No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

[Trixiebelle]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Geez no side effects? Amazing. I should have tried that instead of the Baclofen.

So as I understand it, you just use it to get you over the hardest part? Yes? So you maybe only need it to help for the first 3 - 4 weeks?

You guys are a great support and I am so grateful you are here. I would love to have a glimpse of the other side of the fence you are on KG, I am sure in this case, the grass is much greener over there.

I hope to find a hole in the fence to join you soon.:thanks:

[BELIEVE]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Thanks kg, yes i'll stick around for a little while It does feel nice to see others succeed for sure. Its important to support each other. I always found it much easier to talk to my mwo family about my day to day struggles than people i actually knew. Trixibelle, your original post on this thread is a great example of that. Funny how those of us who were or are struggling with al catch so much shit from friends and family when we finally decide to do something about it. That support is every bit as important as any supplement you can take, including kudzu. Speaking of which, yes kudzu really takes the edge off the cravings for the 1st 2-3 weeks. To kg's point though you really have to want to stop though. It really is like a pair of training wheels that will fall off after a while. Even with the training wheels on though, you still have to pedal. It seems to me though that you are still in a position where you can secure your victory over al. Your living situation can provide you whats probably some much needed isolation just till you get some af time under your belt. After that 1st 30 days or so af, you should be able to be around others even if they are drinking. If not, take more time. If your husband is going to insist on being so unsupportive, then like i've said you really need to be selfish for a bit, just till you get your shit together. What you're trying to do here is a big deal. Its gonna get a little uncomfortable for a while.

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Well put as always, Believe. And, I find this true also (and have read the same from many others on this site):

I always found it much easier to talk to my mwo family about my day to day struggles than people i actually knew.

Funny, isn't it. Guess it's because we know that everyone here truly understands the struggle.

Trix, the only thing I can say here is that if you really want a shot at a better life you will have to go through a little bit to get there. But, it's so worth it. The quality of your life will change in such a positive way. At least it did for me (and for Believe from the sounds of it).

We're here for you if you decide to give it a whirl. If not, we're here too.

xx,
KG

[BELIEVE]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Haha damn strait it made a huge difference in my life. Aside from the drinking its self no other problems went away, I still can't get any decent girls to gimme the time of day lol but its all good. Pay your dues, put al in his place, and nothing will get you down!

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Believe - the right people come along when we're least expecting it, I think! Take it from a seasoned veteran, though, that happiness comes from within and that we don't get it from others. I think a partner is good, though..........just best not to expect too much, right? I've come to believe that what's happening to us right now is exactly what's supposed to be occurring. Kind of heavy, but my 2 cents.

[rrcr]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

the right people come along when we're least expecting it, I think! Take it from a seasoned veteran, though, that happiness comes from within and that we don't get it from others.
Dang Right !!!!!!!! KG

It really is like a pair of training wheels that will fall off after a while. Even with the training wheels on though, you still have to pedal.

So much wisdom there Believe....it fits most so many situations in life.

To bad they don't make us memorize stuff like the above to quotes is school instead of so much on what date Columbus sailed the Ocean Blue

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

To bad they don't make us memorize stuff like the above to quotes is school instead of so much on what date Columbus sailed the Ocean Blue

:H:H

Or, even how to balance a checkbook!!

[Trixiebelle]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Hi all,

Down at the block atm.

Had a few last night, but not hungover today, :wd:

Aiming at AF this week, (take 2) gotta keep trying!

Believe, the right person will come along when you least expect it, as KG said. Meanwhile Kudo's to you for staying on the bandwagon.:goodjob:

[BELIEVE]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Hi all, haha thanks for your kind words about the right person coming along I was just agreeing though that the confidence and sense of inner strength that you earn (and I DO mean earn) from accomplishing your goals in terms of drinking provide a mighty big stick to start hitting back at the rest of life's problems. 'Cept maybe balancing checkbooks
Keep at it trixi, it might be tough but theres no reason you can't do this.

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

I was just agreeing though that the confidence and sense of inner strength that you earn (and I DO mean earn) from accomplishing your goals in terms of drinking provide a mighty big stick to start hitting back at the rest of life's problems

So true, Believe. Well, now that you've piqued our interest, you'll have to keep us posted about your dating situation. I have a huge matchmaker tendancy so would love to hear how that's going. And, of course, we get to live vicariously.............:H:H

KG

[Trixiebelle]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Love the big stick reference:H

I know what you are saying though. I do have to keep trying to experience what you two have experienced. Sounds mighty fine.

Sunday today and I start my AF week - week two of the new year also, so I have to get my A into G and get on with this goal. The hubby is coming into town this week for a few days, so will be an even tougher week - not entirely impossible though.

Yes Believe, we want to be kept notified of all dating situations, not sure I can help out in the matchmaker department from down under though - sorry bout that.

[BELIEVE]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Best of luck trixi with your af week. I know having your husband there will make it harder on you. You know though, even if you were to slip up, maybe you could start looking at your time with your husband in a slightly different light. maybe you could begin to ask yourself what it would be like to simply not drink in those situations? How would you tell him? What would you do instead? Stuff like that. Even if nothing materializes in terms of a solution, if you really keep looking at it like that, something half way workable will eventually surface. When it does, you'll have a glimpse of what will hopefully become your reality someday

Lol now anyone looking to live vicariously through me is in for a big disappointment unless you enjoy being bored. I don't have a dating life, when i was in my 20's and 30's i had lots of girls coming up to me. But now i'm 40 (seems like 40 million sometimes) and apparently i've turned ugly. So no chix, but i have my xbox360 to keep me company as you may have guessed from my avatar. Actually i took my name from a video game trailer that i thought was inspirational. I'm hopeless i know but i do have a lot of blessings to count. I might not have them all but nobody does and it dosen't make sense to ignore all the good in your life because you're so wrapped up in what you don't have or can't get. Sometimes it really is best just to say fuck it

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

You're a crackup Believe. I have a feeling you'd be a great catch. As you say, though, in the meantime, you've got your XBox..... Ever considered yoga?

Trix, good luck this week with hubs. We had our "date night" last night and enjoyed a bottle of wine with dinner and that was it!! Enjoyable, sane and no desire to ratchet up to more than that.

I feel really relieved not to be struggling mentally with alcohol. I can't say enough good about the abstintention (sp?) period, Trixi - has made all the difference for me.

BTW, Believe, I haven't read back through all the threads. What is your modus operandi right now with al? Are you not drinking at all? I remember reading that you drank this summer but I think you said you aren't now?

Have a great week everyone.


KG

[mylife]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Hello Guys,

Trixi, good luck with your AF week. Believe has some good advice there!
KG, I have to say good work with your mods! Sounds like you really have found a solution!

[KundaliniGirl]

No Regrets - but does the taunting ever stop?

Hi ML!!!:l Yes, I think I've found the perfect situation, finally. The totally AF just didn't seem sustainable for me (rest of my life kind of thinking). So, I'm really thrilled with what I'm accomplishing but ready in a heartbeat to go back to totally AF if Al creeps back in any unwanted ways!! Hope you're doing well.

xx,
KG