I don't want to be totally AF......,

[ToMyHealth]

Hi ~ think it's time for me to re-join MWO. I'm feeling exactly like you, Frances and AG. Had a wonderful Mother's Day. Rec'd carnation at church, hubby took me out for breakfast, my son called early afternoon, played 9 holes of golf on a beautiful day, daughter called late afternoon and then...we had a couple stiff drinks. I don't feel terrible today but sluggish, unmotivated.
It's time to slow this train way down!
Major news is we are going through getting new mortgage for a house. We owned 2 condos, sold 1 and got it all cleared out and closed on. Kicker is I had to save so much not knowing if we would sell other condo or rent it out. Then turns out house we bought is furnished. That is good in that we can leave condo we live in as is and rent it out next season (live in FL). Rentals are in high demand. But now we have a garage full of furniture we need to get rid of. Have only sold a leather sofa and loveseat so far. May end up calling Salvation Army and just getting a tax write-off.
So ....except for yesterday, how is everyone doing? You still around, Blue?
Looking forward to getting healthier and losing some weight!
TMH

[frances]

Sorry to hear that AG - after I posted this morning, I drove my daughter to school and then myself to work....while driving, I realized I don't feel 100% - I'm certain it's because of the drinks. I am not happy with myself either! I felt a little of my old self yesterday where I just poured myself another glass way too easily. Such a dumb thing to do and completely and totally unnecessary. Ugh.

Funny you should mention roll call - I was going to suggest that you try it - it is a good feeling to post the days as they add up and really helps to stay accountable!

[actiongirl46]

Hi Frances - I did have a wonderful Mothers Day. Unfortunately, I had way too much to drink. Ugh. I am not happy with myself this morning. Again. I posted in roll call so perhaps I'll try that route . . . I'm just incredibly frustrated.

[frances]

Just thought I should report in about our dinner with my family. It was really nice and we had a nice conversation after dinner around the table. The only 'problem' was that along with the conversation, the wine kept flowing. I had 4 glasses - it was over about 4 hours so I didn't get out of control, but more than I think I should have had. After everyone left and we were cleaning I told my husband to just dump anything that was left in the open bottles - that helped ensure I wouldn't continue drinking - not sure if I would have or not but I didn't want to take chances!

How was everyone's weekend?

Blue, are you around? We miss you!

[frances]

Happy Mother's Day everyone! I hope everyone has a blessed day!

[frances]

Hi all - check in time for me. We are having my mom and brothers over for dinner tomorrow so I'm sure alcohol will be served. Not sure whether I'll decide to have a drink or not - maybe a glass of wine with dinner.

Hopefully I'll get some things ready today so I don't have to stress about it tomorrow. There's no reason why I can't - I'm just never good at doing things ahead - always last minute for me!

Today we are finishing most of our planting and heading to another game - unfortunately we've had a ton of rain and my son's baseball (senior day) is rescheduled but my daughter's game is surprisingly still on. I'm glad - I love going to the games!

I hope everyone is doing well with their plans and goals! Did you decide to try for 30 days AG? How's it going so far?

[actiongirl46]

Oh, I can so relate Frances!! How exciting to watch your girl, I love softball/baseball. I'm assuming your son's last game and graduation will be super hard but also very exciting. I'm not sure how I'll feel. All I do know is that I don't want to be a drunk and ruin it all!!

I'm so glad you are taking care of yourself. You got this. Keep it up : )

[frances]

Hi again...just checking in. Yesterday was a little better and with time, I have been able to calm down about the whole situation.

Went to a softball game yesterday evening and my daughter hit an over the fence home run - her first one over-the-fence during a game so we were very happy for her :happy2:

She has been doing really well and has been relaxed and confident. She was a freshman on the varsity team last year and though she played every game and was the lead-off batter, she didn't do nearly as well. It has really been fun to see her growth this year!

My son's senior day game is Saturday - soon he'll have his last high school game and graduation is June 2nd. I am reeling with it all! AG you'll be there soon!

Hope everyone is doing great!

[frances]

Thanks. Not sure what I can do about the issue other than figure out what we did wrong so it doesn't happen again. It's not a good situation but you're right, things happen. I feel terrible about it but I'm going to have to power through this because I can't change what happened. It's not the end of the world, but it is a bad mark on my team's reputation and it could potentially affect future business with the group we were working with.

Anyway thanks for the support - I'm OK and managed to get through last night OK. This morning I thought to myself how glad I was that I didn't drink because I would have really felt terrible today if I had!

[actiongirl46]

Hey Frances, uh oh, mistakes happen, I hope you are ok. Good job on the tea. I hate Mondays and especially Mondays that are crappy work days. Hang in there.

[frances]

ugh - terrible day at work today. Feeling like crap about screwing up pretty badly. I am going to go make a cup of tea and try to get my head straight.

[frances]

Hi AG - 30 days would be awesome - It's those first few weeks that are the hardest - but so worth it! you've probably seen all of the resources here including the toolbox, which has great ideas for staying AF. It sounds from your posts like you have an active social life - maybe it would be worth cutting back on some of the socializing for a little while to help? Good luck and stay close :happy2:

[actiongirl46]

Thanks Frances! Wow, what a busy and talented family. That will be so cool if they play in college. It will give you a great excuse to visit!

My son was on a little league team last year with some obnoxious parents. Luckily, they are not on our team this year. Its embarrassing and horrible for the kids to see/hear!

I am really tired today. I think I may have picked up a cold. A good day to take it easy. I'm going to work on my May plan - I'd love to get 30 days . . . why is this so hard??!!! ugh.

[frances]

Hi AG - I think the softball game made me think about drinking because I got so worked up during the game because it was so close and I just do that...I guess I'm pretty competitive. So I think my instinct was to want a drink to calm down - even up to an hour afterward I felt amped up. But it doesn't always happen that way - I think it was just because it was so close and a 'big' game with a rival school - lots of friends and their families there, so that might have been part of it too - it was a fun atmosphere. But I think most of the desire to drink was to just settle myself down.

We don't have parents who lose it - well, I guess it depends on your definition of lose it - but many of us are really into the games.

You're right that these kids will not go pro but for mine it is their biggest hobby and they really get into it. My son will play in college and he's very good but currently having a bit of a batting slump so my heart is going out to him. Each game (another one today!) I'm hoping he'll get out of it. And my daughter is also very good and wants to play in college so we're just starting to work on getting her in contact with coaches, etc. - it's really a difficult process. But she'll play somewhere unless she has a school she really wants to go to but can't play at - for my son, he applied to 4 schools and got into them all - two of them he had offers to play ball at, and two he didn't, so he chose one where he could play because that was really important to him.

In other news, my daughter is going to a movie with the high school senior I wrote about awhile back. My husband has come around a little (he was staunchly opposed to the idea) and we agreed that we'd rather know what she's doing than have her want to sneak around behind our backs, which I believe was a definite possibility. These kids talk every day by text, and they have a lot in common, and since he's going away to college she says they've both agreed that it doesn't make sense to get too involved now - - so all in all, I'm cautiously optimistic that we won't regret this!

That's my saga for the day :-)

I hope you have a great weekend!!

[actiongirl46]

Hi Frances - I am here and doing well. Yes, I so agree, we just have to keep trying.

Why do you think your daughter's softball makes you think about drinking?? Just curious, no need to respond if I am prying. My son's games used to increase my anxiety, now I just show up and try to watch. Its a little hard, but there are so many parents that are just losing it - why? No need. Probably none of them will go pro.