One Step at a Time - September 2015

[Rusty]

Good Morning, Friends,

TGIF and hello from St. Louis!!

Skendall, I just howled when you said the fix-it-guy who really couldn't fix anything offered to vacuum!:victorious: I would have taken him up on that offer, too....I HATE vacuuming!

Mama-sorry about the slab leak, and let us know about the interview! You have been working like a fiend with no respite in sight. Maybe this is their tactic, though? To see who is tough enough to get through that first year?? My company did that to me and it was worth the amount of hours I put in that first year....a lot of companies do that to their employees. Sink or swim. Those who swim reap the rewards later on....just saying.:hug:

Nora-Pauly is posting on the Monthly and Daily Abs Threads. She feels she gets more support being around people who have been totally AF long-term, and she is fighting so hard for her sobriety that being around people who are rocking the AF lifestyle is where she needs to be.

Pauly-I give you a lot of credit and kudos for never giving up!!

Off to do some work and then to the gym...Happy POETS Day, Everyone!! (Piss Off Early Tomorrow's Saturday).

[paulywogg]

Hey all,Nora I've been around I've been posting on the daily thread for a couple of years now and more recently on the other abs thread cuz we're all gramma's with g-kids around the same age,we talk about nutrition and mindfulness a lot,its just a small thread but I calms my nerves haha,by the time I've posted over there I've ran out of things to say haha,plus nothing has really been going on in paulysville ATM,that's a good thing! Just trying to live in peace Skendall,how old is the"handyman"? That story kinda makes me nervous a but it just depends on the age cuz Iccould see Brady out doing odd jobs for PlayStation games,however if the guys a bit older,I would be thinking drug money,just be careful, Mama,how does hubs feel about this job?interested to see how the phone interview goes,good luck hello to Dots,Liz,FT,Rusty,Fen,hope we all have a great POETS day

[Dottie Belle]

Morning all,
Off tot the gym then I need to load up the car with stuff for rummage sale at church.
No date for tonight. Might go to dance alone. Usually some single men to dance with there.
Tomorrow I am helping my best friend move her husband to an assisted living facility. He has Parkinson's and is getting so much worse and she works so cant be with him all day and it is just so sad to watch.
Maybe a date tomorrow night not sure.
Event last night was fun. Jim picked my up on his Harley and we went to dinner then the event. He is such a nice man I sure hope he finds a nice Catholic woman who appreciates him.
Happy Friday!!

[NoraC]

I would like to share part of an e-mail that hubby sent me this morning. He knows that I'm really worried about my Mom.......

there is a time for negativity and a time to be upbeat and feel whole and happy about things. with Mom coming here, try to keep positive. imagine everything going well. we might not know how they are going to work out, but we know they are going to work out. anytime you think about it, keep positive. imagine what you want to accomplish in a positive way. don’t let negative vibes rule the moment. try to keep it light and only dwell on the positive.

I am truly blessed................Hubby has been working so hard on changing his attitude. Looking for the positive in life instead of dwelling on negativity. This past year he has made amazing strides in seeing calm & peace.

[paulywogg]

That was very sweet of your hubs Nora,always appreciate what a supportive, positive partner you're lucky enough to have on your side

[fennel]

Nora, that was a lovely email from hubs. You are indeed lucky to have him!

[fennel]

I need Nora's hubs to send ME an email, lol. Yesterday and today I have been mired in a funk over my divorce. I was really hoping I'd feel better about it today. I did come home to a nice surprise, however. My ex cat sitter (whom I wish was older and gay, because I totally dig her) sent me a lovely card and a 20 dollar gift card to my favorite chocolate store. In it, she said how much she misses Booty (who adored her as well) and how much she misses the funny notes I used to leave for her. We made a point of stating how much we enjoy each other and how we would like to become friends when I invited her over to say goodbye to Booty the night before her euthanisation.

We are going to get together for coffee in October.

Anyway, I think I will stick close tonight and try to cheer myself up somehow. Maybe some mindless t.v.?

[SKendall]

Fen, this is so hard. Read a book, mindless tv or talk to someone. I made an appt. with a lawyer today and she wants a retainer. All my money is tied up in the house, so will have to get creative. Just stay above self pity at any cost.

Well the handyman is only in his mid-20's and dumb. I asked him to pick up the computer table that I bought at Goodwill. He has a Volvo wagon, so I met him over there as I had the receipts. He hadn't cleared out the back of the car!
He did manage to get it in, but really? I'm guessing vacuuming is his talent.

