I don't want to be totally AF......,

[ToMyHealth]

Me too, Blue. Good for you! Felt good to just get lost in Showtime series. Unfortunately, even though I took Ibuprofen PM about an hour before I went to bed, it did not work. Took one more at 2:30a. Had a pretty good workout today - wts, 100 cal on ET, walk 2.5 mi.

Kind of torn today re: drinking. We have friends that the guy has had some health issues. We have helped out, had them over for dinner, made some chicken soup for them when he went back in hospital, etc. etc. No big deal except that now that he is feeling better, they want to take us out for dinner tonite. Nice seafood restaurant. I know they & dh will have a cocktail, then wine with their dinner. Normally, I would have 2 glasses of chardonnay. So have to decide. Doesn't mean I can't enjoy the evening, and be AF again tomorrow. Always going to be social situations!

Have a great weekend!

[blue1]

Oh....wow....thanks Nora! I had no idea there was a problem. I'll keep posting....maybe someone else will come along.
Yesterday was my first AF Friday in forever! It was weird but I did it....mainly cause I didn't have the money to buy anything. I slept pretty good to. I've had some good mod days too...maybe that's why yesterday was a bit easier. Looks like today will be AF too....Wow a Friday and a Saturday??? Lol

Thanks for posting Nora....cause I was really getting ready to give up. I don't post much on other threads but I read a lot. It helps me with my modding by reading the post of AB's. That probably sounds weird....but it works for me.

Have a successful Saturday!

[NoraC]

Blue - I am glad that you & your sisters can check in on your other sister to make sure she eats. That will probably make a huge difference.

Hang in there. After they get this new membership glitch cleared up, there might be a lot of new users that want to moderate. Looks like nobody has been able to join for a couple of months.

[blue1]

I guess this thread is dying off too.....

[blue1]

Hey Nora!
I had a good weekend....we went to my Sister's house yesterday to pray for her.
Her Dr came to see her on Saturday and she told her boyfriend that my sister didn't have much time left if she didn't try to eat more.
My sister finally came clean and told me that she had not been eating while her boyfriend would be at work....he doesn't get home til after 5.
So me and my sisters are going to take turns going to her house while he's at work to make sure she has something to eat.
We're believing she's going to get well!

Hope everyone is having a successful Monday!

[NoraC]

Hey Blue - just popping in to say hi. Hope you're having a great weekend.

[blue1]

Hey Stew....good to hear from you! I hope you can still to your goals!

How's everybody else?

I'm going for AF Thursday today....so far so good...just water and gingerale.

Have a successful day guys!

[Stewarts]

I'm doing ok. I can' day I've been hitting my goals to the fullest, but I haven't say "fallen off the wagon" What I noticed is it comes in spurts. I had a school weekend this weekend, so that tends to trigger it... Friday wasn't too bad..I had a few more beers than I wanted to before I met my gf Downtown. It just resulted in my being tired by the time I got there. I really didn't drink that much, but I had some BIZARRE dreams and was a little anxious in the morning. Saturday was a little more intense, but got home by 10:30. We left class around 5pm and went to watch some college football (cohort classmates). They played beer pong, I stayed out of that...I also did no shots, so I think that's why I was ok on Sunday morning. Sunday was really chill. I went to my gfs Downtown for dinner and we each had a (as in one) beer.

The rest of this week was AL free until yesterday when a client wanted a boozey lunch, so I had a few glasses of wine. I know I have a friend coming into to town I haven't seen in a long time. This could get interesting - these friends BOOZE! Although one, stopped, because it looked like he was becoming an alcoholic or turned into one... I actually wasn't surprised, he was the worst and craziest out of all of us when we were younger and not so young... Last I heard he was drinking in the morning before he stopped from a mutual friend, I was like, "yeah, that's a sign the party is over."

I was thinking about what to do if there's pressure. I mean I will have a few beers, but I think all I really need to do is say I have a long and early day tomorrow.

