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    Thank you for empathizing and for sharing your take & experiences on post divorce awkwardness. My favorite time was at Young Daughter’s swim banquet. Ex-HB, Daughter, & I all sat together, and I felt normal again and slotted back into my regular life! But the last number of events have featured his new significant other, and that has been hard to get used to. I can’t believe how hard divorce is! I must get used to it though.

    I have a new foot doctor now, thanks to my daughter who is an O.T. He has more expertise than that dumb regenerative pain clinic that I have been blowing all my money on, and will help me with new orthotics and with a more appropriately modified shoe than what that cobbler has been doing.
    Once a pickle, never a cucumber again.

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      Rava, it sounds like a good setup between Florida and being North for you. The long northern winters get hard. And this way you can keep your tiny house!

      Dill, what a nice treat for your grandkids & son!

      It’s raining here too.
      Once a pickle, never a cucumber again.

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        Jude and Cowboy, I think you are both wise to forego any more pets at this point in life. I love Lily, of course, but I do think getting her was the wrong choice for us. One of the reasons we got her was for gdaughter to have a dog to play with and train, but she has more or less grown past that interest and is onto other things. She enjoys Lily, but she's not here as much as she used to be and Mr. D and I are left with the fulltime care of a pet that, as you say, ties us down. Oh well. Lily does bring us the joy that pets bring, watching her run, watching her chase the deer across the pasture, playing fetch with her, etc. so I will focus on that.

        Rava, you also have a daughter near you in Florida, right? It's good to split the time in both places as long as you feel up to it, I should think.

        Hello Slo and Ginger!

        Let's all have another 24!

        Dill

        Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

        If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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          Slo, I prefer my former husband's wife over him. Lol I even pitty her sometimes when I'm around them both.

          I'm drawing a picture of my friend's pup as a thank you for all her quilting tutoring she's given me. So far it looks like a third grade art project. Not sure she'll ever see it. Bahahaha

          I do miss having a dog once in awhile but I've found just being around other people's dogs fixes that. Give me a cat any day. Easy peasy!

          ABC, I think all of those things you mentioned plus all the partying, drinking and gathering add to that. Seems like we are constantly saying "no thanks" to gatherings. At home the only gatherings we attend are family ones and that's how we both like it.

          Thank you for the kind words. It's inspired me to try a little harder on that pup drawing.

          Waves to all! I'll take another day of freedom


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            Good morning all! Ginger, I'm sure that your pup drawing will turn out fine. I didn't realize how good of an artist you are. Maybe you could post a pic of the pup drawing when you're finished and are happy with how it turned out.

            I am lucky that my ex and I don't have any hard feelings after our divorce and still remain friends.

            Slo, so glad that you found a foot doctor and hopefully they can get you some relief.

            24 more for all of us please...

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              Good morning Cafe. Lots of good sharing today. I am lucky to say that I have never been divorced but I was widowed which really really sucked. Lucky to have met Mr. R who was twice divorced. We have to interact with the mother of his kids many times throughout the year. It used to be awkward now it’s not so bad. Dill, I have a daughter and son in FL, ironically we see them the least. But we are there closer to them during the winter. I would love to have a dog but my common sense tells me no. I am too old for a 15 year commitment. Hope everyone has a great and sober day. Off to the gym for me.

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                5:17am in Alberta, I'll have another 24 please, and thanks...

                In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
                Jude58 Rava Slo dill Ginger999

                Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
                Quitting and staying quit isn't easy, its learning a whole new way of thinking. It's accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...
                Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Just get through today. Tomorrow will look after itself when it becomes today, because today is all we have to think about.
                Friendship is not about how many friends you have or who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life, said "I'm here for you", and proved it.

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                  I knew you liked doing crafts Ginger, but a darn fine artist on top of it as well!

                  Hopefully this new foot doctor will be able to help much more Slo. Glad you're still seeking ways to improve!

                  Waves to the rest of the gang, still rained out so I get another day at home...
                  Quitting and staying quit isn't easy, its learning a whole new way of thinking. It's accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...
                  Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Just get through today. Tomorrow will look after itself when it becomes today, because today is all we have to think about.
                  Friendship is not about how many friends you have or who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life, said "I'm here for you", and proved it.

