Newbies Nest

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We had a sunny but chilly day here, nice but still not like real Spring. I guess I just want too much, Lol
Thanks for your words everyone, I truly appreciate them. Checking in here daily only takes a few minutes & has been one of my best tools.

Wags, infections in the elderly can cause lots of unrelated symptoms like your Dad is experiencing. He definitely needs a Geriatric specialist, someone knowledgeable in that area. There’s also Geriatric psychiatrists who can better medicate them when they are acting out & confused. So sorry you are dealing with this, I know it’s hard. Take care of yourself too :hug:

Hello to everyone & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[techie]

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Just a quick hello hoping everyone is well!

[NoSugar]

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Good to see you, Ava. I love waking up to posts by you and Steady and Mr G, written while I was asleep!

Lav, I'm sorry we missed your re-birthday! You are so solidly AF, I think we might take that/you for granted. But none of us should do that for ourselves or one another! It is a commitment that has to be refreshed because so often, the path of least resistance would be to drink. That is the thing that makes me concerned for people who drift away (unless they have another source of reminder and support). Anyway, congratulations and thank you for watching out for all of us here. xx

[available]

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Evening nesters

Mum home and seems back to normal, she has to have a 24 hour heart monitor so dr is organising that. i have applied for home care to see what services are available. dogs are doing well and i think this is the first week in a long time i have not had a trip to the vets or emailed the vets or rang the vets.

Wags, sorry to hear about your dad, i hope you can get the services you need also. Its sad to see them deteriorating. Take care of you also.

Lav, happy 14th sober birthday, that is a wonderful number.

my son and his friend gave up drinking for 2 months and then decided the would be the only people on earth that could modify their drinking. mmm guess what has happened? I am sure if that theory worked we would all be moderating. i am hoping they see how good those last two months were and stop again but apparently i "nag" so i cant say anything. Funny but i dont say anything as i dont want to seem as if i am on my high horse advising on not drinking. My son was talking about going camping and i said i would go as it would be fun without them drinking but i wont be going if they are. No tolerance.

Oh G, not sure if i can do park yoga but hey i can do anything once! it would be lovely to catch up for lunch again with you both and i want to go to "the tree of life" to check out their clothes. Kill two birds with one stone. after easter might be best.

Steady, you are definitely busy too, amazing how sobriety gives us so much freedom to do what we can. I definitely agree on anxiety sober being much more doable. i was taking xanax at the end of my drinking career, just to get to and through work. Not a shit load but i cringe that i blamed work on my anxiety and not drinking.

Battle, keep checking in, being accountable is one of the main tools in sobriety. Even if its to just write one line.

Well bed time here, take care xxx

[STEADFAST]

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Warm greetings, Nesters,

Wags, I'm so sorry for what you're dealing with now. It was very painful witnessing my folks get old, and both had dementia by the time they passed away. I'm sure your Dad takes comfort from your caring. Look after yourself in all this, too.

Congratulations Lavande, on your 14 years of sobriety! Thankyou for all you do here. Long may you live the dream! :heartbeat:

Keeping busy with English tutoring and refugee support at a couple of organisations, socialising, appreciating the autumn weather and talking back to my less productive thoughts (not out loud!)

peace to all,
Steady
x

[wagmor]

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Thanks for all the support and well wishes. I was able to bring my dad home this afternoon, and we're taking things a few hours at a time. He had a pretty bad UTI and was experiencing delirium, which set in extremely suddenly, like in a matter of hours. He's still on a bit of a mental roller coaster but definitely better than 2.5 days ago. The Dr also suspects dementia, which I agree with. Unfortunately he doesn't have a primary care physician so we have to find one and get that whole process started. Sigh, I know several of you are well aware but this whole "parenting an aging parent" is a very difficult chapter in life!

NS - a few other people have mentioned hospice as well. My only experience with them was in the last 6 weeks or so of my mom's life, and they were wonderful - for her AND for the rest of us. I didn't realize until you and my other friends mentioned it that it's now possible to begin hospice before a person reaches that "6 months to live" point. I'm definitely going to look into it.

Lav - huge congrats on your


14 Years!!!

That's so awesome. Your whole life has been better for that decision 14+ years ago and we ALL benefit from it as well.


Hellos and waves everyone. Hope your weeks all wrap up nicely for each and every nester.

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Wags, I’m sorry to hear about your Dad. I know how rough it can be dealing with those situations.
I hope you get all the assistance you need, be sure the hospital social workers are aware of his needs. Thinking of you :hug:

NS, living the dream here too just like you :hyper:

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
I recently passed my 14th AF anniversary on the 26th. A good plan & a solid commitment will take you far, I promise :heartbeat:

Lav

[NoSugar]

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I'm sorry to hear about your dad, Wags. It can be such a rollercoaster. One thing we learned is that a person can be eligible for hospice much sooner than you might expect. The services and support they offer are amazing. My mom's situation was so much improved after hospice was involved and it made my dad's situation as her full-time carer exponentially better. Anyway, I hope he is dismissed today and that you can develop a good support network.

