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[HumbleRider]

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Giraffe, congratulations on 80 days! I'm coming up right behind you with the 21st for my 80th day AF. Celebrate by doing something nice for yourself.

Star, so great to see you back in full force, not stopping for alcohol on the way home and making yourself something yummy for dinner. I just have to barely think about those blackout afternoons to stop me from picking up a drink. I hope it works for you, too. I answered work calls at home a couple times during those afternoons in the last year of my drinking days. How embarrassing. Thank God I didn't make a complete ass out of myself and lose my job. No more of that crap for me!

xo all.

[HumbleRider]

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X-post J-vo! I'm awake now. just got home from work and am relaxing on the couch for a minute reading all these great posts. You sound exactly like I did when I used to help my son with his papers. They call me The Grammar Queen at work, which can be a problem when I don't have the answer, haha. And I was up til midnight last night. In the past, that would have gotten me so agitated that I wouldn't have slept all night. Now, I know that despite being up that late, I will still wake feeling pretty great for an old lady on a mission. xo

[acadiaofmaine]

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Good evening, Ladies,

Seems like we are all doing well today. Star, you sound like a new woman! I'm glad you have a had a good day.

I am wiped to the max. I guess two weeks in, I am still healing inside. Gonna have to crash by 8! But, it was a busy, productive day. No cravings, thank the lord, or whoever watches over us golden girls!

Keep your eyes on the goal: AF, ODAT. We're a great group.

Ann

[Caper]

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Wow; this is a very busy place. Forgive me, because of long hours at work; long commute, I cannot ?catch up? until a lot of posts have flown by. And, I am one of the new guys here so I apologize if I don?t know your history. Giraffe, congratulations on your 80 days! Ava; oh yes, please win the lottery. But if you do or don?t, I do remember you wanting to escape from the heat; and I do have a spare room for you; anytime, my friend. MossRose.. I think you and I have shown up here about the same time? SL... teenagers? What better reason to drink I?d say, but good for you.. pick up some Ben & Jerry?s instead. Oops, sorry, NS, the sugar free kind, if there is one? Dottie; YES! a fellow vegetarian; there aren?t many of us around. Pav.. I can so relate to the spoiled child.. I WANT to drink too; my advice? Don?t worry about June; you will be so strong by then, it won?t even be a pimple on a fly?s butt. HR, Narilly, DTD, Mein, Starfish. Can I just say, that as I read here, I realize that most of you are young enough to still have kids to worry about; I?m facing the opposite problem. My mother is 100 years old, and my sister recently decided to have her ?warehoused.? Long story.. and I don?t even want to go there except to bring up the question of why? when some of us, like myself, are in the over 50 category; why do we want to get healthy? Now? For what? So we can last long enough to go to the ?home?? Sorry, I don?t mean to come across as bitter, but you know what? I am bitter. And I am depressed. I should probably post this in the ?Golden Girls? thread. Gee.. aren?t you guys glad I showed up here?

[available]

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lol Caper. We are glad you showed up. If we cant express our feeling here then no point really. We all have our ups and downs, everyday is different. 100 wow that is old, did she get a letter from the queen? I just think Caper that i want to see my children grow up more than they are now and to be a nana one day and to really enjoy what is left of my life without hopefully being "warehoused" too early. We still have so much more to give in life, dont know what it is but thats the fun bit, finding out. I always figure we are a long time dead and miss so much. I will be in the over 50 category soon and i think after the amount of al i drank that i am very lucky to be making it as there are lots that dont due to al abuse. What those people go through when dying of al, i would not wish on anyone. So be grateful Caper, even waking up without a hangover is a blessing. Mind you waking up to the heat is not good so i think i will take you up on that spare room please.

[Caper]

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Ava, darling, that room has your name on it! Actually, I'm thinking of repainting it. What color would you like? I just hope you're not allergic to cats! But feel free to bring your doggy; we are still mourning the loss of our Border Collie, Dublin. Leo, our cat, misses him so much! They were inseparable! My mom did get a letter from our queen, Mr. Obama... fortunately, it was a congrats on her 100th rather than telling her she'd need to re-do her health insurance! I remember when I was dreading my 50th... oh, to be back then. I applaud you, and I envy you.. for getting the drink out of your life way before I did. I can only tell you one thing; you will never regret it!

[narilly]

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Caper,
Nice to read your posts. That is totally motivating that you wish you quit drinking when you were 50. It sure puts things into perspective. We sure learn from each other.
Thank you!

[HumbleRider]

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Caper, I'm 58 and had been drinking for 35 years or so before November 3rd, with more than a few negative consequences. My mom is 94. It's only now that I'm sober that I can settle down and enjoy my life, instead of pretending to while either drunk or hungover. You asked why get healthy at our age, for what? I also thought about that when I first quit. The future looked bleak. But because of not drinking, I have become more positive, thank goodness. I try not to dwell on the past or worry about the future as much as I used to. My attitude shift is a direct result of not drinking.

[Dottie Belle]

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Starfish we do whatever works for us...that is all I can do...
I am 59 and also wondered if I was too old or what difference it would make but I am so glad I finally did it.. better late than never?? I feel so much better and feel better each day..hope they thyroid checks out OK....but I still feel good!!

[j-vo]

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Why now? For what? Good questions Caper. I knew I had a problem many years ago. And I started my journey back in 2008 or so. I went through many programs, medications, AA, and my own programs. I kept going back to moderation (which was not really moderation) and I really got sick of myself. I hated how I lost so much life. I still regret it, and I know I need to get over that as well. It's never too late to feel good, to learn how to have a more fulfilling life. I'm learning right now, and every day AF is a blessing. This past weekend, I fell back into the hands of Al, and I can tell you, it sucked to be there. The whole hangover, crappy feeling, not being able to exercise, not caring what I did, sleeping all afternoon.

For what? For me, for my husband, for my son and the rest of my family. For a better life. To become stronger mentally, physically, and learn how to love myself.

[NoSugar]

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Star, I've just been able to be back online and how wonderful to hear that you have had a good day :l. Remember this feeling - and the one you'll have when you wake up tomorrow morning.

How great is it that we can have as many of these good feelings as we choose - it is totally in our control. I want them more than any feelings I could get (or avoid) with Al.

[narilly]

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I just lost my post! Anyway, I will check in tomorrow.
NS I love the pic.
J-Vo, thank you for the tips on Florida, they are so very helpful.

Ava, +9 here today, beautiful but I am still skating to work!

Goodnight,

[NoSugar]

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Your questions really got me thinking, Caper.

Why do it now? Because that is the soonest time possible. The main regret I've heard expressed by people with a good amount of time AF is that they didn't do it sooner.

When I was in the trap, the future seemed so bleak and boring. But it isn't! So now I want to be as healthy as possible to be able to make the most of whatever time I have. I am saddled with regrets about wasted time but now I am eager not to add to those. Of course we don't know what the future holds but we can live in a way that increases our odds of a healthy older age. I don't think it's ever too late.

This was the Daily Motivator post today that concerns how we view the future:


Whatever you think

If you think the whole world is against you, it might as well be true. If you think there?s a way to move successfully forward, you will find that way.

What you think about life plays a major role in the way your life unfolds. Whatever you think is going to happen will inform and influence each action you take, so that much of what you think does indeed happen.

If you think the task in front of you will be a tedious, boring chore, that?s what it will be. If you think the job will give you a unique opportunity to express yourself and create new value, it certainly will.

No matter what the reality of your life may be, you can choose exactly what to think about it. The more things you think about in a positive light, the more positive outcomes you will create.

If you generate thoughts of worry, criticism and complaint, you will end up creating even more things to worry, criticize and complain about. If you focus your thoughts on how to allow, encourage and enrich, you?ll find much more richness appearing in your life.

The thoughts you choose to think and hold are the same thoughts that influence every moment of your life. Choose wisely, and live magnificently.

? Ralph Marston

[Pavati]

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Don't worry about NS's picture, Star, Mein and Moss - we all have agreed that while we may feel like that spiritually we don't actually LOOK like that when we wake up without hangovers!

A quick check in before bed - just got home from a night out with my sister. Lovely dinner, a great show - amazing evening. Came home to find out that while DH was supposed to be helping son #2 finish his project, DH's way of helping was "are you finished? Yes? Good." No actual checking, and no reading the assignment. Needless to say, it is not finished! GGGRRRR. I feel guilty for going out now, and I know I shouldn't. What's my mantra - you can only control your own behavior? I just feel guilty that although my son read the book and understands the characters, he's going to get a much lower grade because the design components aren't there and the sentences aren't proofread. Believe me, he needs proofreading.

Sorry for the rant. It's been a good long while since we've had a DH rant around here. Maybe it will stir G out of the woodwork...

I hope to have time to read and respond more thoroughly this weekend.

Ok, all you loamers - what's your plan for the weekend? What will you do to avoid drinking alcohol? Me? Dinner out with good friends on Sat. but it is a long drive so I am officially the designated driver. Football on Sunday - again, I'll DD it (and eat plenty of nachos and chicken wings!)

I like your daily motivator, NS. The talk I heard tonight had a focus on being kind as the way to make the world a better place. Let's think about being kind to ourselves by staying sober, ok?

Night,
xo

[DreamThinkDo]

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Giraffe, I'm late to the party, but wow, 80 days - absoluut wonderlik!

Loamers, have a lovely AF Friday!