March Miracles~March 2018

[Lavande]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good evening friends,

The chickens are staying up later because of the daylight so I thought I'd check in here before running out to close them up for the night.
It was a lovely, 50 something day today with sun, no wind. Tomorrow all that changes, boo hiss
We had a meeting with our financial planner today & things are looking pretty good. Knock on wood because you know that can all change in an instant. We may be making some changes with insurance policies - they're kind of old fashioned these days, haha!

SK, I hope you are OK & your testing went well today. Just know we are thinking of you :hug:

Cyn, you certainly do not need any more snow so I hope these two storms miss you completely.
We dropped all the tax stuff off with the accountant last week & are now waiting for the calls with questions, ha ha!
My DIL has blocked me from all of her online presence with the exception of a blog she writes. She probably forgot that I subscribed to the blog years ago. I've seen some references to how she 'put herself back together differently'. Honestly, I really don't know.

Pauly, Romeo is a bog boy & they are always hungry. My son was the same way at that age. The rule of thumb, if they were formula fed was when they were drinking a quart of formula/day to start giving them a little cereal to help keep them filled up. I always gave my kids a little water between feedings, it's good for them

Hello to Star, hope you had a good day.

Have a nice night everyone!
Lav

[SKendall]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Hello gang,

Glad that's over. When they inserted the needle in my spine the pain went right down to my knee. Going back to recovery I had to ie on my back for 2 hours which is darned near impossible when that's where the nerve is. All of the staff were very nice and the only sedation was a valium. I was gasping for a coffee since I hadn't had one since Sunday a.m., but could just have water in the hosp. As soon as Uber took me to the dogsitter and I drove home, I made a coffee.

Pauly, hope hubs continues to like his new job. Maybe stop worrying about all of it, the outcome doesn't depend on how much you worry. I was a 10 lb baby too. When I was weighed today the eating without a conscience showed up.

Lav, DIL is erm, strange. When my daughter graduated high school, she decided to take a year of comm college. We had tea together in the a.m., but she didn't allow us to pay for tuition and told us her part-time jobs would cover it. Except she never went to the college. Don't know where she went during the day and I didn't know until son told me years later. That take a lot of deceit to pull that off. I never confronted her, but she has, I'm sure
more deceptions hidden.

Weather was cool and windy, but at least no snow. You poor people have certainly been handed a burden this year and I hope this is your last snowfall for the year.

Taxes!! Good job to all who have started them. I haven't received any of hub's statement for income declaration, so I'm not sure how to go forward. An accounting service is my best bet. I should get my skates on and get other statements. I'm sure the originals went to S-son.

I've got the heating pad on and I'm getting sleepy. just one more walk this evening with Peggy. She is now sleeping through the night. yeah.

[Snoopy56]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good morning...

Pauly, your grandsons sound like mine, the older is skinny, the younger one is a beast, eating all the time, 10 months and 22 pounds already. How is Louie doing with a baby brother? Hope your husband does well in the new job once the newness wears off. So hard to get a good job with people who are healthy to work with.

Cyn, it is hard getting back from a trip. I finally got through my backed up email, took me two days, today will pay a few bills and continue moving forward with normal activities. The dog activity sounds fun, dogs are such social creatures. I went out to dinner with my next door neighbor and we ended up going to an AA meeting together, she is in recovery too, isn't that something? So many of us choose to give up alcohol for so many reasons. Hope you are feeling better, eating well has helped me already.

Lav, my son is basically being transferred in his job as no one wants to work with him, two men, in the office here. I have been so upset, could not sleep two nights ago and got a super headache, I know my blood pressure was sky high. He tries so hard but is such a mess, it hurts and is a financial burden. So, he will soon be looking for another job, and then the cycle starts again. I have tried so hard not to get upset, but woke up at 3 am with my heart pounding,, stressed out. Wish I could just accept that this is the way it is and not have physical symptoms. He is supposed to work a few hours away for a few weeks, then they want to transfer him somewhere else, but he would not be able to afford to live on what they pay. So, more drama that I do not want to deal with at all. Glad to hear your financial status is good, long may it last. 45 is imploding, not good for our country, I hate that POS. He knows Mueller is getting closer and wants to fire him to stop the investigation, the repubs may let him, then no more rule of law in the good ole USA.

