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[KENSHO]

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AVA... Happy late birthday! Sounds like it was a nice day for you! Congrats to your niece! I bet it's a little scary, but I have a good feeling about it. It's great your kids are so supportive of your sobriety. Mine are too, maybe the most supportive (they have probably don't want to lose the sober me!)

Wags, sorry you are in that torturous state of wondering... that's the worst. I hope you get good news this morning! The right path will show up. Only way out is through, right? Drinking seems like such a good idea for about 1 second, and then it seems asinine. We have all learned how much easier life is to navigate without the numbing.

LAV, what did you plant? Do you grow veggies, or mostly plant flowers? I wish we could grow more food, but we get so little southern exposure so not much more than herbs make it to our table. We won't plant much before we go to Italy for 3 weeks anyway - don't want to pay someone to water it for that long

Hi Steady!

I'm having a slow morning. I think I'm tired from burning the candle lately. One morning is isn't going to set me back too much, if I relax and take it slow.

Have a great day everyone!

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Evening nesters

Well ANZAC day tomorrow so no work and a day to reflect on all the lives lost. My house is now quiet and everyone has gone home. I can now be a slug and not worry!

I can see my mum just getting older, i am learning to be so patient but damn i realise i need a good sleep for that and my arm starts not wanting to play nice a few days after acupuncture so i get a bit frazzled. So many questions about nothing in particular and one of mums hearing aids wasnt working so the constant yelling gets tiring but i appreciate she is still with me. I called aged care and asked them to email me and mum the information so will organise an apt and go down to mums for that. I think my son is going to move out so that puts a whole new aspect on care for mum so hopefully that will get sorted.

My niece who lost our little Jasper (nearly a year ago already) is pregnant again and is about 15 weeks so we are all holding our breath. Cant get too excited just yet but everything is crossed that she carries the baby to full term, due October. She is being monitored fortnightly atm which is good but i dont think she will enjoy being pregnant with worrying.

We had a beautiful day today, all the washing got dry and tomorrow is supposed to be just as lovely. Might be sheet washing day. Its the small things in life really.

Cant believe you are getting snow NS.

Lav, i planted some winter veges yesterday and need to plant some seedlings that have come up. not sure what they are but i do love suprises.

Steady, lovely to see you. Being sober is great. We went to David's for yum Cha on Sunday and i was impressed they had non al drinks and if you wanted al, it was in a shot glass. it was funny as when they offered me a drink, i think all my kids asked if it has al in it. They still have my back after 9+ years lol.

take care xxx

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We had a nice day after yesterday’s 1/2” of rain. No big storm developed so that was good.

NS, we’re out planting things we purchased at an Amish greenhouse this week so I definitely don’t want snow, ugh. Hope it warms up for you very soon.

Steady, good to see you & I 100% agree being sober through life’s ups & downs definitely has it’s advantages.

Wags, I guess you can tell I’m not the shy type. I would just walk in & ask for clarification on bed availability, Lol
Do what makes you comfortable of course & I hope you get a positive response from them. Enjoy the sunshine

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

[NoSugar]

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Hi, Nest

If it is a small place, it could be just a glitch in communications, Wags, b/c of small staff size. If they had changed their mind about your dad, they likely would have answered if they could so maybe they just couldn't. I hope you get good news on Monday.

I agree, Steady, that at this stage of life with all of its ups and downs, there is just NO ROOM for booze. We are so fortunate!!

Life sounds good for you, Ava. I'm so glad :hug:

It is back to winter here, Lav. I even saw a bit of snow yesterday so look out!!

[STEADFAST]

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Hi Nesters,

Sorry for not checking in for a while. All good, I just get caught up in things and the days slip by.

Wags, I hope you hear from the care home soon, and things work out the way you and your Dad want. Today's the 8th anniversary of my Dad's passing, and he's been on my mind a lot.

Ava, I was sorry to hear about Gucci, and I hope your Mum is ok now. Glad you had a nice birthday!

Like others have said, it feels so good to be sober, and to be present to help loved ones. I really don't know how I would've coped with my parents getting old and passing on without the clarity and more stable mood that sobriety gives me.

stay well & strong everyone,
Steady
xo

[wagmor]

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Ava - sounds like Bindi and Carl are both doing well, which is great. Sorry your mom is having those episodes though. I hope it's nothing serious.

Lav - you had rain, we finally had sun. I don't really feel comfortable going to the home in person without calling first, so I'm just going to call Monday. It's just a bummer cuz it seemed so perfect.


Hellos and waves everyone!

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

Raining today as was promised. I think it’s a good thing, it was getting pretty dry around here.

Wags, i’m sorry the home has been non-responsive. Wonder what the issue is? You probably won’t get any response over the weekend. Think about a in -person visit Monday & get them off their hands.
I know how frustrating all this is, nothing is ever easy. You have been doing everything right, don’t forget that. Try to relax & breathe this weekend, it’s all going to work out :hug:

Ava, glad y enjoyed your birthday
Has your Mom ever worn a cardiac monitor for a few days? Sometimes that’s the only way to tell what’s going on & causing her episodes. Could be an irregular heart rhythm that only pops up occasionally. Ihope they can get it figured out soon. Good to hear Carl is back to himself. Enjoy your weather this weekend.