Anyway...

j.

[frances]

Hi TMH - I like the idea of setting goals to help track progress!

I am at a point where I don't do that because I don't allow myself to drink very often and the whole idea for me is to be at a point where I don't need to say I will only drink on x days this week, since I don't want to drink every week. I do, frankly, worry about success of this in the long term. I often wonder if I'm just kidding myself.

But for now (and for the past several months - in fact it will be a year in November) I've been very successful. Prior to this, I abstained completely for 9 full months. This was very key for me. I'm not sure what is needed for others, but I needed that long AF time. I tried and tried many times before and never got to this point. The other difference was that this time, I don't allow myself to drink every week. Previously, once I decided I wanted to try to moderate, I'd allow myself to drink and just try to cut back how much I was drinking and try for one or two AF days a week. Now I am almost always AF with just a drink on rare occasions. These two things (the long AF time before trying moderation, and the discipline for only drinking very rarely) have been key to my success.

I can't remember if I've already shared that - I may have, but just thought it might be helpful to know what I have done.

I wish you all the best!

[blue1]

Have a successful day guys!

[blue1]

Hi guys!

You all are doing a great job!
I have got to get back on board....I started celebrating my birthday and haven't stopped yet....I'm going to try to get at least one day in this week...probably Thursday.....

My daughter is suppose to be moving on Friday....I still feel very sad about that...I hate change....but I know everything must change from time to time.
They'll still be here almost every night....well the children anyway...cause I'll still be keeping them while she goes to work....
We still don't know what we're going to do about their sleeping arrangements.

[ToMyHealth]

Good job, Frances. Both with modding & organizing. I find when I keep looking at a task such as clearing the dresser, or straightening the pantry, I set my timer for 15 min. If not done, I can quit. Most times whatever it is takes 10 min & I wonder why I procrastinated!

Was it you who asked what our modding goal is? #1 I'd like to be just like you. Not anywhere near presently. We have a dinner invite for Thursday. Goal this week is to be AF Mon-Wed, then enjoy a couple drinks on Thurs night.

Anyone else care to chime in?

[frances]

Hi guys! Tired here and waiting for the coffee to kick in. Was happy to get my closet cleaned yesterday and two baskets of clothes put away yesterday. I also cleaned some jewelry and sorted through and organized it, which resulted in me cleaning my dresser top which I have wanted to do for many months. I don't have any really nice jewelry but quite a few 'cheap' necklaces and earrings that tend to just get mixed together all over the dresser. Anyway - so glad I got some things done and now ready to start another work week. I went out to dinner at some friends on Saturday which was very nice and I did have a drink before the meal and a glass of wine with the meal. After dinner they took the bottle and their glasses downstairs to finish talking and have dessert. I just brought my water glass and was fine. Nothing over the top and had no problem not drinking more or wanting it for the rest of the weekend. Yay!

Hope you have a good week everyone. Stay strong!

[blue1]

Glad to hear from you guys!

That's crazy TMH...cause I just got a jury summons....I have to call on the 25th to see if I need to show up on the 28th...I was a juror before....for a whole week...I thought if you were chosen once that was it....but I guess not lol

I have totally blown my designated AF days....but I will start over on Monday....but on a good note....I have not over done it since my bd celebration on Saturday.....

Thanks for posting...I know it may not seem like it....but it means a lot!

[ToMyHealth]

Hi ~ have also been busy plus fighting a cold/ cough, not much energy. Tues had to take car in for a recall, yest had to be out the door shortly after 7a to report for jury duty. First time. That is some process. Did not get selected so 7 hrs later free to go. And then that panicky feeling when you can't find your car back. Hate that when that happens.

Today will be a better day. Playing golf. Heat & sunshine may be just the ticket!

Doing well. Blue, I'm glad your b.d. turned out well. Nice thoughtful gifts from your dd.

TMH