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[Pavati]

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Hi, all:

Just checking in to say good night. I had a LLLOOONNNGGG day - plenty of fun, and no alcohol.

I will read back tomorrow. Heading to sleep.

Night, ladies.

xo
Pav

[Eloise]

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Lost my post, again.

[lifechange]

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Good MAE. Lovlies!
It was surprisingly easy and fast logging on this morning. Makes a good start to the day.
I loved reading through the posts--I'm early on in the game right now, but it's good to anticipate what's coming, as I seem to have forgotten from the last time around. I definitely didn't know enough about all of this--didn't bother to think about it or learn, I guess--around 4 months. I wish I would have questioned my feelings more and laid it all out on the table, like you, SL!:l Very well done. You do know it all intellectually, but you need to be reminded, and again shown the way by those who have done it-- and somewhat recently, so it's still fresh in the mind. That was such great advice, Pav-- I love the idea of hiking or walking to the Bubble Hour! I need a new phone, so that I can download broadcasts! And NS, and Ava--amazing how, regardless to whom the posts are written, how much each of us takes from them. I love it here.

Eloise, I feel for you. German is difficult enough, but it least it sounds clear. I find the Dutch sounds so muffled, like one is always talking with something in the mouth. Can that be? I now understand that you are an artist and I guess your avatar is your work? I really like it--even if it isn't yours!!

Wags, how are you doing today? and Jane? I've been thinking of you a lot as I deal with my 13 year old. We are alone this weekend because his parents are working-- they treat him like a 6 year old and though he's actually a lovely boy, he acts like a 6 year old. This morning I had words with his dad, trying to explain that as long as he continues to treat him like a baby, he'll act like one. And that it makes me feel aggressive and I lose all interest in doing things for him, when he can't manage to help with even the simplest tasks. When I ask something, he does it (the kid)-- I just get tired of asking the same things all the time. But I guess with men and boys you have to ask for what you want and need. Is that true for all of you? I try not to take it as lack of respect for me but it's difficult.

Last night we went to watch the World Cup with some friends in a "Biergarten"-- I didn't have any worries about going (otherwise I would have stayed home) but it was still nice, while walking there to have you all in my mind. I kept repeating your names (especially you, NS!) as my people, my support, my ladies on the same path. It felt really good to have you all there in spirit.

Off to work for a bit and then a relaxing day, with exercise for sure. Staying in the present has really helped this week, especially at work.

Hugs to you all, Nar, LB, J-vo (can't wait to have you back tomorrow), Ava, Pat, Ginger, everyone else checking in today. xo

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Eloise, that sucks losing a post!!! I am so scared of it (because I'm such a slow typist!) that I go in fairly often to copy, so in case it's lost I can paste it in a new reply. It's saved me a few times!

[Eloise]

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The avatar is one of my linocuts Lifechange, glad you like it. Fun to make. Good advice about copying posts just in case.
Dutch is hard. I have a good base now, but what a drudgery.
No headache for me today again whoopie!

[lifechange]

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JANE!!!!!!! Congratulations on 180 Days, 6 whole months! :band2: All of singing and dancing to this jazzy beat. Wish I could post your 6 month chip, dear.
I appreciate you more than you know--your straightforward, honest, empathetic posts help me and inspire me. Hope you have a great day celebrating..xo

[NoSugar]

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lifechange;1679257 wrote: JANE!!!!!!! Congratulations on 180 Days, 6 whole months!

Way to go, Jane! Congratulations! I couldn't find a chip but found this for you :

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I forgot that I also wanted to mention that as we were walking to the biergarten last night the kid (this is my term of endearment for my bf's son!) asked if there was anything to drink there besides beer. My bf said, "of course there is. the 3 of us are having drinks without alcohol", and started naming all the options. I thought it was so sweet of him to say it as if it were the most natural thing in the world. Just wanted to share that. I think he will do whatever he has to to support me because he's finally realised the severity of the problem. He finally gets it when I say I can NEVER drink again. He gets that never means never and I don't think he'd fall for it if I tried to pull one of my, "let's just have a beer tonight on the balcony. just one.."-- He wouldn't drink with me, I'm sure of it. And I think I finally realise that the only way for our relationship to have a chance is if I never drink again. WHEN, I mean!

[roxane]

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well done jane, really pleased for you. im following in good footsteps.

[NoSugar]

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LB, I thought about the joy of being free of an addiction all day yesterday, thanks to you. I've never really liked the 4th of July celebration for some reason but now I think I always will .

LC, the amount of nonexercise physical activity (NEPA) you get day to day is more movement than most people in the US get even if they do make time for exercise! I think you should give yourself a break and not feel bad when you don't go for a run or something like that. Before the 60s, people didn't go out of their way to make time to exercise and in fact, women were discouraged to do so. Fitness centers are a relatively recent phenomenon, as is the aerobic exercise "mandate". Reports lately have been about how not sitting for extended periods and increasing NEPA might be more important and beneficial than repetitive cardio sessions (which your body adapts to). If you added in some very short (

[Eloise]

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I will go back and have a 2nd look at the 100 day thread NoSugar. A couple of weeks back that thread would have scared me off... 100 days? Lordie! Scary... now that tomorrow is 50 days AF I am thinking 'yup, I can do this.' Pretty cool!! And the time AF feels short, not long. I never would have imagined that one.
NEVER.
And no headache today. I am glad I posted that thread about headaches, it seems an issue for a lot of people. It also helped me calm down about them. And understand I had to do something. I started with magnesium, not sure it could improve so quickly though?
I am very shy about sharing my art. Insecurities. Maybe this will improve too with time? And the more art I make the better it looks. I know I am a lot more productive since I stopped with the wine. My favorite teacher in grad school warned me about this, god bless her soul, wonderful lady.

Onward and upward for us, so glad to have found the support I needed to get back on track. Thank you all!!

[Ginger999]

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Jane, Awesome job! Eloise, No headache? Whoot whoot. You ladies are all amazing. I feel so fortunate to have found all of you.

[Eloise]

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Me too Ginger!!

[patrice]

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Yay Jane, so proud for you!!
Xx
Pat

[lifechange]

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NS, I had to laugh at what you said about how it would be if we were all neighbours!:H Can you imagine? Hiding behind the curtains. Maybe we could all live in different neighbourhoods in the same city? Like here, in Berlin. Great idea!!

Elouise, When (and if) you ever feel like it, I would also love to see some more of your work. I understand about the shyness. I'm glad it's getting better and you're gaining more confidence without the drinking. It looks like you are really talented. Maybe you could have an avatar exhibition! I had to look up Linocut--I thought it looked like a woodcut. 1. I didn't realise linoleum has been around since 1860. 2. I never would have dreamed you could carve into it and make such beautiful prints.--

Hi Ginger! and Ginger! and Pat!