I don't want to be totally AF......,

[actiongirl46]

Happy Saturday all! Frances you are inspiring me to tackle some house projects today!! Funny, those stress me out too. There is always that list in my head.

We have one son at a weekend campout and one son home this weekend. We are taking him out to dinner tonight to celebrate him. He has been working so hard at being 15, just got his drivers permit, had an awesome semester at school, keeping up in his musical endeavors. We are really proud of him.

I NEED TO GET SOME STEPS IN TODAY!! Enjoy - AG

[frances]

Happy Saturday! Blue, same problem but sometimes I don't even get started

I'm doing better these past few days. Finally put those shelves up in the hallway that I've been meaning to do for ages. And cleaned off the top of the dresser that's been piled high with stuff. Yeah! I think I want to do the kitchen drawers and cabinets next. If I keep this up I will be surprised and happy. That's the 'around the house' stuff I fret about...I also want to start doing more socially. I'm fairly introverted so that part is harder for me. Unfortunately, I'm not very happy just being by myself like most introverts - but I'm frequently shy and insecure in groups until I get really comfortable. Ugh. I feel like I'm still a kid sometimes that way. I'm sure that's part of the reason I drank so much.

Hope everyone is feeling and doing well today! I am running some things out to donate to Goodwill and then have a fundraiser event to go to. Have a good one!

[blue1]

Frances....as far back as I can remember I've always had trouble finishing what I start....and I've had some pretty good starts.....hmmmmm????

[blue1]

Time is FLYING by . . . so true Frances. At least this last month and a half where I have made SIGNIFICANT changes in my daily weekday routine (not always every weekend or vacation time but even that has been cut way down) I feel like I am able to focus on the little things so much better. I think that AL turned me somewhat manic! I'd charge around the house, starting random projects, certainly not always finishing them and many times not even remembering what I started! Don't miss that. Then I'd wake up feeling groggy and unproductive until it was 5pm and time to do it all over again. UGH.

This is so much better. I've started several things that I've always wanted to do (the music being one) and I'm DOING IT. Did yoga again today.

Frances, I too am starting to panic (just a little, maybe its the wrong word) on what I will do when my oldest leaves in two years. Yes, I overthink but that is me. And knowing my little homebody, he may just want to stay here and commute to college. So finding new interests that work for me has been helping that anxiety just a bit.

Blue, sing us a song to kick off the weekend!! Take care - AG

As soon as I figure out how to I will AG! lol

[frances]

I LOVE the get-it-done attitude AG! I need to get more of that going on in my life. I think about things so much but I always have trouble converting that into doing. It's a significant problem for me. I know I can change that - just look what I've been able to do with alcohol! But it takes discipline and I just haven't been able to get it yet. I think I'd be a lot happier if I were doing those things that I want to do, whether it's cleaning/organizing, or getting together with friends, or volunteering. All of these things I think about all of the time. Jeez....I've gotta Just Do It!

[actiongirl46]

Time is FLYING by . . . so true Frances. At least this last month and a half where I have made SIGNIFICANT changes in my daily weekday routine (not always every weekend or vacation time but even that has been cut way down) I feel like I am able to focus on the little things so much better. I think that AL turned me somewhat manic! I'd charge around the house, starting random projects, certainly not always finishing them and many times not even remembering what I started! Don't miss that. Then I'd wake up feeling groggy and unproductive until it was 5pm and time to do it all over again. UGH.

This is so much better. I've started several things that I've always wanted to do (the music being one) and I'm DOING IT. Did yoga again today.

Frances, I too am starting to panic (just a little, maybe its the wrong word) on what I will do when my oldest leaves in two years. Yes, I overthink but that is me. And knowing my little homebody, he may just want to stay here and commute to college. So finding new interests that work for me has been helping that anxiety just a bit.

Blue, sing us a song to kick off the weekend!! Take care - AG

[frances]

Hey all - that's fun that we're all musically inclined! I love music and it has always been a part of my life. My parents and both my brothers are also musicians. Right now I play handbells at my church so at least I get to do something - but I do miss playing guitar and keys. Maybe I'll get back into it one of these days.

Hope everyone is doing well - I just went back to the office today after the big snow storm. It was good to get out of the house! I've been reviewing finances and dreaming of getting the kids to college and done and then getting geared up for retirement. It's a long way off but time sure has a way of flying by!

[blue1]

So....I see we have some musicians on board lol
I'm a singer/songwriter. Although I haven't written anything recently. But I do sing still....not as much as I used to but I do sing a bit around the house and when I go to my brother/friend's house for karaoke. My hubby plays keys....and my oldest brother plays the trombone.

Well I'll talk to you guys later.....hope everybody has a successful day.

[blue1]

Hi all -
Blue, I'm so sorry you are not sleeping. What's up with that? Do you sleep when you have AL? Do you wake up rested? I slept when downing a bottle or two a night but never woke up rested!! I know that many people (myself included) have or had trouble sleeping the first week they go AL free so maybe that's it? If that's the case it gets better. I take melatonin. It seems to help. I'm probably due for a doctors visit though to check on if there are any side effects, etc. For me though it really works. Hang in there! I do not operate well on little sleep, I turn into a MONSTER!

Hey Frances, I think all that hype over stocking up on the wine for the big snow is a bunch of @#$%. I used to live in a major NE city for years and the paranoia the media created over snow was ridiculous. And that was before Facebook, I can't imagine what it is like now with everyone chiming in on the noise and how "perfect" their snow-in is going to be. Holy moley, who cares. What really happens is all the AL companies and liquor stores just make more money.

Well, you certainly aren't boring virtually : ) What if you guys did something new? I forgot how old your kids are . . . I so get your dilemma though. My husband is an introvert and, well, I am not. Hence the boredom trigger for me as he is always happy staying home. But now that AL is out of the house I have to come up with other things. Tonight I took a music lesson (i'm learning keyboard) and then did a yoga class that I'd never done before. Things I would never ever do if I was drinking a bottle or two a night. It was fun. Then I had chocolate ice cream : )

Whew! Forgive me for rambling on and on. Have a great rest of your night all!! AG

AG.....yeah I sleep good when I drink and wake up rested as long as I don't over do it. It's when I don't drink that I have trouble sleeping. When I first started getting some AF days in I was using melatonin but when I ran out I just didn't buy anymore....but it worked pretty good.

[actiongirl46]

Thanks AG - I know you're right! And I've been that sloppy drunk - not only boring, but also pretty gross - myself.

Yes, I think if my husband and I did more things (or even if I did), then things would feel different. My kids are 17 and 15 - at an age where they are pretty darn independent and out a lot. 17 year old got his license 3 months ago and he will be going off to college next year so I better figure out what we are going to do with all of this extra time. I think I need to talk to my husband too. I think he's just as happy to stay home, but I definitely get bored with that. Yesterday turned out to be OK because I wound up doing much more in the office - put up some shelves, cleaned and organized more, hung a couple of pictures, fixed a closet door - and now, instead of looking like a junk room it looks like a real office! Maybe I'll be happier if I tackle small projects in the evenings when there's nothing going on. I just need to do it though...I've thought this same thought bunches of times!

Anyway thanks for sharing your thoughts - it helps! Now that yesterday is over I feel better today. by the way, we have something in common - I saw you posted somewhere else (maybe newbies nest) awhile back that you play guitar and keyboard for a church group - I used to do that exact same thing! Same instruments and everything! We had a praise band and played contemporary christian music. That was fun but had some issues at church and the lead of the group left and the group stopped playing. I do miss it! Before that (years ago before kids and commitments made us all unable to find a time that worked for everyone) I had a group of friends that got together a couple of times a month - we played 'regular' rock - that was a ton of fun too. Although I did used to drink way too much when I did it and I don't miss that part of it.

Blue - I'm so glad for your son, and for you too! Congrats to him!

Wow, we do have a lot in common! My kids are 14 and 15. The oldest just got his permit.

I had a chance to read back on this thread today. I think we are all around the same age too. Except Stew : ) too funny.