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

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Evening nesters

thank you for the lovely birthday messages. i did have a lovely day, my mum embroidered a Winnie the Pooh bedspread and it is just beautiful, she is so talented sewing. Mum and i were going to go out for dinner but there ended up being 13 of us, my kids and ring in kids so it was really nice. Tomorrow (Sunday) we are going to yum cha (just the fam).

I had acupuncture again on Friday and Helen my acupuncturist made me some special herbs, OMG they are foul, not sure what they are supposed to do but i am taking them twice a day religiously. At least i am getting relief for a few days and she seems to be using me more as a pin cushion now.

Wags, that is bizarre that you are not getting a call back, maybe you should pop around to see what is going on. I was checking mums voice messages tonight and there was a message from the Aged Care people. Now when you fill in an application and say MOTHER IS DEAF, why oh why would you call them. Will follow that up through the week.

Went shopping today and she had another "turn", seems her blood pressure drops and she needs to sit down, had all the heart tests that came back negative so short trips from now on. will keep an eye on her tomorrow but she should be ok as sitting down.

Carl is more active now and not limping which is so good, Bindi seems to not miss Gucci at all though she wants more pats and would sit on the lounge for hours now getting pats, still has her appetite lol.

Having some beautiful weather at the moment, just enjoying spring.

take care xx

[wagmor]

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Hey Lav - yep, here we are again Glad you had another nice day. Ours was ok, but really nice weather heading our way tomorrow. Bike riding here we come!!!

I'm a little sad and frustrated/disappointed right now. After a great visit to the adult care home this past Tue, the nurse who runs it gave me her email address. The arrangement was that I would email her so she'd have *my* address, and then she would send me some forms I needed to fill out or have my dad's Dr fill out. I emailed her within a few hours. No reply. I emailed again yesterday. No reply. My wife called and left a voicemail message today, just asking where we are in the process and to please call or email me back. No reply.

:sob:

I'm actually kinda worried something happened to her but I'm also worried she changed her mind for some unknown reason and the opportunity won't unfold after all. I really hope everything is ok but I'm also trying not to get my hopes up just to have them dashed further. If I don't hear something by Sunday, I'll have to start looking elsewhere.

The silver lining is that my dad is doing better at his current place and the people working there are starting to warm up to all of us, so even if he needs to stay there another month it'll mostly just be a hassle for me having to drive so far to see him. And he'll probably be disappointed on some levels. Why is this all so effing hard though??? I could really use a break. So glad, yet again, that I don't drink. I sure would have reached for al to "comfort" me in the past.


Hope you all had better Fridays, and that your weekends turn out to be fantastic (or at least pleasant). Take care everyone!

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Just us again Wags!!
Nice day here again so I did my best to get outside & do a few things may as well head back out again while it’s still light.

I hope everyone is OK & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[wagmor]

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Ava - what, it's your birthday???

Happy Freakin' Birthday!!!

I hope you have (or had) a wonderful day.


NS - thanks for the description of your climate change lobbying day and for the link to Third Act. I'll have to check it out. If they're really about the "people over 60" part I'm not quite there but my wife is and she's a huge climate activist so she'll probably jump right in.

Lav - I'm with you about being outside. Glad you got to work in your garden a bit. And yes - we DO rock!


Hellos and waves everyone. Happy Fridays to all!

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We had a real nice day today, grateful

Wags, I hauled myself outside to pull some weeds, getting ready for some new mulch. Now my allergies are choking me half to death, haha! I still like being outdoors anyway!
I was thinking today the only thing worse than a drunken young person is a drunken old person & I certainly don?t want to be that. We have done ourselves the biggets favor by kicking AL to the curb. We rock

NS, that looks like a great group. I?ll see if there?s any activity in my area, that would be cool. Glad you found a worthy outlet where you can get involved.

Ava, HAPPY BIRTHDAY to you!!!
Wishing you the very best always:balloons:

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

[NoSugar]

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So glad to hear your news, Wags! That sounds like a fantastic situation for your dad and therefore for you!

Lobbying was interesting. As I observed the chaos of the capital, I became amazed that they EVER get anything done! We did have the chance to talk with our state senator and although my rep wasn't available, the one from the neighboring district was and several of the people I was with were his constituents. I'm not sure how much difference we actually made but I think it is good for all of the legislators to see the mass of bodies there in support of climate action. For those of you who are 60 or more, this is an interesting organization that was initiated to help those of us in the third act of our lives contribute to helping solve the environmental problems we face: https://thirdact.org/

Happy Birthday, [MENTION=16186]available[/MENTION]!!

[wagmor]

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Lav - yes, we can definitely be better versions of ourselves for those we love since we stopped drinking. And better selves for US too! Sounds like a win-win We have the opposite weather of you right now: storms before a nicer weekend. Enjoy your good days and hopefully your storms will be mild.


Happy over-the-hump to everyone. Hope all is well in your corners of this world.

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We’re enjoying a few days of very pleasant weather before storms arrive Saturday night. April showers bring May flowers

Wags, glad to hear your report & if your Dad is willing to go for a ‘few days’ then you’re all set!!
I didn’t know you were looking into such a small place, that’s awesome. I’m used to dealing with 60 beds/wing, usually 3 wings or so in those places so there’s lots of opportunity for screw ups. Sounds like you found the ideal spot.
Having a clear head & heart while going thru this phase is such a blessing. You know you are paying attention & won’t miss any red flags while searching for placement for your Dad. We need to thank ourselves for quitting & doing the best we can do for ourselves & others :hug:

I hope everyone is doing OK & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav