I don't want to be totally AF......,

[ToMyHealth]

Hi - glad your Mom enjoyed her party. We had our golf tourney & I played much better. Not so much today. Know I'm nervous about this home loan and sure enough I check my Iphone in the locker room and find out something else they now need.
We are 2 weeks away from closing date AND going to Canada week after that. And we are not cleared yet.
Told dh I am considering an AF June. He said no way is he. #1 going to have a new home with a big lanai and he wants to sit on it and have a drink! #2. Going to Canada where my ex and his wife will be and not drink? LOL. That still did not convince me not to but today's extra To Do list for the loan may make me think he's right! I
Don't know if any of you have gone through this recently, but it is a nightmare.
Today is our anniversary. Going to make my husband's favorite dinner & can't find my meatloaf recipe. Found one on internet & have the topping we like so much memorized so will ad lib.
Possible season renters want pics of our condo. Need to tidy up the Master Bath and think I'm ready to send some. So better get moving.

[frances]

Whew! Long weekend over - lots of driving, lots of softball, and then lots of running around getting ready for Mom's party. The party was very nice, I'm so happy that the weather cooperated! All of mom's good friends were there. I think she enjoyed it a lot. I am not feeling great, but I only had two glasses of wine, so I'm not sure if that's why or if it's something else. If it's the wine, then this is a sure way to keep me away from it - it's not worth feeling like this! Seems weird that it would be the wine but maybe it was?

Hope everyone had a great weekend. June 1st starts tomorrow :happy2:

[actiongirl46]

Great job Frances! And TMH!!!

I too like the idea of an AL free June. I hope I can join you . . .

[frances]

Sounds great TMH! I love the idea of an AF June but also the part about starting now - - why put off until tomorrow what you do today!

Had daughter's athletic awards ceremony at her school on Tuesday last week and then her softball banquet for her team on Thursday. At the school ceremony she won the best female athlete of the year - yeah! This week we have mom's birthday party Monday and then my son's high school graduation Thursday. Whew it's been busy!

I've been doing well with not drinking - I did have a glass of wine at the softball banquet. I've been pleased that my social drinking has not led to me wanting to drink at home. I was thinking yesterday when I was out and needed to grab something to eat that in the past I would certainly have gone somewhere and had a drink along with whatever I was eating - that thought didn't even sound appealing to me. Things have certainly changed. I'm sure I've said this before but I feel strongly that my extended AF time contributed significantly to this change. It allowed me to really change my habits and my body just doesn't consider getting a drink the 'go-to' activity anymore.

I'm off to watch my daughter's three softball games with her summer team today! It will be a big change from high school season where, with a few exceptions, the competition is really not that great.


Have a great day everyone!

[ToMyHealth]

On an up note just had a great workout. Did my wts routine, then used Elliptical, rowing machine, and ran/walked 2 miles, 60 sit ups and a good stretch. Yay! Our community has its own Fitness Center and pool so it's right across the street. Once we move I am sure I'll either walk here, workout, and walk back (RT 3 miles) or drive if it's too hot or rainy.

Make it a good day!

[ToMyHealth]

Sorry to hear about Addy, but thanks for update. Diet isn't going too well. Wondering if it is the almost daily stress dealing with the loan company. Because we will have 2 mortgages our debt/income ratio is too close. Yest we (with help of a specialist looking at all angles) think we got it figured out. I was going to take more IRA money out. Instead she said why don't you pay off one cc thus saving you the monthly minimum not to mention all that interest. Dh is the one with high cc. Entrpreneur & spends lots for biz, makes nothing. Yet.

So waiting on one piece of paperwork from our partners in condo which we had to put in lease agreement form and then looking for the A-okay. ��

How's everyone? My thoughts have been leaning toward an AF June. And now today I think why not start today. Or celebrate the A-okay day by going AF! I just feel ready.

TMH

[frances]

Do you know what happened to All Done Drinking. She started on Mods thread as Eve11. Then she decided to go AF. Had/has good insight.

I realized I forgot to respond to this. I enjoyed Addy's/Eve11's insights as well. She left suddenly and I never knew why but she posted something about not being welcome or being judged or something. I have no idea what happened that made her feel that way and I tried to read posts to figure it out but nothing stood out. I hope she's still doing well...she said when she left that she planned to stay AF, she just didn't want to stay here on MWO. It's a shame. She was pretty clear-headed, I think, and not overly-sensitive, so I do wonder what happened.

[frances]

Hi there! I've lost ~5 pounds so far! So pleased. Like I said, I haven't followed the diet 100% but if anything I think I may be more restrictive, especially at breakfast and lunch. I'm pretty hungry though - been snacking on carrots and celery when needed. I'll probably just keep this approach for the next week or so and see where I am. I'm sure some days will be different and I'll eat a little more but I'm just thrilled that I decided to finally do something about this extra weight that's been bothering me! Thanks for the motivation TMH!

[ToMyHealth]

Good Day! Welcome back, AG. Totally get how hard it is to make major changes when you have company. We get a fair amount during season and it throws off the best laid plans. Glad they come but glad to,see them go too.
Last night was so much fun! 3 couples. People hosting have had their house on market almost 6 months and no offers much less lookers. They are in a much higher price range so between that and the tanked Canadian dollar the market is soft. They are building a house in TN but have time. They are a fun couple & we will miss them. The good news: did not over imbibe. The bad news: after drinks, lasagna, garlic bread, dessert - gained all my weight back. Back on 3 day diet today, plan to go for a short run/walk this a.m., clean to stay busy, & it will come off. Just like modding or even quitting we just have to keep trying.BTW, Frances, ran into gf yest who started the diet and like me did not quit drinking, & she lost 2# in the 3 days. She plans to do Weight Watchers on the other 4 days. That was my problem, I did not have a plan for the "free" days. Need to count calories just til I reach goal.
Have a wonderful Wednesday!
TMH

[frances]

Hey there AG good to see you! I know how it is putting off doing what needs to be done! We all do that at some point. It was nice of your husband, but maybe you could just return it to Costco? They'd probably take it back no problem. That way you're not wasting. Or is it already open? In that case, I would either give it away or dump it. You don't want to drink it and I wonder if he might ultimately understand.

I don't talk much with my friend about AL but we have a long past with it. It came up once when I was saying that I've gained weight and it's because I've been eating anything I want and she asked if anything has changed...I said well, I rarely drink anymore so that probably has something to do with it. We don't get to see each other too often so she was not aware of this. She didn't follow up with any additional questions! I think she just doesn't want to talk about it - I'm certain she knows she has a problem. She definitely drinks A LOT. It was nice to think 'that used to be me'. Especially gong to the wine store and hearing her talk about all the wine she buys. 2+ years ago, I bought at least a bottle a day and often more. Wow that is so hard to believe that now I only get it if we're having company.

TMH you are right - you don't want to be like my friend...she was that girl, the out of control, sloppy, not fun, drunk girl. I've been there and would be happy to never be there again! But I hope you control your drinking and have a lovely dinner at your friend's house!

I used to golf years ago - maybe when the kids are out of the house I will start up again! I liked it when I did it.

[actiongirl46]

Hi all . . . sorry to be MIA for the last few weeks! We were hosting a German teacher which completely shot any down time. Of course, she and I did it up last night.

I have had in my mind that I would wait to start being healthy until she left. What an idiot but that is the truth. Anyway, the day is here now. Hubs is also a little fed up with me which is probably a good thing to keep me accountable. He decided that since I was buying wine at our grocery store (the small camping box) and that our German friend was here that he would bring back the big box from Costco to "save money". There is still one full one left. Ugh. Any tips?? If I dump it out, he will have a FIT.

Frances, you have a lot going on!! A lot of "lasts" this time of year. I'm proud of you for staying strong. Thanks for the blues festival story too . . . its a good reminder of how bad it can get. Do you and your friend talk about AL?

TMH, I wish you could teach me how to play golf! It looks like fun and good exercise. Good luck on your diet efforts! That is not easy and I've never been able to do it. Obviously!!

Hang in there - AG

[ToMyHealth]

Frances, you are doing so well controlling, and I know you had empathy for your friend. Yes, busy week for you.
I am on last day of 4 days off of diet. Invited to friends for dinner. She is making lasagna, and made statement that it's something she can make ahead of time "so that she can drink with all of us". I do not want to be your friend! Last night I had 1 drink, and feel great this a.m. Did not sleep worth a darn. But am enjoying the extreme difference of not having too much.
Guess it's you and me here. Do you know what happened to All Done Drinking. She started on Mods thread as Eve11. Then she decided to go AF. Had/has good insight.
Off to play golf. Have a nice Tuesday!

[frances]

Hello to anyone out there reading this! It's going to be a long week, with tons to do. We have a sports awards night at my daughter's school this evening - we know she's getting an award, just don't know specifically what - she plays two sports, and has done very well on both teams. Well, we will find out tonight! My son's award night (at a different school) is also tonight. I'm torn. I don't think he's getting an award and so I'd like to go to my daughter's but I don't want son to feel left out. He says he doesn't mind he's going to be sitting with the baseball team anyway. Then Thursday is her softball team banquet. Wednesday and Friday will be planning and shopping for mom's birthday party and then a softball tournament on the weekend. busy busy.

My friend decided to miss work yesterday. I can only imagine that she felt terrible. Glad it wasn't me!

Hope everyone is doing well!

[frances]

Hi TMH - I have done a sort of 'modified' version. I'm not sticking to it completely but it has helped me limit especially at breakfast and lunch and then dinner I've just had very small portion of whatever I've eaten. I did it Saturday, skipped sunday (blues festival) and am back on today. I'll keep it up today through Wednesday and then allow a bit more but still diet the rest of the week and we shall see where that gets me! It feels good to have cut down on eating - I have been through a phase lately where I am eating whatever I want and obviously that led to me gaining ~8 pounds!

The blues festival was fun but boy oh boy did my friend drink too much. I'm so glad I didn't overdo it - she was in very bad shape. thinking back, I'm just not sure when the switch came from her being pretty OK to being completely shitfaced and out of control. I feel like she went to the bathroom and I'm wondering if she had more to drink when I wasn't with her. Who knows? Anyway, it was near the one year anniversary of her mom's passing, and I know she has a lot of issues with that. But as we know, drinking like that doesn't help anything and only hurts due to how we feel later.

It's so quiet here TMH, blue hasn't been here in ages - I sure hope she's OK. AG hasn't checked in for a little bit either...I hope she has not decided to stop trying!

[ToMyHealth]

Hi - well last night was kind of a bust. Invited over to friends who just moved to new place. Had a drink, got a tour. Then we all went out to dinner. Some wine with dinner. Wished we had stopped there but because other friends drove and also had coupons for buy 1 dinner, get half off of other one, we invited them in for a nightcap. Now they only had 1 mile to drive home, 25 mile speed limit. Wished I Would have had water, but had 1 more glass of wine. Ugh! Over and done, new day & will do better.
What happened to Blue? Hi AG, Frances. Frances, let me know if you decide to do,the diet tomorrow. Highly recommend doing just the 3 days, then 4 days off. Otherwise, you get sick of the food. Good luck!
TMH