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**Lavande** · June 6, 2021, 05:20 PM

Re: 6th June

Good evening folks,

Grossly hot & humid here just like they said it would be, yuck. I’ve only been out to run some chilled snack over to the chickens a few times. They don’t do well in this excess heat & humidity either.

Det, I’m sorry you were put in that situation. It wasn’t something you asked for certainly. No damage done with a few beers but they also probably didn’t really help anything either. I’ll be completely honest here, my years of crazy drinking had everything to do with my inability to accept the reality of what was going on in my life ie husband. He seemed determined to do exactly opposite of what I thought he should/would do in almost any situation. This was after 25 years of marriage, he was turning into something unrecognizable. I finally had to emotionally detach myself so I could get a grip & survive. I read a good bit of buddhist teachings & they made sense to me. Detach yourself from other people’s behavior, you can’t control them or change them, They have to want to do that themselves.
I hope you can find a group nearby & get some local support. Like mick said, we are here for you too! :hug:

Cyn, Happy Birthday to you a little late

Sorry to hear Zander is starting to fail. We love our pets & suffer right along with them. Glad you can stay home with him, that’s comforting to hear.
No change in my whacky B/P. 106/70 in the AM & 164/96 by 9 pm - crazy!! I’m gong to email my NP tomorrow & let her know doubling up on the meds hasn’t helped.

PQ, hope you’re having a good weekend. We just harvested & froze more broccoli today. Had some fresh for dinner, yum. We will have a fall harvest too so those seeds will be started at some point.
Glad it was all harvested before this 96v degree weather settled in which would have ruined it for sure. YB also has some cabbages about ready.

Hello to Pauly, Sam & Pie.

Be well everyone & have a good night!

Lav

**paulywogg** · June 7, 2021, 07:50 AM

Re: 6th June

Mae everybody, Mick glad to meet the new accident free you

Cyn hope you had a wonderful birthday,I love Zander in the pics and videos hes got such personality,it's sad to see them sorta "slow down" I can see it in Winslow sometimes then he turns around and acts like a puppy sometimes, came up with a solution I forgot to tell you all about ,he loves to run out when the door is open always,rain sun or sleet he don't care, came up with the idea to build a small fence just around the door area,it works great and looks cute too! Hubs did a great job on it

The work situation
is dumb,those girls are fighting over customers, one of the new hires is a very pretty, awesome stylist who's from the Philippines, we have a very large Philippines decent customer base and of course they like to go to her cuz she can speak the language and the other girls resent it saying she's stealing them,I sat bullshit we don't own these people and if they choose to go to her so be it! Her feelings were hurt and she threatened to quit,she just had a new grandson and wants to spend time with him so hopefully Kell can put her on an oppsite schedule than the hags Aya aye aye. Det, hope things are settling down in your family you know we care about you tons,PQ big waves from Vegas, hope we all have a great BF day

**Determinator** · June 7, 2021, 08:38 AM

Re: 6th June

Heya ABers near and far,

thanks so much. Doing just fine in comparatively at least and zero unapproved beverages. Mick, didn't realize you had an accident of some kind? glad you are still at the keyboard mate.
did the drinks help? temporarily...otherwise that desperate coping mechanism I developed very early in my life (age 11) never would have been imprinted so strongly in my brain. been watching some Dr Gabor Mate teachings on addiction and he's a fascinating cat.
His interview on the Tim Ferriss show is particularly brilliant. I'm learning to allow my challenges, shortcomings, and coping mechanisms to teach me more about what's really going on under the hood so to speak. It's a game of subtleties and inner awareness that I'm
not naturally adept in, hence my need for the peace, and calm thoughtful introspection that I do get when I'm actually engaged in an active group therapy + meditation practice, which I've managed to not find until very recently. It's really easy for me to just
say screw-it when left to do these practices and healthy things at home alone so the group practice helps on many fronts.
Last night was another rough night with the wee one and it was again quite tense but i did manage to do my version of emotional detachment as Lav puts it and got through.
Thankfully Darlene and I are still a very strong bond and I've got you great peeps, so I'm grateful. Have martial arts tonight and then Refuge Recovery this Thursday. And a slightly more positive attitude...
be well loves

**porqoui** · June 7, 2021, 12:38 PM

Re: 6th June

MAE ALL...

WOW...breaking heat records last week and now there's a Winter Storm Warning in effect just west of the city today. It's raining here and only 38F!

Mick...glad you didn't do any permanent damage to yourself.

Lav...hope you can get your B/P sorted out. I can't believe you're talking about a second harvest already. I guess it's true, location, location, location.

Pauly...is the little fence inside or outside the door? Kell's in charge of the schedule? Have things changed?

Det...I was wondering about you and Darlene and so glad to hear everything is good. Girlie will eventually grow up and move out.

Just took a minute to pop on in-between meetings. Next one is just about to start so have to get ready.

Have a great day all....:smile:PPQP

**Lavande** · June 7, 2021, 05:47 PM

Re: 6th June

Evening greetings,

We have had another 93 degree day so it’s officially a heatwave, ugh! The humidity just smacks you in the face when you step out.
Finding plenty of things to do inside where it’s cool, thank goodness.

Mick, I hope you have had a peaceful no injury day today

Pauly, glad you have ruined Winslow’s escape hatch, haha! I ended up putting a wireless electric fence around my house so even if the dog runs outside she can only go so far or get zapped. She was pestering people walking down the road & I am worried about her getting run over by a car or horse & buggy. Works like a charm

I give you a lot of credit dealing with those dysfunctional women at the shop, I wouldn’t have the patience. They sound miserable & just plain rude.

Det, glad you are OK! Life is always going to throw sh*t at us, we have to learn to duck, right? The emotional detachment tool works & I have found it very useful. I also have a DIL who is bi-polar & can go off like a rocket with no notice. How my son & grandsons choose to deal with her is their business but I prefer to keep a safe space between the two of us. Do whatever you have to do to keep your peace.
As adults we have to ‘unlearn’ a lot of what was taught to us when we were kids.

PQ, strangely enough my B/P last evening was almost as low as it was in the morning. If that trend keeps up I’ll be happy

We are having an early summer here obviously & probably a zero chance of snow LOL. I hope your weather warning is a fluke.

Hello to Cyn, hope you are well.

Hello Sam & Pie.

Have a nice night all!
Lav

**treegirl** · June 7, 2021, 10:39 PM

Re: 6th June

Mae all -

Quick hello from me; it is 8:30 pm here but feels like midnight... I am up quite a bit in the night to help my poor pooch change his positions...poor guy hardly has a leg to stand on at this point. Just waking up a lot and then not going back to sleep... hopefully go to sleep early tonight!

Mick, glad to hear no injuries today.

Lav, good deal with the BP! Hope it keeps up. We've had warm weather for a week now, but o guess it's going to change... we'll see...

PPQ, are you sending me your cold weather? Thanks... but...

Pauly, hope it works out at the shop, so sad when people,get so territorial... good job on the gate!

Det, you sound like you have got it all headed in the right direction, great job... good luck!

Hello to Sam, Pie, and all,others.

Must go close my eyes now....

**Mick** · June 8, 2021, 10:59 AM

Re: 6th June

hi all...another boiling day over here ..tis really hot ..went up to see my friend on the farm today …first time for a long time ..Got a phone call this morning ...van goes in for fixing of Friday...

Teegee ..I woke p this morning at just after 4 ...never went back to sleep again ...it was light so I got up and read my kindle ..how are you ? hope all is good and the same with zander.

hiya Lav ..an injury free day again..glad your bp is coming down. Ive got to get my annual check up done

hiya ppqp..hows you then? meetinged out?nope no permanent damage to me ...sounds like your weather is as crazy as ours ...hows work doing?

hiya det ..how are you mate?hope all is well.sounds like you and darlene are sound ..as someone said she will leave home one day ...the attitudes change then ...trust me .Stick to the game plan mate you are doing good .

hiya pauly yes it s me,
Ive done bugger all so Im accident free.,
Winslow escaping each time without fail..
methinks its time for doggy jail.

take care all..

Maurice was not having a good day on the golf course. After he missed a twelve inch putt, his partner asked him what the problem was.

"It's the wife," said Maurie. "As you know, she's taken up golf, and since she's been playing she's cut my sex down to once a week."

"Well you should think yourself lucky," said his partner, "she's cut some of us out altogether."

After the last child was born, she told me we had to cut back on expenses - I had to give up drinking beer. I was not a big drinker, maybe a 12-pack on weekends.

Anyway, I gave it up but I noticed the other day when she came home from grocery shopping. The receipt included $45 in makeup.

I said, "Wait a minute I've given up beer and you haven't given up anything!"

She said, "I buy that makeup for you, so I can look pretty for you."

I told her, "Hell, that's what the beer was for!"

I don't think she'll be back...

Arriving home from work at my usual hour of 5 p.m., I discovered that it had not been one of my wife's better days.

Nothing I said or did seemed to be right.

By 7 p.m., things had not changed, so I suggested I go outside, pretend I had just gotten home, and start all over again.

My wife agreed. I went outside, came back in and, with a big smile, announced, "Honey, I'm home!"

"And just where have you been?" she replied sharply. "It's after seven o'clock!"

Sitting at the dinning table one night, the husband divided a piece of steak into a bigger half and a smaller half.

Keeping the bigger half for himself he gave the smaller half to his wife.

Wife looked into his eyes and asked, "Dear, during the first few years of our marriage, you used to take the smaller piece and give me the bigger one, but today you did the opposite, is it because you don't love me no more?"

"Nonsense, darling, you just cook better now

I used to eat a lot of natural foods until I learned that most people die of natural causes.

Gardening Rule: When weeding, the best way to make sure you are removing a weed and not a valuable plant is to pull on it. If it comes out of the ground easily, it is a valuable plant.

The easiest way to find something lost around the house is to buy a replacement.

Never take life seriously. Nobody gets out alive anyway.

There are two kinds of pedestrians: the quick and the dead.

Life is sexually transmitted.

Health is merely the slowest possible rate at which one can die.

The only difference between a rut and a grave is the depth.

Some people are like Slinkies. Not really good for anything, but you still can't help but smile when you see one tumble down the stairs.

Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing.

Have you noticed since everyone has a camcorder these days no one talks about seeing UFOs like they used to?

Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

All of us could take a lesson from the weather. It pays no attention to criticism.

In the 60's, people took acid to make the world weird. Now the world is weird and people take Prozac to make it normal.

How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?

Who was the first person to look at a cow and say, "I think I'll squeeze these dangly things here, and drink whatever comes out?"

Who was the first person to say, "See that chicken there? I'm gonna eat the next thing that comes outta its butt."

Why is there a light in the fridge and not in the freezer?

If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares, why is there a song about him?

Why do people point to their wrist when asking for the time, but don't point to their crotch when they ask where the bathroom is?

Why does your OB-GYN leave the room when you get undressed if they are going to look up there anyway?

If quizzes are quizzical, what are tests?

If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?

Do illiterate people get the full effect of Alphabet Soup?

Did you ever notice that when you blow in a dog's face, he gets mad at you, but when you take him on a car ride, he sticks his head out the window?

Does pushing the elevator button more than once make it arrive faster?

Why doesn't glue stick to the inside of the bottle?

**Lavande** · June 8, 2021, 05:33 PM

Re: 6th June

Good evening all,

Went to visit our daughter today & ended up driving home in flooding rain, thunder, lightning the whole bit. No storms were even predicted today, haha! The weather folks are now saying we had 3-5” of rain this afternoon, crazy!! Glad we were able to deliver 6 dozen eggs & a quart of our strawberries to her anyway.

Cyn, sorry your not getting a whole lot of sleep. I know how hard it is when your pup is not well. Maybe you can schedule some nap time in your day.
My B/P was great for a day & a half. Last night it spiked right back up to 164/96 for absolutely no reason. Starting to me me a little crazier than normal, Lol

Mick, glad things are coming along for you & the van will get fixed. How about the garage door?
This severe heat & humidity we’ve been dealing with is firing up these massive storms. Even after all this rain today tomorrow the heat & humidity are going right back up, ugh.

Hello to Det, hope you are having a good day. Stay focused friend!
Pauly, hope your day was good as well.

PQ, we stopped at Costco on the way home & I saw a display of motion activated flood lights & thought of you haha! I hope the little creeps are leaving your garden alone.

Hello Sam & Pie.

Have a nice night all!
Lav

**Mick** · June 9, 2021, 01:48 AM

Re: 6th June

morning all....7m here and the sun is cracking the flags..it is so sunny here ..the peony roses in the front are wide open in bloom this morning ..Well we are in the middle of a surge testing programme in Greater Manchester for covid ..the trouble is ,in the north west there is such a migrant and young population that have not been jabbed up either through ignorance or blatant f..ck em attitude ...the latter in a majority of cases,The indian variation is progressively increasing ,but on the other side the deaths have decreased dramatically.13 deaths in the whole of uk yesterday that have some connection to covid within 28 days ..my bifgggest issue is they will lock us down again ,but I dont think they will..unless they made it law no one would heed it thats for sure ..we have done the hoop jumping for over 15 months now .

hiya tee gee ..how is Zander? and you ? didhyou getsome sleep? I hope so ...you take care ...

hiya Lav ..hows the bp?has it gone down?do you take any other meds ..?only asking because Im on the same ones as you ...but every now and again..mine does exactly the opposite of yours ..it drops so low it sends me dizzy etc .and I feel like a bag of spanners .Went to see my friend yesterday on the farm ...havent seen them for ages ..lovely to see them..

as for their animals jeez ..