How goes it Blue??

I'm typing on my phone tonight, not good!!

[frances]

Thanks AG - I know you're right! And I've been that sloppy drunk - not only boring, but also pretty gross - myself.

Yes, I think if my husband and I did more things (or even if I did), then things would feel different. My kids are 17 and 15 - at an age where they are pretty darn independent and out a lot. 17 year old got his license 3 months ago and he will be going off to college next year so I better figure out what we are going to do with all of this extra time. I think I need to talk to my husband too. I think he's just as happy to stay home, but I definitely get bored with that. Yesterday turned out to be OK because I wound up doing much more in the office - put up some shelves, cleaned and organized more, hung a couple of pictures, fixed a closet door - and now, instead of looking like a junk room it looks like a real office! Maybe I'll be happier if I tackle small projects in the evenings when there's nothing going on. I just need to do it though...I've thought this same thought bunches of times!

Anyway thanks for sharing your thoughts - it helps! Now that yesterday is over I feel better today. by the way, we have something in common - I saw you posted somewhere else (maybe newbies nest) awhile back that you play guitar and keyboard for a church group - I used to do that exact same thing! Same instruments and everything! We had a praise band and played contemporary christian music. That was fun but had some issues at church and the lead of the group left and the group stopped playing. I do miss it! Before that (years ago before kids and commitments made us all unable to find a time that worked for everyone) I had a group of friends that got together a couple of times a month - we played 'regular' rock - that was a ton of fun too. Although I did used to drink way too much when I did it and I don't miss that part of it.

Blue - I'm so glad for your son, and for you too! Congrats to him!

[actiongirl46]

Frances, one more thing from chatty Cathy tonight . . . When I was out on Friday, a friend of my friend was talking to us. She was standing right behind me. She had some kind of drink in a martini glass and was slopping it all over the back of my wool coat! She also repeated herself 4 TIMES about how she wanted to have us over but her kitchen was being renovated. Seriously. 4 times in 15 minutes. Yes, I was counting because I really couldn't believe it was happening. It was obnoxious.

So, my point is, SHE WAS BORING.

[actiongirl46]

Cross post Blue!! That is great news, good for him for being persistent!!

[actiongirl46]

Hi all -
Blue, I'm so sorry you are not sleeping. What's up with that? Do you sleep when you have AL? Do you wake up rested? I slept when downing a bottle or two a night but never woke up rested!! I know that many people (myself included) have or had trouble sleeping the first week they go AL free so maybe that's it? If that's the case it gets better. I take melatonin. It seems to help. I'm probably due for a doctors visit though to check on if there are any side effects, etc. For me though it really works. Hang in there! I do not operate well on little sleep, I turn into a MONSTER!

Hey Frances, I think all that hype over stocking up on the wine for the big snow is a bunch of @#$%. I used to live in a major NE city for years and the paranoia the media created over snow was ridiculous. And that was before Facebook, I can't imagine what it is like now with everyone chiming in on the noise and how "perfect" their snow-in is going to be. Holy moley, who cares. What really happens is all the AL companies and liquor stores just make more money.

Well, you certainly aren't boring virtually : ) What if you guys did something new? I forgot how old your kids are . . . I so get your dilemma though. My husband is an introvert and, well, I am not. Hence the boredom trigger for me as he is always happy staying home. But now that AL is out of the house I have to come up with other things. Tonight I took a music lesson (i'm learning keyboard) and then did a yoga class that I'd never done before. Things I would never ever do if I was drinking a bottle or two a night. It was fun. Then I had chocolate ice cream : )

Whew! Forgive me for rambling on and on. Have a great rest of your night all!! AG

[blue1]

I'm not sure what you're feeling Frances....but hang in there.....I know you're on a good path!!!

On a good note....my 25 year old son got his GED today!!!!!!! I'm SO proud!!!!!! That lifted a great burden off me.....cause I signed him out of school when he was 16...with his promise that he would get his GED. Almost 10years later and 2grandbabies later....he did it!!!!!!