~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

[Slo]

I’d be pretty livid at that dentist, Rava! Hopefully you can get seen today.

Ginger, woo hoo! Having another abstain-er will make it easier for you too when you get together with your sisters.

I went out to my brother’s house yesterday and spent the afternoon playing cards with my brother and his twin sons who are seniors in high school. I went on the pretense of needing them to teach me how to play euchre before I join the neighborhood group next week, and they obliged me! My sweet 16 y/o niece was in & out too. It was fun, and assuaged some loneliness. I think it was good for them too, and they enjoyed it!
I hate to see how severe chronic alcoholism (as well as intense anger & complex PTSD from narcissistic abuse as a scapegoat) has ruined my once happy, whole, outgoing, super-popular brother! His reflexes and thinking are all slowed, his thinking can be confused, and he lashes out in mean, inappropriate, intense anger at his sons and me if we make any little mistakes while playing cards.
I feel so bad for the boys. But they have been dealing with it for a long time, and have had to make many adaptations along the way (since their mother died when they were 7) to shoulder much of the household burden, and to cope with their dad the way he is, and try to defuse him and steer him towards appropriate behavior. And the end is in sight, as they will be graduating from high school this Spring and moving on.
My brother is a good dad to the kids in many ways, but he is quite impaired from the drink.

So, we made the right decision to drop AL out of our lives! And let’s keep this going for another 24 hours!

[Jude58]

That's a shame about your brother Slo. Addiction is a tough foe to beat and the damage that it causes among families is heartbreaking. So glad that I was able to break free from the booze, my life is so much better now.

24 more for all of us please...

[abcowboy]

4:54am in Alberta, 24 more for me please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
Jude58 dill Ginger999 Slo

Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

That's great news about your sister Ginger, it's always good to hear when someone else puts down the bottle, especially a family member.

And such sad news about your brother Slo, maybe he'll put it down one day as well.

Let's all have a great day my friends!

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. Slo, i bet your nephews loved you coming over and playing cards. Too bad your brother can’t see his own troubles. Ginger so glad your sister has dropped the drink. Well I went to the dentist in tears yesterday morning and they said they never got my messages over the weekend. The office nurse even showed me her call log and was clearly upset. I let her know how upset I was and basically cried a little. They arranged for me to see an oral surgeon right around the corner who packed the tooth with medicated gauze and sent me home with a special “witches brew” antiseptic mouth rinse. I have to go back today for follow up. The oral surgeon didnt even charge me. I guess my dental office foot the bill. I am feeling 100 percent better! The tylenol with codeine only held back the pain for 2 hours so it was not all that great of a pain reliever. Once the pain went away my whole attitude got better. Mentally I felt to much better. People living with chronic pain have my complete sympathy. Hope everyone has a great and sober day. 24 more please and thank you.

[Slo]

I agree, Rava; I don’t know how people do it (live with chronic pain). So glad that the dental office has responded appropriately to your plight, and is getting you good help.

I am heading up an hour to spend the day with my daughter and three young grandchildren.

So thankful that I broke free of AL addiction as well -thankful for all of us!

[Ginger999]

Wow, Rava! I wonder what happened to your calls? It sounds like they made it right and got you on the path to healing but jeez. It was avoidable, if you could have reached them. Glad you're feeling better!

Slo, that's so sad about your brother and the affect on his kids.

Not much going on around here! Waves to all. I'll take another day

[dill]

Slo, so sorry to hear about your brother's problems. Addiction is a terrible thing. It's so hard on entire families.

Rava, glad to hear you are feeling so much better! I wonder what happened to your calls and messages at the dentist's office. I'm glad they made it right for you.

Ginger, that is really great news about your sister!! I agree with Cowboy, "it's always good to hear when someone else puts down the bottle, especially a family member."

We had a huge tree taken down yesterday. It was right by the house and was losing limbs. We were afraid every time there was a wind storm! It cost $3003.00 to have it taken down and the stump ground out. It was cut to firewood lengths so we have a pretty good start for next year!

24 more, please.

[Jude58]

Rava, so glad that you were finally able to get some relief from the pain. Yay!

Heading to the airport soon to begin vacay. I'm so excited!

Here's to 24 hours of freedom...

[abcowboy]

5:20am in Alberta, I'll have another 24 please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
Jude58 Rava Slo Ginger999 dill

Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

I'm glad you were able to get some relief for your pain Rava, hopefully you'll be all healed up soon.

How was the day with your daughter and g-kids go Slo, I bet they are happy when they get to see you.

Wow, that's a lot of money to get a tree removed dill, but I guess it's worth it in the long run considering the damage it might have caused.

Have a safe flight Jude, and then enjoy the road trip with your sister.

[dill]

Jude, have a wonderful time with your sisters! Yay for you! How long will you be away from home?

Cowboy, it was truly a lot of money to get that tree removed, but totally necessary. The tree was about 80ft tall, so that, and the proximity to the house, made for a tricky situation.

24 more for all of us please.

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. Wishing you a safe and fun trip Jude! Woot Woot!!! Dill I am glad you got that tree taken down. It’s worth the money as your peace of mind will be much better! My daughter had 4 trees taken down to a cost of 8,000 so I understand. Heading out to the pool today with my sister in law. Back to dentist tomorrow to have the packing switched out. Apparently a dry socket is similar to a wound on your skin where you need packing. Anyway, waves to everyone here! 24 more please and thank you!!

[Ginger999]

Rava, I've heard the term dry socket my entire life but never experienced it or new someone that did til now. Sounds horrible. Glad you're on the mend.

Happy trails, Jude! Enjoy every second.

Dill, for what needed done, it sounds like 3 grand was reasonable and worth it. I'm sure you can sleep better knowing it's gone.

Waves, ABC, Slo, Mul. I'll take another day!

[Slo]

I’m excited for you too, Jude! You will get to spend time at both sisters’ houses!

I got to see dear old Uncle Don today (ex-HB’s uncle), since I found myself near his house after driving to a location to get fasting blood work done. So that was a nice visit! He’s still doing pretty well for almost 95, although he’s worried that he might not pass his driver’s test & license renewal tomorrow due to vision loss.

I didn’t realize that tree removal is so expensive, just like I didn’t realize that new windows are so expensive. But, everything is going up in price. At least windows have; maybe tree removal has stayed stable.

The grandkids are so young yet that they really do like to have me visit! Especially little 2 y/o Cooper! I read stories to Cooper & Mabel, did crafts with Cooper, built a Magna Tile tower with Beckett, and played a game with Mabel & Beckett. I’m trying to enjoy them while they’re young, and soak up those hugs! (None of those anymore from Beckett, the oldest.) My pain & mobility problems have cramped my style quite a bit though, but I do what I can.

Enjoyed the warmer weather today! Spring is coming.