One Step at a Time - October 2018

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Hi all,
40 degrees and the cats are loving it running around all over. Went out to the Indian mounds for a walk, then was gonna get dd2 to go to the jazz fest but it started raining like crazy. Went to the Greek fest, it was smaller than I thought but ok. Cats caught a squirrel and ate it head first, ugh. Thinking I'll make up some burritos and put em in the freezer to have something quick. I just don't like to cook much, well I do but it is a huge trigger so...Rusty, the dinner party sounds wonderful! Sorry work is a bore lately. I am closing my pool for the winter......Nora, sorry your mom isn't doing well. :hug:.....Pauly, I used to love those school carnivals. All those school functions were very exciting to me. They still are, even in college. Hope Romeo's ear is doing better....Liz, the day out with Erin sounded fun. Your mom might be scared. I know I am, living alone and my neighbor isn't too close. Hope the leg pain isn't something bad.......AG, I put on about 40 pounds during my kids teen years. Really struggling to lose it now. It is hard when the kids go off to college, but very exciting at the same time. I spent a lot of time reading the Belle blogs too. I have listened to a lot of her audio as well. Something else that is helping me is This Naked Mind site. She has a 30 day thing that is free and full of good stuff. I think its called the 30 day alcohol experiment...well, off to start my day...

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Morning friends,Rusty,glad you had a nice get together with your friends Liz,is your mom taking anything for sleep? I'm only asking cuz I take unisom and it knocks me out and I sometimes wake up with a weird pain somewhere from sleeping in a weird position,,good idea for you guys to take turns sleeping over,probably might be fun too for a change Nora,poor mom AG,glad you don't have a horrible story for returning,I might try cutting carbs just cuz I read some peoples hay fever gets helped by not having wheat and sugar,gonna be hard and usually I can only last a few days on it,grrr,Bird,what's planned for today? Glassy hope you're ok,rainy day here and Romeos still throwing up so dunno how my day will be,Kellz had to leave work early yesterday and I know she can't afford to miss today poor thing,much love to all,let's TRY to have a positive AF Sunday loves!

[paulywogg]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

I used to read Belle's articles but the constant trying to sell stuff rubs me the wrong way,dunno why,now she is pedaling her hubs' not so great artwork in every email so I unsubscribed

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

PAuly, poor Romeo! It's so hard when the little ones are sick, you just want to make it all better.
Bird, I think you r right about mom being afraid to be alone. We just don't know how to help her. I'm not sure we can, she just needs to grieve daddy. She is just miserable. If mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy. She was crying at church today. I can count the times on one hand that I have seen my mom cry. I must admit, I was desperate to numb my feelings today, I feel so helpless. Confession and accountability here.
Sorry I've been so down guys, I'm just kinda struggling here. Hope you Sunday's were good.

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Hi Everyone,


Liz:hug:try to take your mind off your mom for right now. Thank you for being honest. You know if you drink, the repercussions will be FAR worse than that initial feeling that you just want to run and escape. I so understand how you want to numb your feelings. Yup. Been there and done that...many times. I did numb my feelings of career boredom and crankiness with Halloween candy my friends brought me yesterday. OK, not the best choice but hey, it worked. LOL

Your mom looks SO much like my German grandma on my dad's side. I should dry and dig up a picture and PM it to you. No kidding. My grandma was heavier and had big blue eyes but the facial features are SO similar, I can't believe it!

If mama ain't happy ain't nobody happy.

That was my grandma to a T. She ruled the roost. It's really cathartic for your mom to cry, though, and I know you know that. My uncle never would display emotion in public, or even in private, and it always bothered my extremely affection aunt, but when she passed away suddenly in July, it hit him like a ton of bricks. He can't talk about her without breaking down, and he admitted that he cannot get through this without the help of a faith-based (he has NO faith at all) grief support group. It's the only thing keeping him together.
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-the Indian Mounds sound soooo cool! I've never read Belle's blog.

Pauly-Is Romeo feeling any better?

Nora-did you have a bit of a respite today? How is your mom doing?

AG-how are you holding up?

I had a good time with Mom today so I am back at my desk...dealing with the-I-am-so-bored-with-paperwork-I want to pull my hair out feelings. I better get back at it, though. I will see you all tomorrow! :-)

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Lizann:hug:....Pauly..hope Romeo is doing better...

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Liz :hug: hang in there friend. It is heartbreaking to see your Mother so sad. But, you also need to remember to take care of you. :heartbeat:

Pauly - I hope that Romeo is feeling better. Poor little guy. It is so sad when our babies are sick.

Rusty - I'm sorry that work is so hard right now. Is it just the paperwork, the travel, the boredom? Hang in there. How's your Mom doing?

Bird - you really made me think when you said you don't like to cook because it's a trigger. I never did a lot of cooking but I certainly did much more of it than I do now. I know that I certainly did imbibe when I was cooking. I'm going to check out The Naked Mind site. I'm sure I did once before but I forgot.

AG - how are you doing? Are you planning on going AF or moderating? What can we do to help?

Ok - I am seriously worried about Glassie. [MENTION=8902]Glass Half Empty[/MENTION] - I think she just must be in the hospital. We should have made sure her son had the contact info for one of us so we could have an update. :sad:

[actiongirl46]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Hi - Thanks Nora, I am ok. Actually doing well. I don't think I can moderate. But I haven't stuck the AF for the long run yet either. I'm so proud of all of you. I just appreciate being here.

What happened to Glassie? Is she sick?

Hang in there Liz! I am so sorry your mom is so sad. That would be really hard.

Rusty, I really struggle when I'm bored at work. I hope you can figure that out!

Going to see my awesome therapist tomorrow. Have a good Monday all!

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

AG! How was your visit with the therapist today? Do you find it helps and is she an addiction counsellor?
How was everyone's Monday? Mine was somewhat eventful. Went to work today and called mom at lunch. She had another bad night and made an appt for the doctor, BS ( big sis), happened to be off this afternoon and was able to go with her, which is great cuz she's a nurse. Dr. Thinks it might be a pinched nerve. Ultrasound and MRI to be done ASAP. She put mom on fibromyalgia/depression drug. Should help with pain and her depression. Spoke to mom and she seems a little more relaxed tonight. Was talking on the phone with BS when I came into the house. Hubby, Erin and Logan were here. After I got off the phone I explained that TS (twin sis) will take mom for the Doppler and depending on when the MRI is scheduled either BS or I would take her. Hubby made a condescending remark about me not being able to handle taking my mother for her MRI without getting hysterical. SAY WHAT? Really? I said nothing till Erin and Logan left, but gotta tell you I was so angry and hurt. There's that support I need, thanks. Why not just pour me a drink right now? He did apologize, but boy was that the wrong thing to say. Like PAuly says, Men can be such turds. Anyway Erin made a wonderful dinner and a homemade apple pie! :sohappy:

[bird]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Hi all,
Nothing going on here today except the weather was spectacular. So nice not to have to use the ol space heaters anymore. ......Nora, I am thinking Glassie is in the hosp. too...A.G. she has been ill for awhile. How was your appt? Glad you have a good therapist.....Liz, that sucks what hubs said. Nice about the dinner though...Pauly, hope you had a good day...I am watching Gomer Pyle. So goofy haha...ordered some boots from amazon wardrobe, they came in today, 5 pairs and I don't like any of them so sending all back. Ended up ordering the waterproof version of the shoe I wear hiking, which I probably should have done to begin with...

[NoraC]

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I am going to completely agree with you Liz - men can be such turds! That was such a low blow your husband gave you. You have dealt with all this shit and you had one day where you didn't handle it well. And now you're dealing with more of your mom being ill.
And then he made such a rude remark.:furious::stompy2::stompy2:
Today he is not winning husband of the year :stompy2:

[NoraC]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Bird - I was thinking about trying the Amazon wardrobe. Is that the first time your tried it? So happy that you had great weather.

