~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

[Ginger999]

Have a great time, ABC. Sounds like a beautiful park. I doubt our quit had anything to do with SIL's quit. Maybe if we saw her more often? The two of us are spend the morning together. Maybe she'll open up but if she doesn't, I'm not going to bug her.

Jude, did I miss you mentioning you were sick? Hope the antibiotics work quickly!

Dill, clothes shopping with gdaughter sounds fun! I used to enjoy that when mine were young enough to need me. Will you have lunch out? This summer has flown by!

Hi Rava, Slo and Mul! Let's all have an easy day

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. Ginger, good news about your SIL, she is very vulnerable right now and it’s good that you are going to be with her this weekend. I am sure you can offer great advice!. Jude, so glad they caught your pneumonia early. Hopefully those antibiotics will kick in and clear it up right away. Dill, hope you have a good time shopping today with the granddaughter. Our sleepover is still in progress. They are sleeping in right now. And I am typing quietly. LOL. Today we are going swimming in a hot spring. So far this trip was been great. We have a total of 9 grands but they are all spread out. Hope everyone has a wonderful day. Hi to cowboy, slo and Mul! (Hope you check in soon Techie). 24 more please and thank you.

[dill]

Have fun at the reunion, Cowboy. Battlefords looks like a wonderful setting. I searched it to see it. It looks wonderful!

Glad you are having fun with your grands, Rava.

Hope you are feeling better, Jude.

Shopping yesterday was fun. Ginger, we went early to avoid crowds. Back to school shopping has already ticked up. Anyway, we had breakfast out instead of lunch.

Hello Ginger, Mul and Slo.

24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.

[Jude58]

Dill, I'm not going to volunteer this week because of the pneumonia. My doctor told me that the pneumonia itself isn't contagious, but the virus that started it is. He said that I shouldn't be around other people until the symptoms are gone, but hopefully by next Monday I'll be better. The coughing and wheezing aren't too bad, but the fatigue is wiping me out. Things sure could be worse so I can't complain.

Hope that the reunion is going well cowboy!

Twenty four more for all of us please...

[abcowboy]

5:35am in Saskatchewan, 24 for me and everyone else who needs them please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have signed in for 24 hours of wellness:
Jude58 dill Ginger999 Rava

Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

I've got some breakfast ready...

[abcowboy]

Probably a good thing to just stay home, rest, and recuperate Jude. There'll be lots of Mondays for you to be there helping out.

How did the shopping go dill? Hard to believe it's already August and school is only a month away.

We don't have any g-kids Rava, but we definitely felt like we did yesterday with all the little ones at the reunion yesterday lol.

Your SIL might be talking to you a lot more Ginger if she gets serious with her quit and needs some support.

I wonder what Slo and Mulburry have been up to...

Made it safe and sound yesterday, got checked in to our room then headed over to the group camping area. Lots of visiting and catching up with family that we haven't seen for 10 years and more of the same for today. It's a beautiful setting for a reunion and has everything for both campers and non-campers. Just as a side note, there wasn't anyone drinking any alcohol at all, even around the campfire last night. You'd have thought we were at an AA reunion lol. I'm not sure why no one was drinking, there used be lots of drinking in the past reunions.

[Ginger999]

Thanks for breakfast, ABC!

Yesterday, SIL and I hung out, just the two of us. She shared the impetus of her quit was a letter from her oldest daughter; she received right after the reunion. D1 shared her many concerns with her mom's drinking. It broke her heart so she's trying. I hope she can find her way to quit. We all know our quits come from within so we shall see. _/\_ She knows I'm here if she needs me.

Rava, hot spring? I'll be interested to hear what it's like! I love geothermal activity.

Jude, sending healing thoughts for a quick recovery!

Headed home today. Waves to all my anchors in the storm! I'll take another day of freedom.

[Slo]

Fascinating about nobody drinking at your reunion, Cowboy!

Ginger, is this the SIL who said to you that she missed the good times when you two used to drink together? You will be a great role model for her!

So sorry about the pneumonia, Jude. Now you know why you’re tired. I’m glad it was caught in time. I am on a second round of antibiotics for the accessed tooth.

