April Acceptance

[Lavande]

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Good evening friends,

Just got home afternoon an afternoon out - in public - with real people, LOL
My daughter had gotten tickets to a local theater so the two of us went to see the musical production of 'Newsies'. It was awesome!
Such energy & talent, always amazes me to see a live show. Then we met granddaughter & the menfolk & had a tasty Chinese meal, Dim Sum, my favorite.

Star, two little boys can & will trash your house every chance they get, ha ha!!!
Glad you had a good weekend with them & nice weather too.

Pauly, let me get this straight - your daughter is dating a guy old enough to be her father?? Did I get that right? I don't think I could be OK with that sorry to say.
I hope the rest of your weekend was good

Cyn, a fall like that is what happened to my daughter a year & a half ago, remember? I fell on the steps almost 18 years ago & almost did myself in, ugh. I am so happy you didn't hurt yourself badly but please keep that foot elevated, iced & wrapped in an ace for a few days. I think we get so overtired that we don't really pay attention to what we're doing & that's when accidents happen, take care!

SK, I feel bad talking about having a nice afternoon with my daughter when yours is being so peculiar. I am sorry you have to deal with this on top of everything else :hug:
I wonder if Vivian has access to a phone or computer - could she possibly call or text you like my grandson does sometimes? At least if you could communicate that way it would help relieve some of the tension. I wish I had better ideas for you. Please know that we all support you & wish for the best.

Tomorrow is the last day of April & summer apparently is due to start this week, crazy, huh?
Peace to everyone tonight!

Lav

[Snoopy56]

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Good morning...

Skendall, it really is awful that your daughter is freezing you out and denying you Vivian, I am so sorry. We are here to support you, please take care and do something nice for yourself today.

Cyn, grateful you did not break anything, I fell last Sunday and scared the heck out of myself, plus my wrists hurt for a couple of days. Trying to take it slow, but accidents happen. I know you will rest and ice that ankle, hopefully have a little spring weather this week. I defintely want to be outside this week, the weather is predicted to be in the 70s and sunny, yay!!!!!

Pauly, you would have laughed and us after the grandkids left. We picked up, ran a few errands, ate out and layed on the couch like slugs. We were exhausted. It was fun, but I could not do that every day. They both loved the park and the hot tub, my son was here and helped so much. Building memories and relationships, the little guy who is shy is comfortable with us and we are happy about that. Hope you have a good week. The restaurant sounded fun. Hope Michelle met a nice guy, early days, right?

Lav, how fun to attend a play, I love live performances too! Hopefully we both will have lovely spring weather this week, I have to watch out for the poison ivy too, especially at my son's condo. Unknown territory. It is supposed to rain later in the week, so I may go to his yard on Saturday and start digging and mulching. Last day of April, my goals for May include more exercise, AF of course, and planting. Oh, and the zoo, I renewed our Grandparents membership and want to take the grandsons a few times this month, it is a wonderful place.

Have a great AF Monday.

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Star,sounds like us yesterday haha,lazy Sundays are sometimes the best anyways Cyn,omg I'm so sorry you fell! Thank goodness you didn't break anything though,,be careful Lav,if the guy had her when he was 12 I guess he could be old enough to be her father,,but even if he was she's an adult,,why should I "not be ok with it" and stress out? Did that enough with the other guy,SK,I'm really sorry you don't get to see Viv much,that really breaks my heart and I wonder if there's a smidge of jealousy in why your daughter keeps her away? Anyhoo,wishes for a nice,free Monday for us all!

[SKendall]

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Good morning.

Cyn, it's just awful to injure any extremities and I empathize. You need a fully functional body to do the things you do.:hug: Lav has the best advice.

Star, I want to garden! I love gardening, bird watching, etc. My garden is now container planting on my patio from a chair but it's still something. I will buy citronella plants this week, they were very effective last year, along with the electronic thingy, I bought at Amazon.
Lav, that sounds like a wonderful time. I love theatre. My late husband used to paint the sets, he was very talented that way. Later, he started acting in the plays and what a ham bone!. It allowed him another satisfying
talent later in life. Sounds like a perfect day for you and your family.

Hi Pauly, I have to read back, I didn't see the post regarding the new boyfriend. You struck on an important subject when you mentioned jealousy. It would sound very conceited to say that, but when I refer to her insecurities that's what I mean.

