Newbies Nest

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening/morning all

Still not sleeping but working hard, meeting today went better than expected. I signed up to volunteer at a big music festival this Summer in exchange for a free ticket and food, I'm super excited, a little nervous - not exactly the environment most suited to sobriety, but I was always good at not drinking when seeing live bands, and its something to look forward to.

Sending hugs your way Wags, that's a rough situation

[Lavande]

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Friday evening greetings Nesters,

The rain moved through here now it’s getting chilly again. It’s still winter, like it or not. Grateful to be feeling pretty good at this point.

Wags, i know the pain of watching your parents deteriorate right in front of your eyes. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this now. Have you looked into getting a home health aide to lend a hand? He should qualify for at least a few visits/week. They can help with bathing, dressing, meals, etc & give you a bit of a break. Hang in there, drinking would never ever help this situation:hug:

TJ, it’s so true the support during the early days really makes a huge difference. It helped me knowing that I wasn’t the only one dealing with an Al problem & seeing others ahead of me succeed was great!

Battle, hope you can catch up on some sleep & give your body a chance to heal itself. Treat yourself well, like a best friend you really love

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[wagmor]

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One tired Wags checking in. My 92-y-o dad seems to be mentally deteriorating more rapidly all of a sudden, so I've had a lot on my hands and my mind. I honestly don't know how anybody does this, especially without any other family members to help. My wife is supportive but there's only so much it's fair to ask of her when her own parents are also aging (out of state though, not right here).

I have so many reasons I can't drink. I have lots of reasons I won't drink. There is NO reason *to* drink.

So glad that's off the table cuz this would be even harder with al in the picture.

Take care everyone.

[TJAF]

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Battle, I went back to my first post nearly 10 years ago. The heading was one week down a lifetime to go. I don't know why this time was different but there is a clue in my last paragraph of that first post

. "Last week after a particularly heavy weekend of drinking I had enough. It's been a week and the symptoms have been as tough as ever. I dont get DT's but the anxiety, fatigue, insomnia, stomach cramps et al have been ever present. Folks, those of you with more courage see a doctor!
The cravings come at the same time, 5 pm but they pass quickly, mostly I remember the reason why this time is for real. Part of that determination is the reason why I've posted. I could use the support".

I think the biggest takeaway was the fact that I leaned heavily on this site for support. I know its a cliche but if I could do it then you can do it now. Keep at it. It will stick

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Evening all, or morning really, just, haha. Last night was brutal, day was a little better, hopefully tonight I'll get some kind of sleep, I'm so damn tired haha.

Lav - glad you're feeling better

Steady - The relapse was down to some really heavy life stuff, anything short of a complete collapse in the financial viability of my life plans for the next three years+ and I'm golden, the decision was very conscious, bad admittedly, but I knew what I was doing and I'm paying for it now.

NS - I'm always open to questions, and I'll never be offended by curiosity or honest mistakes

[Lavande]

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Greetings Nesters,

We had sun briefly then the rain arrived. Still pretty mild for an east coast February 60 degrees!
Feeling ‘normal’ so I guess Covid has left the premises. Grateful

Wags, I know you’re cold weather will work it’s way over here, sooner or later haha! Wishing just doesn’t make winter go away.

Steady, good to see you & I hope you’re feeling better now.

NS, I hope your family is better soon. This virus is not fun at all.
I think I was probably still a senior in high school & my husband was in his first year of college when Tower of Power showed up at his school. In other words, it’s been a good long while Lol. Looking forward to the show this weekend.

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[NoSugar]

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I took some time this morning to read some other threads.

Battle, thank you for your explanation of being trans. I find myself tied up in knots even talking about the subject for fear of saying the wrong thing and insulting someone, which is the last thing I want to do. It is great that you are getting yourself back on the track you want to be on. You can do it.

Lav, I saw Tower of Power a few years ago and had a great time - Lucky you!

Hope you feel better, Steady. It is gray and cold here so hot sounds good but I know AUS has been getting some crazy hot temps and I'm sure that's not fun at all.