Had coffee with a friend today and a first time playdate with our dogs. She was waiting at the end of the drive and jumped in with me and peggy. She was wearing a black sweater and said that I hadn't told her my dog shed, and repeated that 3 times. I told her if she didn't want Peggy to come in we would have to stay outside on the cold damp day. Peggy is a chug and does shed, I just didn't think about it.

She invited us in and I spread my jacket for her to lie on. We went on to have a delightful time, that just surprised me.

No plans for the w/end just hooking up a new printer and my roku. Cable co's are just robbers imo.

[NoraC]

Mindless TV will do it. :rotlf:
I am so sorry about your divorce. You are such a beautiful person inside & out. I am sad that you are going thru this. Very sweet of the cat sitter. That's nice that you are going to get together. What are your plans for the weekend? Are you hiking? Apple Picking?
How have things been going? Have you had any cravings? Is the AA helping with that?

Pauly - I think it's great that you are posting over on the abs. Whatever it takes. I have been posting in other places too. Wherever there is good advice.

Dottie - have fun at the dance. Sad about your friends husband.

Rusty - How long are you going to be in St Louis? How is your Mom doing?

SK - A handyman with no tools? :huh:

Liz - you really made me laugh at the line 'Hubs and I made up'. I know that feeling very well. Ha, ha. It's so hot here that I can't even imagine covering your pool yet.

Mama - can't wait to hear about the interview. How are you feeling about it?

FT - do you have any big plans this weekend?

Yahoo - so glad that it's Friday.

[NoraC]

x-post SK. I'm sorry that you have to pay a retainer. I hope your house sells soon.
That is a little strange about your friend. A lot of dogs shed. I don't know why she was surprised.

[paulywogg]

Aww Skendall,I didn't know Peggy is a chug my mom had the cutest little guy named Bear Nora,how hot is it there? We're still hitting 100's

[NoraC]

Oh - it's only in the mid 90's. Not as bad as it was. You poor thing still in the 100's.

[SKendall]

Nora, what a wonderful, supportive husband you have. I loved reading that email.

[SKendall]

Pauly, thank you. Post wherever you gain strength from, I am 100% behind you b/c I know you want sobriety.

Drama in the n/hood tonight and I was unknowingly involved. Fictionalized version is I yelled at the daughter upstairs, complete lies. I think we got it straight with the injured party. How do you defend yourself from something you never did, but can't get a word in. The young lady is purely dysfunctional and drama fuelled. Ugh and Ugh!

Whoosh! I want to be able to afford to move pronto.

[Rusty]

Good Morning Friends,

I am home from St. Louis and boy, does it feel good. Do you know that every morning this week, I woke up, and I didn't know where I was! Now this used to happen when I was drinking, but it's not supposed to happen when you're sober! Hahahahahah! I know it's just because I've been a rolling stone...in a different state every week.

Skendall-that is horrible about your neighbor! I feel for you! :hug: My close friend in my condo complex is being harassed by their next door neighbor. She lied and accused my friend's husband of entering her condo, uninvited, pretended to get two "sworn" statements from contractors that he entered the unit, and then went to the police!!! He is 72 and he was charged with "criminal trespassing!" They had to hire a lawyer and now there most likely will be a trial....this woman lied to the police and the Barnie Fifes in this town didn't even get my friend's husband's side of the story!! This woman IS a sociopath. I just bought the book, "The Sociopath Next Door." I see my brother, and two ex-bosses in this book as well. What is a Chug? A pug and something else? How is Peggy feeling? Will you be able to move soon?

Nora-thank you for asking about my Mom. She is doing better. Did you guys know that Nora has 60+ days AF?? Isn't that fantastic?! She and Pauly have been tremendously supportive on other threads and I am proud of both of them.:yay:

Liz-what are you doing this weekend? Do you miss your pool? I do! How are things with your son? Has he warmed up at all?

Mama-I hope the phone interview goes well today.

Fenny-:hug: I hope you have fun with your kitty sitter this weekend. To answer your question about my Mom's heart rate, it's supposed to be about 60, but when she got to the ER, it was between 25-30...and they have no idea why.

Big hellos to everyone else! It's going to be sunny and in the 70s here today...gym, lake path walk, nails, cleaning...that's about it. Notre Dame football this afternoon. Lots to do today so I better get going. Happy Saturday!