I know you know that your inner peace is essential before you can take car of anyone else.
lil, I owe you a call back. These darn electricians have been here all week, and they tap me on the shoulder every 5 mins to ask a question. It was so nice hearing your voice. Going to try you next week.
Thinking of my Gloamer family with much love & gratitude. Xo

[scottish lass]

Tree up, house decorated - back on track! Cookie baking for neighbors today!!

[NoSugar]

Well, the craziness is about to begin... I'm psyched and determined to appreciate the things that are good and to let go of the things that aren't and that I can't change.

Hope all Gloamers are doing well and enjoying the season. xx, NS

[scottish lass]

Keep up the attitude NS - own what is yours and give the rest back! Enjoy yourself...you are sounding much more positive than a few days ago, and that is great:hug:

[scottish lass]

Me again - asking here as not sure where to find answer. There were posts that I recall reading about leaving behind the effects of drinking. I did not take it all in as I recall it seemed like a really long time into recovery that some effects were turned around. I really seem to have memory problems - I am known for a good memory - I can find things, or recall that they were discussed (as in this post) but I don't recall details. Will this change? Does anyone else recall good posts about the changes occurring with sobriety? and can point me in the right direction?

[NoSugar]

Hi, SL

I don't remember the discussion (so I guess that says something about my brain... :wink but my experience has been that mental issues of all sorts have almost imperceptibly but steadily improved during this second year. I've read websites that say it takes 5-7 years for normalization. That sounds depressing but I feel pretty darn good now and if things can get even better, I'm all for it!

My memory lapses come now when I'm rushed, stressed, and/or or trying to multi-task. That might be due to my sketchy past, age, or to the fact that humans in general try to do too much at one time.

Thanks for saying I'm sounding better about the holidays :hug: xx- NS

[available]

Hi loamers (g)

Well i am officially on hols till 5th January and i feel better already even though its only the weekend. We had our work lunch and i drank water, i was asked if i wanted a wine and its lovely to just say no without the internal fighting going on. One of my work colleagues knows i am an alcoholic so i had someone to watch my back just in case. There were not many people not drinking i noticed.

NS hope your day went well. The madness will be over soon and it will be January and you will be 2 years af, woo hoo.

SL god some days my memory is a shocker and it lasts for a week or so but it is getting less. I just tell people i may forget by tomorrow so remind me again. Tye just came in and asked me something and i thought he said he was going to Sydney to dance at the SCG (Sydney Cricket Ground). I thought "thats nice dear", when he actually said "can i have a ciggie". Yep my thought process is crap ha ha. Stress makes my mind go wonky.

LB i go and smell the grass now when i am stressed especially with work and Robert. I just go and look at the sky and think i have to grateful for another day healthy and alive. There are a lot of people worse off than I am though sometimes it so does not feel like it. Hugs to hubs, he sounds a bit depressed which is understandable especially it being xmas too.

Well i faced the maddening crowds yesterday and still did not get the shopping finished. I am not a fan of xmas, i spoil my kids throughout the year when i want, i hate feeling obligated to do it on the 25th. It will be lovely though to spend it with the four of them. I will go and visit mum on the 28th, it saves family fighting if she is not around. I love her dearly but she does not think before she speaks and then i end up with a dysfunctional family that i have to fix again. Not worth it.

Off to see Robert tomorrow as he will be in hospital for xmas. He is not really getting any better but he has not lost hope so i have not either.

Take care everyone xxxx

[little beagle]

Have a nice holiday Ava. I am envious. I too think about how lucky I am to be as healthy as I am. As much crap as I did it's surprising, but I am grateful.
Christmas party tonight. I was relaxed. I use to get so stressed before these things. Not drinking has really helped me socially. No worries about drinking too much and I've gotten more relaxed with myself.
:hug:Jane.

[narilly]

Sounds like everyone is doing well. I am hittin the sack. Had a super busy day holding an 80th birthday party for my mom. It was at her house and all her neighbours came over. She has great neighbours so we fed and watered them all and it was a great time. No AL involved since my mom does not drink.
Anyway, I am so bagged and am going to sleep.

Thankful to be sober.

NS, you are sounding better. Ava, I am with you on the presents. I buy my kids stuff all year. Actually this year we are not having presents just chocolate and cinnamon roles. We will probably play some games like chess or clue or something.
LilB, good on ya not drinking and not stressing about it.

Goodnight Gloamers.

[abcowboy]

Hi to all the gloamers! Sunday morning here, coffee in hand, Bubba on my left, Hank on my right, sober, hangover free, and spending some quality time with my MWO friends, life doesn't get much better than this! :happy2: Oh wait, it can, it's the Winter Solstice in our hemisphere so we'll start seeing a bit more sunshine in our lives each day, in more ways than one!

And if you run into Scottish Lass today, give her a :hug:

she celebrates her 10 month milestone today! Congratulations SL!

[scottish lass]

In bed with a cup of tea, and doing a quick check in on my phone - was just going to read through to see what everyone was up to - I had forgotten abcowboy so thank you very much! Yesterday I was sorely tempted but this makes fighting the urge worth it
Hope Bubba and Hank are behaving

[little beagle]

Stressful weekend. I'm almost glad to be going back to work.

[NoSugar]

Me too, LB. I had one meltdown this afternoon with non-family member witnesses (pretty unheard of for me) and even dropped a couple F-bombs I was so upset (very unheard of!). After the crisis was resolved, the rest of the day was fine (and I even got a couple high-fives on my new language skills :wink. I think the tension was still there though because when I was taking a bath this evening, I broke down sobbing again - this time about everything I've been stressed about. But one thing that really hit me was that even though I was crying my head off, I was so glad to be sober and acknowledging what I was so upset about. In the past when I've lost it, I always told myself I felt so bad because I was drinking - that whatever I was upset about wouldn't be such a big deal if I weren't drinking, and on and on. It feels so much better to just accept how I feel and not blame it on something else. It's not pretty or fun but it's real. And right now, the tension is gone - I think because I actually dealt with it and for now, have been able to let some things go.