I love that you are clothes shopping with your granddaughter, Dill.
I miss so much being able to walk! I so much want to be able to do those kind of normal things!!

I have been spiraling out of control over the pain and disability, and so worried about living with chronic pain with every step. I think I have developed a splayfoot and its attendant problems, and I am beyond terrified. I became suicidal. I wanted to go so badly rather than live like this, disabled and in pain. I have never been suicidal before. I formulated many plans yesterday, and intended to carry it out last night.
Luckily my daughters are on to me, and D2 invited me out boating with them (as I had requested that they do sometime). It kept me out late, and happy. When I got home, I got my suicide note ready, but then lost my nerve when my foot seemed better at the time. So, I’m still here today, and surprised by that.
The daughters are making me do counseling. I didn’t care when they were setting up plans because I knew that I wouldn’t be here anyways. But, here I am.

Rava, what a lovely time you are having! Other than having to recover from the severe travel exhaustion.

I have a bottle of hard liquor in the house now for the suicide plan, but I won’t drink it.

[Lavande]

Forgive me for jumping in uninvited BUT Slo, you need to get someone to take you to the ER now!
Suicide ideation & a plan is serious business. You need a Psych evaluation immediately. Don’t wait & please don’t put yuor family through this. You may remember my brother-in-law killing himself right next door several years ago. It hurt his family, all of us for a very long time.
Please seek help ASAP.

Lav

[Jude58]

Thanks for your post Lavande, you are so right and I couldn't have said it better. Please get help Slo! I was suicidal at one point when I was drinking. Everything was so dark in my life and ending it all seemed like the best option, but then I thought of how much it would hurt those that I loved and I couldn't go through with it. So glad that I didn't end things that way.

Hope that you had a great time at the reunion cowboy, it's amazing that no one drank at all!

Good luck with your sil and her quit, I'm sure that she looks up to you. You're the perfect person to guide her through the path to sobriety.

Slo, sending prayers your way...

Lavande, you're always welcome here, so jump in whenever you want! We'd love to have you! Cowboy makes a fantastic breakfast on Sunday mornings.

Twenty four more please...

[dill]

Lav you are welcome anytime, of course. It was good of you to join with such concern and good advice. Hope you are doing well.

Cowboy, it is interesting that no one was drinking at your reunion. I can't say the same was true here at ours, but I can say that alcohol was not as major a feature as it used to be in the past. I'm so glad you and Bubba enjoyed the reunion. Thanks for the great breakfast

Slo, your daughters sound very concerned for you and made that counselling plan with love. I would be reticent to go too if I were in your shoes, but I think you should follow thru since they clearly love and care for you.

Ginger, how old is the SIL's oldest daughter? Hopefully the letter will be the "intervention" that was needed. But we all know how hard it will be for her and that the motivation is best if self-generated. Now that she had this event and the letter, she must be feeling the weight of shame and self-loathing that is crushing. Prayers for her are on the way.

Rava, have you got your energy level back?

24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.

[abcowboy]

5:28am in Saskatchewan, another 24 please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
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Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

I think maybe going along with your daughter's counseling plans wouldn't be such a bad idea Slo. They are showing you how much they love and care for you. I have to admit that I don't know what it would be like living in constant pain, but suicide is never an answer in my opinion anyway.

Great to see you here Lavande, you are definitely welcome to join us anytime!

Bubba and I will be headed home after breakfast this morning. Everyone said their goodbye's last night as we'll all be leaving this morning, some earlier than other's. It was nice to see everyone, but it will be nice to be back home as well.

[Slo]

It is awful living with constant pain. It is no way to live. And I’m unable to help my daughters and unable to do normal things with my grandchildren, and unable to do normal activities of daily living. I don’t know what will become of me! Just unending pain. And pretty bed bound. But, suicide is harder than it looks at first glance.

I do remember your BIL, Lav. My brother committed suicide too, in 2020. It has haunted me this whole time. Lots of survivor’s guilt.

Thank you for sharing, Jude. I feel less alone in this then. I am glad that you like your life now, on the other side of it.

Sounds like a nice reunion, Cowboy.

I will go through with the outpatient counseling I guess, for them. But I am reticent, Dill. That stuff isn’t always helpful, and can be hurtful.

24 more hours of pain and disability…