AG - I hope that you had a good meeting today with your therapist.
This is only my experience.........All I can say about moderation is that I wasted many years obsessing about alcohol. I didn't really moderate, I just white knuckled thru not drinking until the next time I could drink.
I am sure other's have different experiences but I just wanted to share mine.

Pauly - how's Romeo? I hope he's better.

Oh Bird - I was watching Gomer Pyle the other day too LOL

Got to run. We're hitting the hot tub. nthego:

[Rusty]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

Hi All,

I have arrived in PA and I fly out tonight. Home tomorrow and an appt. with the oral surgeon to get an implant for my tooth that fell out on 4th of July.

Liz-Oh man....I would have been PO'd if my husband made a nasty remark like that, and I would have thought the same thing, "pour me a drink right now!" You have handled your dad's passing and your mom's situation SOOOO well! Men can be such idiots...you just want to hit them over the head with a frying pan. No offense to the lovable MWO men: [MENTION=7261]Guitarista[/MENTION], [MENTION=11089]techie[/MENTION], [MENTION=17632]Mr Vervill[/MENTION], and [MENTION=21602]abcowboy[/MENTION]...you guys are wonderful!!!:thumbsup:
[MENTION=2634]bird[/MENTION]-glad you got the boots you wanted. Oh, those old shows are so fun to watch....I found myself watching "Petticoat Junction" the other day.

Pauly-you are much younger than we are and @GlassHalfEmpty...you must be really lost sometimes when we talk about TV shows, etc.

Pauly-is Romeo any better? How has work been lately?
[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]-soak in the hot tub until you prune! LOL. How is your Mom doing?

AG-Glassie is soon to become DOCTOR Glassie...she will be getting her doctoral degree very soon! She has been fighting a continuous respiratory infection of some sort, and horrendous bouts of diverticulitis. She has been in and out of the hospital for a long, long time. We are so worried about her because she is much fun, genuinely caring and compassionate, and is full of wisdom.
[MENTION=9757]NoraC[/MENTION]-I know you're worried about Glassie but I don't think we would have a way of knowing how she is doing. I doubt her sons know that she is a member of MWO. My family doesn't.

Well, I better leave for work. I hope we all have a wonderful AF Tuesday!

[paulywogg]

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Morning friends,couldn't post yesterday cuz the site was acting weird for me after I posted on the 24 hr thread,weird,I think Romeo is better but yesterday he didn't seem like his playful self but maybe he was just tired,Liz,I'm sorry about hugs' remark that's pretty shitty you've gone through kids leaving,precious Lucy passing,watching your dads health fail then passing,watching your moms dealing with the loss and I think you've done a great job of keeping it all together! Better than I would that's for sure,keep your head up hon Bird,I'm tired of ordering clothes or shoes online and when it comes its crappy! I'm over it,just stick to my stores for that stuff,much love to all back later!

[Lizann]

Re: One Step at a Time - October 2018

HI all!
Thank you all for your kind words. I pouted for the rest of the night, that's just exhausting. He apologized and I'm over it.
Rusty, I thought you were in Connecticut? Or was that last week, do you ever wake up and wonder where you are?
PAuly, I hope Romeo is feeling better! He's been sick awhile now, right? I do buy clothes online, but hate returning if I don't like them. More trouble than it's worth if you ask me.
BIrd, space heaters are so dangerous. I'm glad your not dealing with them anymore either. The picture of your cat is so sweet!
Nora, are you in the hot tube again? How is Molly BTW?
AG, how are you holding up? Is your husband home or away working?
Went to lunch with two former coworkers. It was fun catching up and reminiscing. TS took mom for her ultrasound today, tomorrow is her MRI. I fear it is a fractured vertebra and pinched nerve. She does have osteoporosis. She said the pain is increasing, but honestly she was in better spirits today. She is sharing a lot more. Her feelings and how much she misses daddy. Which she hasn't ever really done with us. I think she shared everything with daddy so I'm glad she's opening up to us now. Just please send positive thoughts that whatever is found it is easily treatable.
Off to watch some mindless tv, Married at First Sight:welldone: