Newbies Nest

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Well Byrdie’s rain finally arrived here today, haha! Just showers off & on, no big deal.
My grandson has been completely occupied with his laptop, my iPad & my laptop on emerging once in a while for a feeding, LOL
Trying to get things done & put together for next weekend’s craft fair. I’ve missed doing these events this year & this will be an outdoor fair. Hoping for dry weather by next Saturday.

Hello to all & wishing a safe night in the nest for everyone!

Lav

[NoraC]

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Hello Nesters.

Nar was talking about how it was while drinking. I do NOT miss those days at all.

I hope that everyone has a wonderful weekend.

[ThreeBottlesOfWine]

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Hey all, I note that less people have been posting since I joined here, also on the other thread - people who were posting daily suddenly stop when I started posting, this happened before, people like Elvis suddenly stop when they see me coming on, its common for me, also in real life. I think it's because people don't like my eccentricity, it's not normal to be happy on this planet, and I've come to terms with that and have made peace with it. I have made it to day 21 and 21 days is the key day for breaking habits, so I won't be posting anymore so other people can post again. I am really grateful to you all for the support, I will continue to be AF and WF and also Coffee F and anything else bad F and I wish you all the best, you are wonderful people who help other people, we need more like you. Much love to you all and big hugs - take care. <3

[available]

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afternoon nesters

Been MIA again, i keep telling myself to post but i read then i start work and then the day is gone. I think i work more at home than i used to at work. socialising was a wonderful tool to avoid work!

Welcome 3B. I am sure people are busy with their lives and its no because of you they stop posting. The chances of you relapsing with no accountability is high so please hang around. The company is great, some wonderful advice and for me it keeps me grounded. 21 days in the big scheme of sobriety is not much. I still sometimes think 7 years is not much but i have all of my tools i need to handle any situation that is put in my way with regards to alcohol and if i dont feel comfortable being in a situation i leave or dont go. what is WF? i wracked my brain with something but nothing came to mind.

Deedoo i see you have finished your painting, great work. what is the next project?

Belle, so glad you are not drinking, i hope things are sorted with your son and you can find some peace from it all.

Wags, i can hear the distress in your words. Sitting so far away i dont see a good outcome if a certain person is elected and even though i am no religious at all, i hope and pray that he is not elected again. I dont get into politics but my mute button goes into overdrive when he is on the tv. I will have everything crossed on election day that your country begins to heal and move on.

We are still in stage 4 restrictions but a few people from the same house can go to the supermarket now. woo hoo and we have no curfew but we cant go more than 5 kilometres from home sooooooooooooooo. But life is good, my family is healthy and well, my daughter is moving to a new place in a week, im walking everyday and clearing my head so i cant complain.

Pav, i may even try the yoga you shared. Will keep you posted.

take care and be safe xx

[NoSugar]

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[MENTION=24307]ThreeBottlesOfWine[/MENTION], I assure you it has nothing to do with you whether people post. That is a big story you told yourself and believed. You are down on yourself so you think we are, too. We are not. From the low place you were in, maybe you even missed how many people welcomed you back and are glad to see you here.

It takes a while, but the longer you are free of addiction, the more you can see that not everything is about you. I used to take everything personally here. I would convince myself that certain people were mad at me or were deliberately not responding to my posts to show they didn’t like me. Poor NoSugar had a very, very fragile ego. I made it all up with my thinking, made myself miserable, and sometimes “stalked off”, hurting no one but myself.

Frankly, it helps all of us to have a newbie in the nest. None of us want to forget what the early days are like. I’m glad you are here and I hope you stay, for your sake and for ours.

[wagmor]

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Hi everyone,

3BoW - there is a natural ebb and flow of posts in the nest (and I suspect elsewhere on MWO) and I doubt it has anything to do with your return. I'm sorry to hear that you feel that way. I personally haven't posted as much over the past few weeks due to incredible upheaval in my city, state and country. I'm exhausted. NS had some great words about other angles on all of this and I concur with everything she said. I sincerely doubt it's anything personal about you or anyone else for that matter.

Ava - thanks for your words of understanding. We use our mute button a LOT here too. He's repugnant. What's even grosser is that millions of people absolutely idolize him.


Well, my city survived the invasion of the right-wing nationalists yesterday. They were projecting that 10-20 THOUSAND of them would be flying and driving in from all over the country to brandish their weaponry and essentially terrorize the city. Best estimates say that maybe 300 of them actually showed up. We had multiple other gatherings that were pro-democracy, anti-fascism, pro-equality (especially BLM) etc and they far outnumbered the "boys" who came with their guns.

I am temporarily relieved.


I hope everyone is having a good weekend. Don't drink!

[KENSHO]

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Hi Everyone. I've been absent for too long!! No good reason.

3BW, my negligence here has absolutely nothing to do with your attendance... on the contrary, I'm SO glad to see you posting and engaging! It is so heartwarming to see people wanting to change their lives for the better. Let us know what you need, and please don't assume posting is due or not due to you. Things are more chaotic now than ever - politically, geographically, health-wise, school wise, etc., and we are all dealing in any way we know how. I'm SO proud of your 21 days - you are doing great!! It will keep getting better and better. I was also hyper-focused on the responses of other people in the beginning, only because I was raw and vulnerable... we are here for you!

Narily, hope your dog is feeling better. Never fun to be awoken in the middle of the night to poo or barf!

LAV, what will you be selling at the fair?

Wags, I'm so glad to hear that there were more people seeking kindness and love than division and hate. That makes me feel better.

I've been working hard with the kids the past couple weeks. They are struggling to take their assignments seriously, and we have some grades to improve. This means I have to micro-manage a bit and sort out the manipulation from my daughter about whether she really "turned in her best work" (or turned it in at all). Both of my kids are also extremely overweight. I am a health nut, and am more fit than I have been in 15 years... but they sit a lot and eat for comfort. I have been really brainstorming ways to encourage them to change their habits, and have even removed all sugar, flour, chips, etc. out of the house. They are headed into future problems if they don't get it under control. Fine line though... I don't want to place an over importance on "weight", so I'm having them aim for the high end of the "normal" range.

I am sleeping a little later, and so am having trouble finding those 10 min. each morning to check in here. And THAT is my excuse. I need that time so much, and I get interrupted constantly. If I just get up 20 min, earlier, that disappears.

6 weeks. We should have a very good idea of what's going to happen in our election in 6 weeks. I can get through this... I can get through this... I can get through this... I will not lose my mind... I will not drink... Breathe. 6 weeks.

Hugs to all - ESPECIALLY 3BW... we are here for you, and also navigating our own issues. Let us know what you need!

[Guitarista]

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Yo y'all!

Hola friend Kensho. Take care of yourself mi amiga. You raaaawk!

Hi Wags, 3B, Lav, Pav, Ava, SB and evabody.

All ok here. Back to work after 4 weeks orf. I want to stay on holidays....

Congrat's on 21 days 3B! Huge achievement. Keep posting here or anywhere if it helps u. I can assure u people here ain't put off by your posts or by much else in life. We've just about seen it all here over the years. On this thread, and in life. So post away without worry my friend.

Take it easy out there. Big waves to all.

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

Rainy day, first of many to come I hear. My grandson has gone home so it’s extra quiet now.

3BoW, please keep checking in, it’s good for you & for us as well. If you’re in a happy mood, then all the better for the rest of us

Kensho, I see my grandkids spending way too much time sitting these days. We keep trying to encourage them to get outside, run around a bit but online games have them hooked.
Both of my grandsons claim they are learning nothing from the online schooling yet my granddaughter says different. They all have their own opinions, haha!

G, back to work after a long vacation is rough ~ good luck

Wags, glad to hear the gathering was smaller & quieter than expected this weekend. I read an article today that referred to 45’s base as white men, over 40, not educated. Sounds like a pathetic testosterone pity party to me , Lol

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[ThreeBottlesOfWine]

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Hey thanks all, sorry I wobbled a little yesterday, little 3bow in me was feeling sorry for himself...went to a bar the night before and had a cola, sat there watching people drinking and shouting at a football game.... effected me badly. Not going to such places again at night, even if it's just for a cola. Thanks for the wonderful support. Getting up now to get my son to school, will check in after. Much love <3

[Pavati]

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HI, All:

3BOW when I was newly sober I listened A LOT to a podcast called The Bubble Hour. One episode that I particularly remember was about ego (you can google it and find the webpage or find it on the Apple podcast app). Just like NS said, I was convinced everything was all about me when really it was just my thinking. I'm sorry you felt that way but rest assured we are always happy when a "new" nester comes along - one less drunk out there. Please keep posting - checking ones ego means believing in community (among other things). Enjoy your day.

Wags - glad those boys didn't show up and glad your town showed up instead.

Lav - how nice your grandson asked to be with you.

The smoke is back along with a new fire. I was away and didn't tune into the news so I am blissfully unaware for the moment until I open the paper today. I really really hope our democracy survives all of this - I know the majority of us want it to.

Happy SOBER week,
Pav

[narilly]

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Happy Un Hung Monday everyone.

3BOW when I was newly sober I listened A LOT to a podcast called The Bubble Hour. One episode that I particularly remember was about ego (you can google it and find the webpage or find it on the Apple podcast app). Just like NS said, I was convinced everything was all about me when really it was just my thinking. I'm sorry you felt that way but rest assured we are always happy when a "new" nester comes along - one less drunk out there. Please keep posting - checking ones ego means believing in community (among other things). Enjoy your day.

3BOW, hang in there we are happy to have you here. Sometimes we get busy and just don't post, like Wags says it ebbs and flows.

Lav, you are lucky to have such a good relationship with your grandson.

Ken, I have been sleeping in too and then have hardly any time to post it seems.
G, I am still on 'holidays' because I do not have a job. The pandemic is not opening up job opportunities for me.

Yeah Ava, the mute button works well when he talks.

Have a great day everyone.

[NoraC]

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Hello everyone.
I am trying to post regularly but haven't quite worked that out yet. I am grateful to have this place.
[MENTION=18725]NoSugar[/MENTION] - have you heard of Swing Left - Vote Forward. I am writing (actual letters to mail) some letters for that group.
I am also going to check out that other group you mentioned. I know I couldn't do the phone calls.

Nothing much going on here. We are going to a 3D/4D ultrasound of our new granddaughter on Thursday. Our son hasn't been able to go to any of the medical appointments and misses seeing his new daughter growing. So they scheduled this at a studio and invited us. I am excited about that. (I do worry if it's safe for Mommy & baby though)

Hope everyone is doing fantastic. Wonderful day not to drink. :checkin:

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Lots of clouds today but no rain so that’s OK. Trying to catch up on all the work I missed over the weekend. Saturday’s craft fair will be here quickly. I hope we get a half decent turnout for this outside event. Everyone will be masked (hopefully) & not close together inside as usual for these things.

3BoW, I think we all have at least some experience throwing pity parties for ourselves. When it finally dawned on me that I no longer HAD to drink I was elated!!! The anxiety & panic attacks disappeared too. That in itself is a HUGE blessing & I am grateful Glad to see you today!

Nora, how wonderful you have a new granddaughter to look forward to, that’s awesome! When is she due?

Narilly, I am grateful for my 3 grandkids & grateful that I have been fully present for them
Any idea when the job market is going to open back up? We still have so many cases here, averaging 40,000 new cases daily, that’s bad

Pav, sorry to hear about another fire, how sad.
I have to admit I was feeling pretty low yesterday about the state of our nation. The bad news just keeps coming & coming. We have to stay strong, somehow & never give up.

Hello to the rest of the crew & wishing a safe night in the nest for all.

Lav

[Byrdlady]

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Hey Nesters!
3Bots, I planned, threw and attended some massive pity parties myself. I was convinced that everyone thought I wS a loser. I was a chronic relapse and came in here 100 times owing to do better. I thought people were sick of me because I was sick of myself. Nothing could have been further from the truth for me, and I know that we are thrilled to have you and will have your back if anybody says different! You ARE one of us now! I’m so proud of your success! Keep up the great work.
RAIN. Ugg
I’ve had to say goodbye to my favorite bra. I stuck a finger through the side panel. I hated to let her go, but if, like my mamma used to say, I got in a car accident, I sure wouldn’t want anyone to see that I was wearing a holey bra. The elastic was mostly gone and I was on the last good set of hooks. I just couldn’t imagine having a more faithful friend. She went out in yesterday’s trash. Tragic. When you find a good bra, buy all you can find and hold them close, they don’t last forever. Sniff, sniff.
Hope everyone has an easy evening! Hugs to all! Byrdie