3 horses ,10 lambs,52 sheep,6 goats ,14 dogs ,5 cats ,2 ferrets ,11 guinea fowl ,2 roosters ,some rare birds from overseas that they hatched ,doves ,pigeons ,and more..He has also made a treadmill for dogs which has sold like hotcakes especially in the lockdown .

The swelling in my arm is starting to go down ..as for the garage door ...a new one has been ordered ..should be fitted in a fortnight .this one has the failsafes fitted.

hiya everyone else ...hope everyone is doing good ....take care

**paulywogg** · June 9, 2021, 07:56 AM

Re: 6th June

Mae everybody, Lav glad you got to see your daughter and enjoy that rain! I'm jealous cuz we never get any,wish I could go to Costco without having anxiety cuz that's where the money is on instacart haha! Really tho but ugh no way! Glad th BP is better

Mick glad you're staying injury free(for now) much love to all and wishes for a great BF day for us all!

**Lavande** · June 9, 2021, 05:30 PM

Re: 6th June

Good evening friends,

Sounds like another thunderstorm brewing out there. After all that rain yesterday we are saturated!!

Mick, the India variant is causing problems here too, especially with kids & younger adults. They have started vaccinating ages 12 & up & hopefully soon the younger kids will be approved as well. This variant is causing an increase in hospitalizations but fewer deaths, so there’s that.
I also take a diuretic daily to help with the B/P issue but if you’re not carrying a lot of extra water then it’s not really doing much. My reading was high again last night at bedtime but quite low this morning which is very strange. I’m considering taking my meds later in the day instead if first thing in the morning to see if it makes any difference. Who knows??
Your friend has quite a zoo there, lots of animals to feed & clean up after. Sounds like too much work for me, haha! Glad you are healing & hoping you remain unhurt, at least for a while

Pauly, Costco can cause me a little anxiety too, especially the checkout process. They move so damn fast my head spins sometimes, haha! We drive right past Costco when we go see our daughter so we usually stop for gas & a few ‘necessities’. Have you tried Insta cart shopping there? I don’t think I’ve seen anyone doing that but not sure.
You guys should fly east & experience our summer storms, you’d be impressed, haha!!

Hello to Cyn, hope you are OK.

Hello to PQ, Det, Sam & Pie.

Wishing everyone a peaceful night!

Lav

**porqoui** · June 9, 2021, 07:02 PM

Re: 6th June

MAE ALL...well apparently my post from yesterday is off visiting Mick's posts somewhere in cyber space. Oh well.

For some reason things seem to be getting busier for me, WTH, got all the programming done, got everyone sorted out with their work issues, got the newsletter edited so I should be laughing. Not! We are planning on opening the Tennis Courts next week so have a virtual meeting with the boss and coworker in the morning in preparation. I think it's more of a For Your Information as I'm not responsible for the Online Court Booking Software, the boss is. It's been cool, overcast and raining today but nothing like what Lav got. Weekend will see sun and high temps again, finally, Mother Nature got it right. LOL For the last couple of days my left foot has been swelling up, don't know what that's all about, maybe too much time sitting in front of this laptop. Will increase my water intake and not even thinking about blood clots! Sorry for not responding individually, that was yesterday's post. Sounds like we're all doing ok though.

Have a good night all. Will check up on everyone tomorrow....:smile:PPQP

**treegirl** · June 9, 2021, 11:04 PM

Re: 6th June

Mae all - well sorry to say, last night I let my sweet companion go to the Rainbow Bridge. I will tell the whole story, but for now, that is my complete reality, and I am coping with it.

Coping ok-ish.

Love to all of you and your wonderful stories.

I'll be back full force some day soon...

**paulywogg** · June 10, 2021, 07:27 AM

Re: 6th June

I'm sorry Cyn

I'll always picture him eating his ice cream,that video makes me smile,love you friend.

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