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                    Thanks everyone but I sure don't think of myself as an artist. Just a person that loves to stay busy! I'll post the pup when she's done but don't laugh.

                    Crazy day! Three appts and a meeting. It feels like a work day. Yuk

                    Waves to all! I'll take another day of freedom

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                      Mornings are a wash for me with this B6 toxicity illness & withdrawal. I am weak, sick, & dizzy all morning.

                      Dill, Lilly does have a great setup on the farm -what a perfect place for a dog to live! Plenty of space to run and sniff.

                      Yes, finally someone with real expertise can attend to my foot, if I need orthotics and a lift and a built-up sole. Already he has temporarily modified the orthotics that I have to be more comfortable.

                      Cowboy, I hope you’re not restless at home and can enjoy it.

                      Thank you for sharing your experiences with me as I adjust to family gatherings post-divorce. It’s hard.

                      An appointment was canceled due to rain, so I went up to D1’s house yesterday and spent the day with her and my three little grandchildren! Oh, I loved it. My body & mind feel terrible with all the nerve damage, and it’s a welcome distraction.

                      Still raining!



                      Once a pickle, never a cucumber again.

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                        You are definitely an artist, whether you think so or not, my dear Ginger! But I guess what matters most is the joy you find in your arts and crafts.

                        I am fortunate to have missed both divorce and widowhood, thankfully. My thoughts and best wishes go out to you Slo and to all who have gone through and/or are going through it.

                        It's another rainy day here as well, Cowboy. Not good hay making weather, unfortunately.

                        24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.
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                        Dill

                        Dont forget, you can: start late, start over, be unsure, try and fail AND STILL SUCCEED!

                        If it is important to you, you will find a way. If not, you will find an excuse.

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                          Good morning! Wish that it would stop raining soon, but it looks like the damp cold temps aren't going anywhere soon. Hopefully it will stop before Memorial day. People seem a little grumpy lately due to the damp gray weather which has been hanging over us for too long. Uggh!

                          ​​​​​​Rava, I didn't know that you had been widowed in the past. That must have been very difficult for you and I'm sorry that you had to go through that.

                          24 more for all of us please...

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                            Good morning cafe. We had lots of rain yesterday, heavy rain and I don’t think the temperature even got to 60. So for this Florida girl, i turned the heat on a bit to get the dampness out. Met some friends last night for dinner which was nice. Yes Jude, I was widowed in my mid 40s. Luckily my kids were in college so they were able to spend many important years with their dad. It was definitely the worst time of my life. He went thru chemo twice and radiation and after about 3 years passed away from lung cancer at 49. I stopped drinking 1 year before he died because I was scared that I would drink myself to death from loneliness. Luckily a few years later I met Mr. R who has been wonderful and accepting of me calling him by my late husbands name sometimes still to this day even tho its been over 20 years. You just never know what life throws at you and how strong you really are when you are pushed into that experience. Hope everyone has a great and sober day. I do not plan on drinking today. 24 more please and thank you.

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                              5:17am in Alberta, 24 more please, and thanks...

                              In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
                              Jude58 Rava Ginger999 Slo dill

                              Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!
                              Quitting and staying quit isn't easy, its learning a whole new way of thinking. It's accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...
                              Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Just get through today. Tomorrow will look after itself when it becomes today, because today is all we have to think about.
                              Friendship is not about how many friends you have or who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life, said "I'm here for you", and proved it.

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                                It looks as though you three ladies in the east are having the same weather as we are here, cool and rainy.

                                I didn't realize you were widowed at such a young age Rava, I'm sure that was more than tough on you and your kids.

                                I'm not getting restless Slo, it's the nature of farming, unpredictable weather lol. But it does make it hard to make plans for doing anything else.

                                It seemed to be drying up nicely by the time I went to bed last night, but woke up this morning to everything wet again. Not sure if it's raining the same amount over at the farm so I'll just wait and see what Corey thinks.
                                Quitting and staying quit isn't easy, its learning a whole new way of thinking. It's accepting a new way of life, and not just accepting it, embracing it...
                                Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. Just get through today. Tomorrow will look after itself when it becomes today, because today is all we have to think about.
                                Friendship is not about how many friends you have or who you've known the longest. It's about who walked into your life, said "I'm here for you", and proved it.

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