Not much to report here. Just living the dream :haha:. Well, maybe not but without the addiction burden, it all is fine. xx

[wagmor]

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Hi all,

Sorry to miss a few days of posting. We had to take my dad to the ER yesterday morning and he was later admitted to the hospital. It's been a rough couple of days. Hopefully he'll be coming home tomorrow, but that will bring a new set of worries. Fortunately, we've made some good connections with Drs and other healthcare providers that I hope will help us connect with in-home health aides or maybe even a better housing option where he can receive assistance from pros.

Please send good vibes and wish me luck as I navigate these next days and weeks. So glad I'm not even tempted to drink!

I'll read back tomorrow and catch up with all of you.

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

We had a nice sunny first half of the day then the rain & clouds moved in just as promised. The grass is so wet, my shoes are soaked just going back & forth to the chicken house. Not to mention all the muddy chicken feet, haha!!

Steady, I almost had a spring day today Lol
Like you, I am much more content since taking back control of my life. It’s not perfect but I’m not allowing anything or anyone to ruin my peace

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

[STEADFAST]

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Hi Nesters,

NS, "One of the gifts of this experience has been being forced to identify other ways of thinking and being in the world. I'm much more content with the person I am now and am grateful for having been pushed in this direction. I just wish it had not been such a painful process!!"

Yes, this, exactly! "Other ways of thinking and being in the world" - I continue to marvel at the process. It's not easy, but I'm so thankful to be living this way.

Lav, I hope you get the settled, sunny weather you crave, so you can enjoy the garden and your Spring daydream :happy2:

Mulberry, yes, I'm sure that a lot of alcohol and other substance abuse is tied to anxiety and worrying. Being able to "switch the brain off" is vital. Sometimes I want to lift my head off my shoulders and throw it as far away as possible! This was far worse when I was drinking, though.

Hi Nelso. I don't think I remember you, but that's nothing personal, as I was quite fuzzy in the early days of recovery. Welcome back.

Hi Battle, it's good you checked in.

Wags, thanks for your further tech tips. I do tick the 'remember me' button, but clear my cookies so obsessively that that might stop it working. As an aside, I read an article about the "metaverse" in our future yesterday, that made a Luddite like me shake in my boots. If it all gets too much I'll just go off grid & send you messages via pigeon or something.
Hope you got your tax paperwork sorted, good to get that sort of stuff out of the way.

Ava, that would be scary with your Mum. Sorry to hear it, and I hope she's recovering well now. It's good to know that you've stopped working on the weekend, keep that up!! :happy2:

G, great idea. Perhaps Ava can bring Carl & the canine crew, and we can all do our downward dogs before lunch, lol. Happy to see Ava and you when you're both free, no pressure, as you're both busier than me.

Take care everyone, onwards,
Steady
x

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Finally had a nice sunny day. Played around outside as much as possible because the rain returns tomorrow haha!!

Ava, sorry to hear about your Mom. I guess she was lucky to be with you when it happened & not home alone. Sure hope she feels better quickly.
I’m sur eCarl will be thrilled to resume his walks with you. I think you are handling the stress just fine :hug:

Hello to g, Mulburry, Wags & Nelz. Good to see everyone checking in today.
Hello to the rest of the gang & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!

Lav

[NewNelso]

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Saturday greetings Nesters,

We’re stuck in a rainy & chilly weather pattern again. Tomorrow may be better, hope so.

Battle, we missed you for a few days. I hope everything is OK & things settle down for you soon. Take care.

Wags, glad I’m not the only one dealing with this goofy weather. It’s ruining my Spring daydream, haha!
Hope your weekend is at least relaxing!

Hi G

Nelz, you are officially back in the nest. I hope you let us lend a hand if/when it’s needed.

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!

Lav

I shall help in anyway I can

[wagmor]

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I guess the moral of the story is, you can't change the weather but you can change your location!

This is great advice and a nice metaphor for life Mulburry!

Ava - I'm sorry to hear about the emergency with your mom. That's great that people were willing to help. I hope the Drs are able to figure out what was going on and that it's easily resolvable.

Lav, G & Nelso - great to see you


Things are good here. Had a last minute schedule change which gives me the whole day off tomorrow. Woohoo!

[Mulburry]

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Lav - we're having crazy weather swings here right now. It was sunny and warm this morning, but about an hour ago it was snowing and hailing. Totally wacky!

Very similar here today too, was rainy in the morning, then the sun came out around noon so i went for a walk... ten minutes later got caught in a torrential downpour. But I could see a patch of blue sky in the other direction, so I did an about turn, and I ended up spending the better part of two hours zig zagging and walking in circles following the blue sky around (it actually sort of worked, got a pinch of sun, and mostly avoided more showers). I guess the moral of the story is, you can't change the weather but you can change your location!