Skendall, you are so courageous, sending you healing thoughts. Figuring out our kids is not easy, I am lucky to have one who is stable, the other one is so difficult. You can only do what you can do, right? I love your independence and agree that moving is so hard, sounds like you are nesting where you are at for right now.

So feeling a bit better, my headache has left, what will be will be. Have a good AF Tuesday.

[paulywogg]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Morning friends,SK,glad everything seems to have gone ok with the procedure Star,I'm sorry your sons work situation is giving you anxiety,I wish we could just not care about our kid's problems but that's never gonna happen,that must be nice to have someone who's in recovery too so close to you,I don't think anything can take DT down,,he's like Teflon and people still like him! My customers think he's just being"picked on" dunno why they got it in their heads that I'm a DT supporter and feel free to vent to me,grrr,maybe cuz I kept my opinion to myself about politics who knows,I'd probly lose a bunch of I told them my true feelings,Lav,she blocked you? What an odd lady,wonder what she thinks she invented herself into? Cyn,hope everything is great for you today wishes for an easy BF Tuesday,Kell's birthday so well see what she wants to do later I think she and bf already made plans for just them but I'm not sure

[treegirl]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Morning all -

Just a quick one, as I awoke to a message of urgency for my work and have another hoop to jump through asap. Uuugh, I am going to be burned out in this job before we even get to the festival this summer!

Star, so very sorry about this situation... is there a live theater scene in your city? Usually any job in a theater - box office, etc is really open and accepting. sounds like he could use a Tribe to help him out... there's on,y so much you can do. Protect yourself and your health!!

Lav, Buckle up for snow! It's going to start tonight here, maybe up to 10 inches. This time NYC is going to get worse... good luck to HB! (Although they had the last storm there cleaned up the next day!)

Hi guys, number 2, 5:25 pm... I was justabout to click "post" this morning and Safari said it lost connection. Nothing else on the iPad lost connection, but this did... aaargh. I see that it did not autosave my whole post -

Pauly, glad to know you had a little sleep without grogginess.

SK, what a story about your daughter.

I think today's quote was "the answers are always before me, even if I do not see them"..... it's been a few days since I carved out time to listen to 'my guys'... I must make time.

To much to do tonight to go see Cezanne, so hoping maybe for next Sunday when it is repeated. Meanwhile I bought some tulips!

Good luck to all -- find some beauty!

[Lavande]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good evening friends,

Glad to still have power so I can check in, ha ha! Actually the wind hasn't even started yet, that's still coming. So far today we had snow for 4 hrs then ice for 4 hrs now it's back to snow. All I can say is tomorrow is going to be one gigantic mess!!!!! I will just hunker down here & try not to look outside too much.

SK, glad your testing went well. I hope some good treatment plan can be developed to give you lasting relief. Sounds like Peggy is happy too
Seems that most of us have experience dealing with difficult young women - interesting. Maybe, if we put our heads together we can find an effective way to deal with them!

Star, I'm sorry you are dealing with so much anxiety, it really hurts us in so many ways. I felt absolutely crippled with anxiety toward the end of my drinking career, it was awful.
Way back when my daughter was in maybe 3rd grade or so the Penn State extension service came to our elementary school & offered a free 'Parenting' course. I signed up thinking I could use a little help with ideas for managing my son who was ADHD. Turned out I learned a lot but the most important thing I got out of it Identifying Problems & assigning them - were the problems mine or were they my son's? Man, a lightbulb went off in my head & I felt a tremendous amount of relief. I had to make the kid responsible for his own sh*t & not take it all on as my responsibility. I know your son is an adult & it's different but maybe you could think in those terms - give yourself a break
I looked in the eyes of our young financial planner yesterday (he knows how I feel about 45) & he assured me that we are all going to be OK, ha ha. I sure hope he's right! In my eyes the GOP has absolutely disgraced itself beyond repair.

Cyn, geez you can't seem to catch a break, sorry! We don't want to see you burned out :hug:
This snow storm(s) is shaping up to be the worst one yet, ugh. It's supposed to snow straight thru until tomorrow at midnight, yikes!!!!
I'm staying put, making soup.....whatever.

Pauly, wishing Kell a Happy Birthday & hope you all can celebrate together. At least you won't be dealing with a snow/ice storm, ha ha.

Wishing everyone a nice night & I'll check in tomorrow provided the power doesn't go out on us.

Lav

[Snoopy56]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good morning...

Woke up to snow on the ground, what the heck. Not enough to even shovel but still, geez.

Lav, I wish I could just not care and leave my son to solve his problems, but it is the lack of money and social skills that is heartbreaking. My main goal is that he not live with me again, ever. So, that being my goal, and I mean it, funds to make that happen need to flow from somewhere. I am working on my resume this weekend and if I have to go back to work, I will. He cannot live here again, I need my space. This March weather is just out of control this year, yet we will get through it.

Pauly, it was nice to go to a meeting with my neighbor, she wants to go tomorrow too, we'll see if she follows through.

Cyn, hope they are paying you good money to work so hard, but I know you get alot out of the festival. Take care.

Hello to Skendall.

Have a good AF one.

[treegirl]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Morning all -

Star, I forgot to say how great it is that you have someone close by that you can go to meetings with. A neighbor with that kind of a bond is so wonderful- my neighbor is like that, not about AL. just about spiritual things... it's like we can get right to the point, even if we haven't spoken in days. Well, maybe finding the right position for yourself in the work world will be a good thing... I wish you all success, and a quiet heart. Good job protecting your space!

Lav, oh no, that storm sounds dreadful!! Snow, then ice and then snow? Eeek! Good luck, and I hope that your power holds. Strangely our storm(which will be arriving soon) is coming up the coast, and not related to your storm at all. I guess in NYC it will be tough today.

Pauly, happy birthday to Kell! I hope that you have a good celebration with her -- I read about the gifts that you are getting her -- love them!

SK, I grew up in a very secretive house where appearances mattered more than the truth. I have been thinking about this talk of secrecy -- I drank in secret (sort of) for a long time. I am still learning that it is OK to be visible, and to tell the truth - I congratulate all of us on our courage to change our lives! And I know we make those decisions each day to keep ourselves visible and accountable. Such interesting journeys we humans have.

Well, the big news is that we had a bear come through last night... completely destroyed/carried off my feeders and suet cages. Aaargh. Glad I didn't meet up with him though. But just before the storm, my poor birdies! So I must run out and get more of everything before the storm hits.

"I am kind and I attract kindness" wishing all you lovelies a great day --- good luck Lav!

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,Star,I understand you needing your space,I just posted on the daily that it looks like Michelle is gonna be here for a bit,she fixed up her room and bought a new futon for it,luckily my kids tend to just keep to their rooms so I don't hafta give up my spaces if that makes sense,Lav,Kell ditched us for her bf for dinner,they went to our fave Mexican place,,same one we took hubs too for his birthday with the big birthday sombrero,I guess Kell escaped to her car before they could sing to her,she told me she wanted to avoid the tequila shot and the embarrassment haha!I was a little hurt cuz I wanted to spend that time with her but I got to watch the boys so it was good,me and Lou played Trouble but he kept getting excited and being loud so Romeo woke up and we only got one round in, Still taking the relizen but honestly I wish there was more info on what the hell its supposed to do,or I should say how it works,I dunno,waves to SK and Cyn,hoping we all have a great Wednesday!

[SKendall]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Early evening all.

Decided to make pot roast in the slow cooker and it smells divine.

Star, the time your son has spent with you really has taken a toll, I'm sorry. It's funny you can raise 2 kids and they turn our completely different. In my case it's my son who is the compassionate one and is able to read people accurately. At 17, he was a bit of a terror though.

I am able to shower again, but not bathe. A hot shower really raised my morale today.

I bought 4 roses a while ago and planted two in containers. It takes a while b/c I have to scoop the soil in a container I can manage and then put it in the container, etc. Just 1 hour of mobility during the day would be so much easier. Hopefully I will have that.

I did grocery shopping and then took Peggy to the park, the weather was good, so it was good day.

Cyn, secrecy is not healthy and thank you for your post.

Lav, how are you coping with more snow and ice? It's been an awful winter for those who live in those areas.

I'd better go and eat.

[Lavande]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good evening friends,

All is well in snow-land, so far. I measured 6" before dinner & it' still snowing. The schools let out early yesterday, were closed today & I don't know what they plan to do about tomorrow. I really don't think the roads will be good enough for school buses in the morning. The power has stayed on so far, yay. We had 1 nor'easter yesterday, today is a different one, so weird.

Star, knowing that you need to preserve & protect your space is a plus!!!
There's no sense in us banging our heads hoping other people will change, been there & done that. If you can find a suitable job & it will help relieve your stress, then great.
I'm glad you have a neighbor to share with. I just contacted a former sister-in-law tonight, haven't been in touch for quite a while. Her daughter is having a baby soon so it was nice to have a chat.

Cyn, a bear?? Oh my!! We have foxes, turkeys & the occasional runaway horse or goat in our yard but n bears, geez. I imagine all of God's creatures are hungry right now 7 looking for a meal. I hope you don't get too much with this storm - you really don't need any more snow.

Pauly, watching two kids is a lot more challenging, ha ha! Glad you got to spend time with the grandsons. That's a lot better than eating tacos in my book

SK, there's nothing better than a nice warm shower! Enjoy working with you roses, a little at a time! You sound happy.

Well, I'll wish everyone a nice night!

Lav

[Snoopy56]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good morning...
We got about six inches of snow yesterday too, but it all melted in March snow fashion, and ended up in the high 40s and sunny by the end of the day, spring is trying to come to us.

Skendall, glad you had a good day, hope today is even better.

Cyn, a bear in your yard is just crazy! Yes, we had secrets in our family and always had to act as if we were happy, or it was not a good thing. I remember getting negative feedback if I was having a problem as a child, or in a bad mood, or needing help. Not a good way to learn to deal with difficult feelings or to resolve problems in a healthy way. I tried to be more open with my kids, worked to solve problems with them, but of course I was not perfect either. We all do the best we can and good we can learn to be more open and work through things.

Pauly, it is a different thing watching two kids. My daughter said something yesterday about taking both boys overnight in the near future, and I said we needed to wait till the baby was not up all night. I don't want to be up all night. Period. The older one was up a few times, but he will go right back to sleep. We had fun with him yesterday, he is such a cute age. Good that Kell had a nice birthday and she and bf are celebrating together. You are so lucky to live so close to her. Thinking of you with other daughter moving back in and wishing her well on creating a new life for herself.

Lav, so much snow for you, yuck. When we lived up north this was normal, but still tough weather. Not so much down here, and I am ready for spring. I am kind of up and down about working full time again, the first step is working on the resume, we'll see what happens. I am working really hard on getting healthy physically, my sobriety, and getting my life in order in all areas, a big order. This next week is busy with wedding anniversary and birthdays. Tough to eat healthy with all the celebrations.

Have a good AF Thursday.

[treegirl]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Morning lovlies!

Glad to hear you are OK in the storm, Lav. For once, here we escaped!! Only 2 inches that fell in the nighttime. Good thing, as I bought new feeders for the birds, but I didn't have time yesterday to put them up. Must help out my feathered friends today... Hopefully the day off discouraged the squirrels. We really need these remaining 18 inches of accumulation to melt so that everybody (bears included) can find some food!