My nearby family has the situation of dad not very sick but covid +, mom pretty sick but covid -, one son slightly sick and negative, other son just fine. What a weird disease! It is hard to figure out if/when to have contact with any of them.

[STEADFAST]

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Hi everyone

I haven't read back today, but just want to post a hello as I remember I was going to post on the weekend.

Did note, however, that Battle went back to a Day One. [MENTION=24768]Battle_for_the_sun[/MENTION], sorry if this has been mentioned before, but something that helped me a lot was "urge surfing." Control Urges With Urge Surfing.

It's very hot here today - Ava & G will surely agree! - and I'm not feeling well. But just like Arnie, I'll be back!

Steady
x

[wagmor]

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Battle - glad you're back. The only way through is forward, one step at a time.

Lav - you're lucky to have some spring-like weather there. It's below freezing here, although we did have some sunny hours so that was nice to see.


Hope everyone is doing well. Keep on keepin' on!

[Lavande]

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Good evening Nesters,

Definitely feeling more human today
We’re enjoying early spring weather here for a few days but it won’t last. Is it really still February??

Wags, I hope you enjoyed your day off

Battle, glad to see you back here & I really hope you can get back on track very soon. You have a lot of life to look forward to & you might as well do it in a happy & healthy way. Let this be your very last day 1!!!

Hello to all & wishing a safe night in the nest for all!
Lav

[Battle_for_the_sun]

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Afternoon all,

Back to day 1 after a week of disappearing into bad habits, we talked a bit about kindling before - I'm not AF long enough to be hitting issues but painkillerwise this is definitely the sickest I've been, I'm still eating but it's a case of psyching myself up for it each time. Thank god for zoom meetings and being able to claim a broken camera haha. Been keeping up with everyone without posting, hope you're feeling better Lav, waves to all.

[wagmor]

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Quick check-in for me tonight. I had a very long day of teaching and I'm wiped out. Tomorrow is a day off though, and I'm looking forward to that.

Hope you're all doing well and I'll catch you again tomorrow!

[Lavande]

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Happy Valentine’s Day!!

When you’ve been married > 49 1/2 years these days seem unnecessary, haha!! Today my husband said ‘I’ll buy you a card next year’ LOL
Things are improving, feeling more like myself & didn’t have that soul crushing afternoon fatigue, thank goodness

Kensho, good to see you & I’ve been thinking about Pav too. Hope everything is OK with her.

Ne, thanks & yes we’re vaccinated & boosted as well but still got a dose of Covid. I can’t imagine how much worse it would have been without the vaccines.

Mulburry, the. More tools we have in our arsenals the better we are prepared for life’s unexpected twists & turns.

Wags, I like the way you reframed your thoughts. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with a stay-cation in a beautiful part of the country. I’m sure your Dad appreciates your presence as well. Mine lived with us for a long time as well.

Hello to all & wishing everyone a safe night in the nest!
Lav

[wagmor]

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My lighter schedule in the summer will probably just allow for bike rides and day hikes and hanging out on our lovely back deck and working our community garden. No travel probably while my dad is still living with us - can't leave him overnight and there's nobody who could come and stand in for me. Honestly that's a huge bummer but I'm trying not to think about it much or I'll get sad / frustrated or worse. Trying to reframe things positively and have as much adventure right around here as possible. We live in a beautiful part of the world that people travel from all over to see, so I keep thinking about it as the ultimate stay-cation.

Lav - the lethargy sounds rough, and I think almost everyone has at least a bit of that. Hope it passes quickly and that you recover fully soon.

Hellos and waves NE, NS, Kensho, G, and everybody I'm missing. Glad we're all here together!

[Mulburry]

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i'd be at huge risk of reaching for the bottle if an unpleasant life event occurred. Then all bets would be off and game on. It'd be back on the hampster wheel.

I think that would be the big danger for me as well, not having a few sips, but an extremely stressful situation or major negative life event (but I don't think it would make a difference if I hadn't drank in years or not if my headspace was bad enough). But who knows, I haven't encountered that yet luckily so will just have to try to deal when it does occur (because it always does eventually, can't escape it, the cost of living I guess).