Who is gonna start today's thread?
Mary Anne and Waiting to Exhale--I'm LOL - I'm married to a carpenter, and it's so TRUE that the cobbler's children wear no shoes!!! I did by my first power tool recently..a screw driver, so I'm getting some things done around here myself!
Mike, How are you doing? Just want you to know my heart is sooo with you. I married my first husband twice, and come from a divorced family...I love my husband of 16 years..but I have to say, I'll always love my first husband..the father of my children. Even now I think of something and it reaches me so deeply. For years I would dream..in the dream, I knew I was dreaming about my current husband, but it was the image of my first husband that was there. Do know that your marriage was not in vain, that the love was and is real on a deeper level...sooo, things have changed courses on the outside, but in some cases, like mine, I don't want to let go of the good that was there between us...it created 3 beatiful children that will carry us on. It was hard the first 2 or 3 years after we divorced..it was so painful to both of us that we couldn't even see each other, but now..he is remarried (about 10 years now - they even have a surprise child of about 2)..we made a commitment to honor and respect each other for our children...No Matter What..and man, sometimes that was hard because of the pain...now it is natural..we meet each other at grandkids football games, graduations..weddings, we greet each other in pride and respect because we were able to get past that and continue to raise the kids together...even when we were apart..If I died today, one of the things I would be most proud of was how I worked to let the kids know that we were still their parents and that we care and respect one another, even if we couldn't maintain the marriage. Grieve what needs to be grieved..there is so much loss in the dissolution of a marriage, there is no getting around that, but do know, dear friend, that something beautiful can still come of it and the children can still experience what you want them to...it just may look different. (Hugs again) Dianne
Mary Anne and Waiting to Exhale--I'm LOL - I'm married to a carpenter, and it's so TRUE that the cobbler's children wear no shoes!!! I did by my first power tool recently..a screw driver, so I'm getting some things done around here myself!
Mike, How are you doing? Just want you to know my heart is sooo with you. I married my first husband twice, and come from a divorced family...I love my husband of 16 years..but I have to say, I'll always love my first husband..the father of my children. Even now I think of something and it reaches me so deeply. For years I would dream..in the dream, I knew I was dreaming about my current husband, but it was the image of my first husband that was there. Do know that your marriage was not in vain, that the love was and is real on a deeper level...sooo, things have changed courses on the outside, but in some cases, like mine, I don't want to let go of the good that was there between us...it created 3 beatiful children that will carry us on. It was hard the first 2 or 3 years after we divorced..it was so painful to both of us that we couldn't even see each other, but now..he is remarried (about 10 years now - they even have a surprise child of about 2)..we made a commitment to honor and respect each other for our children...No Matter What..and man, sometimes that was hard because of the pain...now it is natural..we meet each other at grandkids football games, graduations..weddings, we greet each other in pride and respect because we were able to get past that and continue to raise the kids together...even when we were apart..If I died today, one of the things I would be most proud of was how I worked to let the kids know that we were still their parents and that we care and respect one another, even if we couldn't maintain the marriage. Grieve what needs to be grieved..there is so much loss in the dissolution of a marriage, there is no getting around that, but do know, dear friend, that something beautiful can still come of it and the children can still experience what you want them to...it just may look different. (Hugs again) Dianne
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