Pauly, what a funny story about you and Louie and the baby. Glad that Kell had a good birthday, but sorry you two couldn't be together. I think it is great that you play games with Lou -- I grew up in a non-game, non-card playing family... and I still have 'game' anxiety! I feel behind even when I play with kids! Although I used to play "Sorry" with my grandmother -- does anybody play that now? I think that Lav said to give that sleep stuff a month to really kick in... stay with it!

SK - isn't running hot water a miracle? And the ability to bathe? So glad that you got some comfort in that way. Gosh, you so deserve many hours pain-free, I hope that is on the horizon. You are amazing at how you continue to do 'real life' even when it is a struggle for you. Here's to you!

Star - Yes, my family too - it didn't really matter what was going on inside, as long as it looked good on the outside. My parents used to say to me "That's the bad girl - go in your room and come out when you are the good girl". And it worked! No wonder i developed a split personality! (lol) I hope that things are smoothing out for your son, and that this last interview was good. Stay steady and strong. I hope your group is a good support for you... Take Care!

Same old here - working as many hours as I can get myself to do in a day. This weekend is several deadlines... after that things will shift to working more with my organizing clients in April -- I am ready to do work where I move around!

Alrighty - here's something to think about today:

"I have amazing strength within me"... and yes, you all do, as you have demonstrated time and again!

[paulywogg]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Morning friends,Cyn,I can't believe a bear came into your yard,,I'd freak! Saw a mouse in my bathroom this morning,where did it come from?!? That was scary enough,Star,I'm with you on the overnights with babies,I took Lou once when he was a few months old and he woke up at 2 am crying and I couldn't get him back to sleep,we all know I sleep horribly enough as it is,don't want extra stress of having to care for a baby,during the day done,being it on but nights whew! Kell's dumb bf took on a stray dog,his brother found it Sunday and they took it to the pound,it had a chip but nobody claimed it so they called his bro who gave them his number cuz he knew he wanted a dog and the pound brought it to Kell's last night,she was pissed! Im pissed,I think its irresponsible to take on another dog when they have a new baby,a dog already that he doesn't like and its kind of a bigger dog that I know won't get proper exercise cuz her bf is lazy! So dumb,Lav,I will keep up with the Relizen cuz its not hurting anything I just hope I feel some benefit as I keep on it,says its supposed to help mood swings too,we'll see,o do notice bloating a bit and it contains some kind of fiber I read so it might be that,SK,hope you're well and we see you today,wishes for a great AF Thursday

[Lavande]

Re: March Miracles~March 2018

Good evening friends,

We were blessed with blue skies & wall to wall sunshine today that melted off a lot of snow. Not sure what the final total was, probably 9”.
We found the roads in good shape but the schools were closed anyway. My son brought the boys over for a little while to do some sledding. Our ‘hill’ is not really big enough but their yard is super flat.

Pauly, anything added fiber can cause bloating & the best way to offset that is by drinking a lot of water.
Just when I thin’ things are turning in my favor I found myself wide awake from 2-4:30 am, wth? Hopefully tonight won’t be a repeat.
I remember being up with the grandkids at night when they stayed here but it didn’t last too long.

Star, glad your snow came & went quickly
Is there such a thing as a patt time job in your field? Working part time really takes the pressure off I think. I was happier part time when my kids were very young. Of course in nursing when you get hired to work 3 days per week you always ended up working more, ugh.
You have your priorities right, just don’t push yourself too fast.

Cyn, I hope you had a bear free day today!!!
I can barely keep the feeders full, the birds have been hitting them hard. As soon as it warms up a bit (I’m hoping mid-week next week) I am going to move my young chicks out of my laundry room & into their jr high dorm in the chicken house. I see next week it looks like temps will be staying above freezing at night.
Sitting at a desk all day is hard on the body. I really prefer to be moving around myself. I hope your work allows you to get moving soon.

SK, hope you are well today & enjoying your decent weather & your roses.

Wishing everyone a nice night & absolutely no snow!
Lav