Can i ask, and tell me to mind my own business, but are you able see your kids at all? That must be so bloody difficult.
Here's a recent post of mine to a newbie in my support group for PAS:
XX is my oldest daughter. I've been alienated from her, XX (daughter) and XX(son) pretty much since 2001-2003. They all succumbed to the pressures (read brainwashing to not only not trust me but fear me without logic as you know) one by one over that period. XX(oldest) has been opening up since October of last year. It's a huge learning curve and I still miss my other two very much. I try maybe every couple of months to send simple messages of love to them with no response. Well, a couple from XX(son) that weren't very nice. All in all my kids were not really "nasty" with me, because I intuitively would not allow it but the flip side of that was that we didn't have much contact for many years.
G my other group is international as well, with some parents from OZ and NZ as well. Some are just beginning to realize what is really happening with their kids, others are reuniting precariously as I am, some have rebuilt relationships after 20 years and some are still hoping after that amount of time.
It really is psychological abuse that the court system needs to address and not use it as a cash cow while innocent people ARE being terrorized/victimized. It is unconscionable to use one's own children to destroy the partner that left them.
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