~cattleman cafe~ & another 24...

[Jude58]

Slo, sorry that you are having issues with your mother, but keep in mind that having a lot of resentment in your life can often lead to a drink. It's happened to me in the past and it's important to be able to let some things go. Maybe while you're driving her around you can talk to her about how you are feeling. Hope that you get used to your new curtains!

Rava, diamond painting sounds like fun! I occasionally do a paint by number project when I have time. There are some good ones out there and look realistic when they are finished. I also knit a lot which is a good way to keep my hands busy when a craving hits.

Looking forward to another 24 hours of freedom...

[abcowboy]

5:25am in Alberta, I'll have 24 more please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
Jude58 Rava Slo Ginger999 dill

Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

Try not to let your mom get you Slo, sounds like she's not good for your mental health which is a shame.

I can't recall the last time I was in a casino Ginger, but I know it's been many years. I know I'd never be able to handle all the noise and commotion now.

Have a great Saturday y'all!

[Rava]

Good morning Cafe. I just posted a long note which they said I timed out and i lost it all. UGH. Anyway, Slo, I do get it with your mom but agree with the others about transporting her and trying to talk to her and maybe come to an understanding. You will not change her behavior so you must change the way you deal with her. She is not worth drinking over. My mother passed away a little over a year ago and I do not really miss her or all the drama she created. I don’t feel guilty saying that because it just is what it is. Ginger, I am not a gambler either. Thank goodness that is one thing I am not craving. I go to a casino with 20.00 and once it’s gone, I am done. Jude and Dill, I have enclosed a diamond painting picture I completed. It’s hard to see any detail in this picture. Cowboy I hope you get that garage door fixed today now that the weather is a bit warmer. Hope everyone has a good and AF day! 24 more please and thank you.

[Rava]

Dont know if this is any clearer?

[Ginger999]

Rava, they are beautiful! I can see how one could get lost in that activity! My 10 yo gson worked on one for over a year. When he was done, he gave it to me! I'll cherish it forever!

Had another nice visit with the HS girlfriends and their hubbies yesterday. They came our way to see how the gypsies live. Lol Lovely day to sit outside and chat. They saw my puzzle I was working on and wanted to puzzle. Haha.... exciting old people or what?

I hope we all have a wonderful AF day! I'll take another day of freedom!

[dill]

I do knit and crochet, but mostly I distract myself, when necessary, with walking and housework while listening to audiobooks/podcasts.

Rava, thanks for sharing the photos of your projects. They are beautiful! And each one a tribute to your spirit and determination. Definitely a better result than if you had been wasting your time on drinking.

24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.

[Slo]

You are right, Jude, that I have to watch for resentment triggering drinking. My baby brother was Mother’s last victim (to become her scapegoat) in my family of origin, and he is just eaten up with anger, resentment, and pain towards her; and is busy drinking himself to death. So if I am going to choose the sober path, I have to watch the resentment flares.

I will have to be like Rava, and say “She is what she is.” I am sure you don’t miss your mother, Rava. It must be such a relief to be done with all of the drama, favoritism, pot-stirring, gossiping, manipulation, -just all of it that they do.

Ginger, what a great idea to participate in the lunch part, but then enjoy nature and creativity! Like, you do you! I have found over all the years that I dislike gambling and casinos, and am not at all addicted to gambling.

The diamond painting looks a lot like needlepoint to me. Thank you for sharing. I just bought a paint-by-number type of kit, to see if it will be relaxing.

One reason that I do not like the new window treatments is that now I am even more freezing cold in this condo.

Another day of freedom for all of us, please.

[Mulburry]

I mention it here because Rava will get it -she had a NPD-disordered mother too.

Might not be exactly the same having had an NPD father (he passed last year) but i think I can relate a little bit. When he was still at home I had hard time spending more than week there at a time, he would just get on my nerves too much. Thankfully my mother is a saint pretty much, so it's a joy spending time with her (which I've been doing a lot more of these days). I can't say I really consciously blamed my drinking on my dad but it's probably likely that an upbringing with an NPD parent had something to do with that desire to to always want to numb myself. As he became older and more infirm, and ended up in a care home, I found it lot easier to let go of resentment, as he became more an object of pity.

It was -25C (-13F) here yesterday morning and it's -5C (23F) here this morning, I'll take the warmer temps for sure! Supposed to be well above freezing tomorrow so it'll be a good time to change out the opener.

Wow, that's pretty cold, here we're up to 10C now and all the snow is gone. Temps are starting to feel springlike but we're just getting inundated with rain storm after rain storm now, so it hasn't been too pleasant either.

[Jude58]

I need to stop into the cafe later on Sundays so that I can enjoy one of Cowboys fabulous breakfasts. Mr. J has an awesome recipe for buttermilk pancakes that he got from his friends grandmother. I can just picture them on a plate nestled against a side of sausage. Yum!

Happy Sunday morning cafe! 24 more for all of us please...

[dill]

Mmmm, Jude! You've got my appetite going early!

I've been to a casino once. It's definitely not for me. I have a really hard time parting with my money in a game of chance. I'm glad to have dodged that particular addiction. My plate is full as it is!

24 more for all of us here, please and thank you.

[abcowboy]

5:19am in Alberta, 24 for me and everyone else who needs them please, and thanks...

In the last 24 hours, these friends have joined in for 24 hours of wellness:
Jude58 Rava Ginger999 dill Slo Mulburry

Today is going to be a darn good day not to drink!

[abcowboy]

Probably not quite the same Jude, but good anyway...

[abcowboy]

Those diamond art pictures look fantastic Rava, a nice way to spend some time for sure!

I'm no longer Bubba's garage door opener lol, I got the new one installed with very little trouble yesterday, now I just have to program the visor button in her Flex to make it work then she doesn't need the remote that came with it. It was a beautiful day so I did do moose t-bones on the smoker yesterday along with mushrooms and onions and a garden salad with cookies and cream ice cream for dessert.

[Rava]

Good morning and thanks for breakfast. I will take extra sausage with mine today! Going to try my luck today making tacos with the deep fried tortilla bowls. I am going to try frying the tortillas in my electric wok and then molding it upside down over a little soup bowls. I saw it on YouTube. Tried cooking them in the oven and they were terrible. It’s a little too cold for a beach day today so I will stay in and cook and watch my reality shows. Wishing everyone an AF day. 24 more please and thank you.