For many years I used to drive from WA to TX for the winter. SIL always used to praise me about that. When DD went back to work after Vivian I was the care giver for Vivian, SIL used to say how much laughter he heard in a day. Husband was supposed to move here with me (instead of having an affair, lol) and I had to go back a few times because he was suffering aneurysms. They got a new babysitter for weekdays and Vivian would come on weekends. I set up my spare bedroom as her room with painting easels, etc, not allowed at her house. She used to make me "tea" with glitter and paint in it which I would pretend to sip and spit it out in horror. She loved that and once wet her pants! These special moments of laughter continued until this last year. When her parents told her I was moving here, they took a video of her crying, saying "happy tears". DD became resentful and that's where we are today. SIL once remarked that I was very successfully independant, whatever.

I'm off to find a surgeon who will do the implant of spacers, I am heading for depression and need to head it off.

[SKendall]

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P.S. Lav or anyone, please don't feel bad about posting your experiences, I love to read them.

[Lavande]

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Good evening friends,

It was a nice day, sun & comfortably cool. Not exactly excited about the 90 degree weather heading here on Thursday. What's up with that?

Star, I love to be outside too when the weather is nice. I am a meltdown mess when the heat & humidity arrive.
I am still sporting long sleeves due to the poison ivy issue. One area, where it blistered & opened up (about a 4" long opening) has really not healed yet. It's red, hard, opens occasionally - basically it's infected. I don't want to take antibiotics so I'm treating it accordingly. It will go away eventually but boy is it going to leave a scar, haha!
We really enjoyed the show yesterday. That small theater puts on about 4 big shows/year & some smaller ones just for kids. I think I'll make a point of going back when they move to the next show. That theater was just a movie theater when I was a kid, it hasn't changed a bit!
Glad you had the full experience of the boys this weekend, they are exhausting, LOL

Pauly, I didn't mean to be rude about the boyfriend, sorry.
I just have a serious problem with old men chasing women young enough to be their daughters. It's just weird that some men can't relate to people their own age.

SK, you certainly are an independent woman, something that should make you proud! We can't make people see the 'real' us, they only see what they want to see. I hope your daughter has a change of heart, anything is possible.
I wish you luck finding a surgeon you like, not always an easy thing to do. Chronic pain & depression go hand in hand, it's understandable. YB's younger brother has had two back surgeries (not sure what was done) & he deals with pain issues as well. I noticed recently that his attitude has really changed & he is not the happy go lucky guy he always was in the past. I am trying to talk to him about looking into medical cannabis for pain relief. I even sent him a video of Sanjay Gupta (neurosurgeon) explaining why it works so well. Maybe he will watch it, maybe he won't. I'm just hoping he does something to get off the opioids. His nailbeds are blue - not good!
I hope you can get things settled & take that rip to see your sister - it would be wonderful.

Cyn, I've been thinking about you & hope you & your foot/ankle are OK.

Have a nice night everyone!
Lav

[treegirl]

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Hi all -
Did I not post yesterday? I drove (yes I did) to my SD's city to pick up HB who had trained in to have lunch with her. I declined to drive into the city- too dangerous with a damaged right foot, but I went to the outskirts of town so that I could see her and get HB and have him drive home. That was a 3 hour round-trip, and I really didn't need that... I was so exhausted by the move and my fall that I just wanted to stay in bed and cry! But I got myself together and did it.

I iced and elevated my foot the rest of the day, And it is healing pretty quickly. The bruises are pretty dramatic though! I bound it up well again today and had to go over to my clients to take care of things to be donated and all,sorts of other stuff. I managed pretty darn well, and I am thanking my dear feet and hands for hanging in there with me and handling things with so much endurance. I am lucky.

Dear SK, what a story about your daughter... jealousy sounds like it really is at the core of all this... drat it all. Stay close to us here - I know depression well, and I truly hope you can sidestep it... we are sending all light your way... hang in there, I think you will find the right doc.

Star, so,glad you did not hurt yourself badly when you fell. Good for you for gardening! Enjoy - your son is doing pretty well for now?

Pauly, I also have not been to Denny's in a looooong time. I'm pretty sure that there is nothing on the menu that I could have at this point... but I love the idea! Enjoy!

Lav, so sorry about the PI, good luck with that healing. I love the idea of you going to the live theater often! As a former performer, I must say that an appreciative (large) audience is always a wonderful thing -- I loved the giving and receiving of energy that happens in a performance.

Well, sleepy now from my day working at my client's house, and then proof-reading deadline things all evening. My poor HB is wondering why he came home! But press deadlines wait for no man. Hopefully tomorrow will be a little better and easier and we'll have some time together.

"I have amazing strength within me."
To the light --